thank you, next

in this episode, sarah and jalynn reflect on the wild ups and downs of 2020. they share about navigating job changes and mental wellness in a pandemic and social/racial unrest. they also talk about new restful practices in their lives, cats, music, and the freedom and joy in letting go.  

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Sarah's Art: Starlight Studio 

Maverick City Music 

Justice for Breonna Taylor 

Girl Trek’s Black History Bootcamp: Mamie Till-Mobley

in this episode we tackle some biggg topics, including queerness as a political identity, dating while non-binary, creating freedom in relationships, and the connection between white supremacy and heteronormativity. our guest, maia, shares about their experiences and insight from their life as a non-binary, queer person. we hope you enjoy listening to this conversation as much as we enjoyed having it.  

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The Seven Necessary Sins for Women and Girls by Mona Eltahawy  

Audre Lorde

welcome to season 2 of thank you, next! we begin this season with an interview with our friend sam. join us for a conversation about what dating is like for sam as a cisgendered man. we talk about expressing emotions and needs, toxic masculinity, friendships between men, and more. 

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for the love of men by liz plank

We’ve come to the close of our first season! In this last episode, we reflect on the results of our social experiment and mutually agree that dating is exhausting. Sarah deletes her Bumble account (so done) and Jalynn makes hers inactive (guess she’s not as done...). We comment on the validity of discussing our lived experiences, and identify what we want to do moving forward. Trigger warning: rape/rape culture

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Margaret Jacobsen 

Chimamanda Adichi 

For the fifth and final Bumble date of the project, we give you a plot twist–we each go on a date with the same (clueless) guy. Our conversation centers around the lack of diversity in higher education and the vital need for all-black spaces. We also talk about the dangers of judging by appearances.

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Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston 

In our fourth Bumble date debrief, we confront the complexities of discussing our experience with men raised outside the United States.  We talk about the perils of trauma comparison, beauty standards, objectification, and the male gaze. Jalynn shares her struggles in the fashion photography industry and Sarah recounts her journey to say “f it” to bras. 

In this episode, we discuss the dynamics of race in dating relationships, and yes, more white privilege. We call out sexism and the normalization of rape in media. Digging deep into our childhood experiences, we explore gender roles in the home, women’s compensation, the patriarchal Disney culture in the church, and how personality types affect relationships (shout out to Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram).Trigger warning: rape/sexual assault

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https://www.themarysue.com/easy-netflix-rape-culture/ 

We’ve gone on our second Bumble dates and we’re ready to talk! Our conversation centers around the awareness of white privilege with Guys #2. We also discuss valuing the humanity of all people and question the boundaries of political debates in life and work. A plan is put in place to avoid the tendency to self-edit. 

Listen to our first Bumble date debrief! Jalynn admits her false assumptions about Guy #1 prior to the date, and we discuss her deep-seated issues with trusting men. Sarah goes on a pizza date with a man she knows very little about and concludes that she won’t do that again. Conflict ensues when she tries to split the bill. 

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I'm Still Here: Black Privilege in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown

In this episode, we start with the basics. What are our reasons for creating the thank you, next project? Listen and you’ll find out! As we set up our first social experiment by creating Bumble Date profiles, we explore just a few ways that racism and sexism have affected who we are as 20-somethings in the current political and social climate. Trigger warning: rape/sexual assault