We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

Are you the type of person who puts the feelings of others above of your own? Do you want to have a stronger voice when someone suggests something you don’t necessarily want to do? You are not alone! Listen in as we discuss how and why this happens in a non-monogamous lifestyle and what the potential fallout, consequences and sometimes benefits can be!

We explore the perceptions and realities of what, exactly a kiss can mean to those in the lifestyle community. Does granting a kiss commit me to a sexual experience? Why do some couples have a 'no kissing' rule? How do I gain consent to give a kiss? Can giving someone a kiss send the wrong message?

A kiss may sound like a simple thing but it's anything but that to those exploring and experiencing the world of non-monogamy.

Listen in on our live recording from Desire Pearl where our guests discuss their unique perspectives, perceptions and realities of the term 'clothing optional.' Most of us struggle with self-confidence and have body-image issues so the idea of being naked in front of others can cause anxiety and fear. After hearing stories from other 'real people' we can better understand what it's all about and how it can help us discover and grow into our real selves. Being naked is a good thing!

Join Mr & Mrs Jones and they interview "Scott & Kelly." This couple's journey into the lifestyle sounds like many other origin stories but then takes a bit of a turn when a family member shares some unexpected news. In another suprising twist the lifestyle community jumps in for a big assist to help and support them work through an interesting dilemma.

As newbies we started our lifestyle journey looking for people to connect with and then explore sexually. Back then it was all about the excitment, the taboo nature of the lifestyle and a boost to our sex lives. Something we would just keep at arms distance on the very periphery of our lives.

Then we started to meet some of the most amazing humans on the planet. Now we are surrounded by a warm and caring community and some of the best (pants-off and pants-on) lifelong friends a couple can possibly have.

We came for the sexy fun and we stayed for the awesome friendships!

Chris and Nancy share their amazing and unique story of finding the lifestyle through a period of intense emotional exploration after being together for more than 20 years. We've learned that no relationship journey into the lifestyle is the same but we so all experience our own twists and turns. We hope you enjoy listening to them tell their story!

In this bonus episode we sit down with Original Resorts Management to discuss the somewhat bumpy opening of their Grand Miches resorts, their explanation for the back-and-forth change in the clothing optional policy and their vision for expanding in the near future.

Many couples ask about how to 'successfully' navigate a clothing optional resort. How do we find couples like us? How do we socialize with others without them thinking it's an invitation to play? How do we let couples down if we don't want to play? How do we interact with couples the day after we play?

Listen in as we discuss our own experiences and how we see others managing this very common dilemma. 

In advance of our group trip to Temptation Grand Miches in the Dominican Republic we visited the resort to experience it ourselves. Through construction delays, supply chain disruptions, hurricanes and normal growing pains the resort is now open for business! Listen in as we describe what we enjoyed and what we think still needs to be improved upon to bring it up to par with the Desire Pearl and Riviera Maya resorts in Mexico.

We hear story after story about the difficulties many (and mostly newer) couples in the lifestyle experience when encountering 'cliques' while attending events, visiting clubs or attending parties or meet and greets.

Are they really cliques or could it be our perception of others based on things we observe or the feelings we experience at such events? Will they really reject us or ignore us if we have the courage to approach them or could this a predisposed fear of rejection?

Join us as we dig deeper into what cliques really are and how to manage and navigate groups in an unfamiliar and sexually charged environment.

Listen in on our conversation with our friends "J&B 2.0" as they share their particular story of how they discovered and began exploring the lifestyle together! They are funny, smart and very real as they share their experiences in hopes of helping others who may be embarking on a similar journey.

Origin Stories is an interview based podcast format that we will occasionally publish to help you experience the diverse and unique lifestyle journeys of others.

Finding lifestely events and then choosing which event is the best fit for your approach to the lifestyle can be difficult and often confusing. Listen in as we chat with event host Cate from Libertine Events and the Wanderlust Swingers podcast. We'll share insights and answer questions from couples exploring the lifestyle and facing the same challenges.

Listen in as our event guests discuss working through their individual fears, anxieties and challenges at a clothing optional resort during our week together at Desire Pearl Resort just south of Cancun, Mexico.

We sit down with four of our lifestyle friends and share real stories about what it's like to experience hurt feelings during an event and how to dissect, debrief, discover and confront the root cause of the issue.

As much as it hurts sometimes, we discuss why we think it's important to work through the issues together in order to experience personal growth and strengthen our relationships.

We discuss four distinct behaviors we consider to be deal breakers to moving forward and possibly making new lifestyle friends and connecting with potential play partners.

Sharing opinions on politics, religion or other emotionally charged topics Being closed minded or  judgmental toward others Being 'tone deaf,' or not being able to read the room Trying too hard to make something happen

What do you think? What behaviors do you consider to be deal breakers?

Greetings! We are Mr and Mrs Jones and We Gotta Thing! This is the first episode of our podcast and we are so glad you've joined us.  We are fairly new at this and want to share our adventures (the good AND the not so good) with you and hope to be a resource for those curious about what this lifestyle is all about.

Care to join us?

Finding your tribe, making lifelong friends, connecting for sexy playtime and growing your primary relationship are just a few ways to define 'success' in the lifestyle.

Many may mistakenly believe you can just fill out a profile and 'show up' to quickly enjoy these benefits. We have learned that just like in life, you must both put in the hard work over a period of time to experience all the lifestyle has to offer.

Are you ready to put in the hard work? We believe the reward is worth the effort!

New Relationship Energy (NRE) is that sexual buzz we feel when we first meet and connect with a couple or individual. We discuss navigating this heightened state of emotional and sexual feelings by processing it, understanding it, keeping it in perspective and responding to it in a healthy  way.

NRE can feel scary and risky but we believe if it's understood and managed well it can provide a super charged experience and be very meaningful (and a whole lot of fun) for all involved.

As the idea and exploration of consensual non-monogamy continues to grow we have noticed the need for organized community. The different flavors and diverse approaches means that one size does not fit all needs. 

We invited our friends Fin and Emma from the Normalizing Non-monogamy podcast to chat with us about their community and how the four of us see how communites are forming and how to find the one that fits you best.

Here are a few communities to explore:

Catherine (one of our favorite humans) and her team from Expansive Connection join us to discuss how they have created a unique method of coaching non-monogamous people!

Not only do they offer a 'judgment free' zone but they bring their certified credentials and experience in the lifestyle.  Learn more about what an experience will be like with Catherine and Expansive Connection below.

Expansive Connection

Expansive Connection in the We Gotta Thing Community

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Have you experienced lifestyle play partners getting a little upset when you choose to spend time with others? How about hard feelings when one of you seems to be enjoying the lifestyle more than the other?

Some use the term 'jealous' when these things happen but we'd like to dive a little deeper and talk about why we use the the word envy as opposed to jealousy.

This is the most important topic that nobody wants to talk about! Chances are this won't happen to you (as it did us) but we still want to help prepare you just in case...

We reflect back on our experience of being outed and discuss what we've learned (and are still learning) during the process. Yes, it's painful but it's not the end of the world!

Listen in as our guests share their Desire Pearl 2021 snapshots in a recorded-live conversation from the resort! Some are thoughtful and meaningful, some are sexy and others are downright hilarious! Oh, and we share ours as well...

Our new 'What's Your Thing?' sexy and smart card game is now available!

Here is our updated Naughty Stockings list just in time for the holiday shopping season (or any season really)...

This month we discuss why other couples reject us when reaching out from a lifestyle dating site and how to improve our chances of success in the future.

This episode complements our episode 62 "Putting Yourself Out There - Lifestyle Profiles 2.0" and our blog post on the same topic titled "Our First Online Couple Profile."

We discuss the importance of trust from four different angles: trusting your relationship, trusting each other, trusting other couples and trusting who you are becoming in the lifestyle.

Also, I (Mr Jones) share my first ever experience getting waxed...

Group play can be fun but also tricky! In this episode we explore the benefits and pitfalls and share our perspective on how we approach and navigate playing in larger groups.

We also recap our very first Desire Mansion takeover event!

No matter how long you've been in the lifestyle you are going to make mistakes. So we've come up with a few tips to help you minimize those mistakes and make your play experiences more meaningful and fun!

In this episode we discuss how our perceptions change to our reality the more we are exposed to actual events. All of us have pre-lifestyle perceptions, newbie lifestyle perceptions and even veteran lifestyle perceptions that can change- but only if we take a step (or two) forward and try new things.

Blog post mentioned: That One Time in Band Camp

There are perceptions in the lifestyle that a woman must be 'bi-something' to attract and connect with other couples. On the men's side of things there is a double standard and a stigma attached to being 'bi-something' in the lifestyle.

In this episode our goal is to dispel some myths and share our personal views around each in an attempt to provide a safe space for sharing thought provoking conversations in the lifestyle. We believe these conversations must occur for people's minds to be opened and more accepting to those interested in exploring being 'bi-something' in the lifestyle.

Perhaps you have not had your first play experience yet or haven't had one in a very long time due to the current pandemic.

Preparing for that first play experience creates a lot of build up, anticipation and nerves. No matter how that first time goes one can lose sight of the fact that it's only one experience and should not be the benchmark for all future play times in the lifestyle!

Do you struggle with if, when and how to tell other couples you're not interested in meeting? What about after you've played and you've lost interest? What if they ask you why you aren't interested?

What if you are the recipient of a 'let down' message? Do you want to know why or would you rather just move on to the next couple? Does the sting of rejection ever get easier?

We invite you to listen in as we discuss this topic from both sides!

Not only does real life often get in the way of engaging in the lifestyle, but simply staying sexually connected as a couple is a struggle. Add a global pandemic to the mix and you have the perfect storm of events that make this struggle almost impossible to avoid.

In this episode we really don't have solutions to the issue, we simply share where we are in this so that as a couple you know you are not alone.

We believe there are three important components of compatibility that we need to consider when trying to find connections with people in the lifestyle: General Compatibility, Safety & Health Compatibility and Sexual Compatibility.

In this episode we define these components, discuss why they are critical for success and how to know if such compatibility exists when you're meeting new friends.

In this episode we discuss the idea that there is a unique language spoken by those in the swinging lifestyle. We believe this language is comprised of four distinct elements: the language of speaking, the language of listening, the language of the body and the language of behavior.

We also believe becoming fluent in this language will help smooth the pathway forward and help you more easily connect with others.

We talk a lot about all the special friendships we've made in the lifestyle and many of you express frustration over finding the type of connections we describe.

In this episode we offer tips on what it takes to be successful finding and building special relationships with those who will become true friends! 

It's not a secret that engaging in the lifestyle can be expensive! In this episode we discuss budgeting tips for your lifestyle adventures and why we prioritize spending money on us as an investment in our relationship.

Men are programmed through all aspects of life to avoid showing interest in other women. But now we are in this lifestyle where other women expect us to show some interest. This is so confusing! How are us guys supposed to know when you ladies are interested in getting to know us better?

Get out your notepads for this episode as Mrs Jones sets us all straight in the matter...

Before entering the lifestyle or becoming experienced in the lifestyle we never imagined doing some of the things we've actually done and things we've learned about the lifestyle. We share how our perspectives change over time and also share what some of our listeners have to say about their own experiences!

Mentioned: Room 77 Podcast with Richard and Lauren

As we are mired in the current pandemic many of us are being pulled back away from our social and sexual mindsets. When we are concerned about our jobs, our children, our families and our health we need to be deliberate to ensure our relationships and our sexuality is a priority!

We discuss the difficulty of resolving the tension between who we are wired to be as humans and who we are trained to be by society.

Mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown Unlocking Us Podcast Casual Toys store We Gotta Thing website

Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Anxiety are often misunderstood by many in the lifestyle. Numerous couples experience this issue but don't take the time to acknowledge, openly discuss, research and confront the issue head on.

Normally us guys would rather get a prescription for a performance enhancing medicine but never understand and treat the underlying health and psychological issues.

Mr Night returns to give us his professional opinion and we share our views as an experienced lifestyle couple.

As we all focus on staying well during this pandemic we thought it a good time to talk about a few health related issues and how they impact our lifestyle journey.

"Mr Night" is a certified Family Nurse Practitioner of 20 years and is also a certified Bio-identical Hormone Replacement Specialist. He and his wife "Mrs Night" are also in the lifestyle and join us to discuss how diet, exercise, hormones and supplements can be used to proactively manage our health as we age.

Questions for "Mr Night" can be sent to us through our We Gotta Thing website.

To learn more about hormone replacement and how to find a reputable provider visit worldlinkmedical.com

We've all heard the term 'opposites attract' when talking about relationships. Does the same hold true when finding connections in the lifestyle? Do we search for people just like our partners or do we find ourselves attracted to those who are the opposite?

Listen in as we discuss our preferences and what we're still learning about ourselves and each other as we continue to navigate this lifestyle.

Mentioned: Casual Toys USA Transfers Everlywell STI Testing Double Date Nation Kasidie Desire Resorts Discounts

We are all guilty of creating false narratives and making up those stories in our heads as we consider approaching another couple in the lifestyle. Sometimes we don't even give the other couple a chance because we are certain we know the ending of the story! We convince ourselves that they are out of our league, or they won't find us attractive, or they will probably just reject us.

We talk with our friends Andi and Dave from the lifestyle dating site Double Date Nation about how we can all recognize when we begin telling our own story and how to intervene to help create the true story!

In this episode we discuss the issue of 'Kissing and Telling' in the lifestyle. How do you feel about couples sharing personal details about a private play experience? Do you share details with others to include the names of your play partners? Is there ever a good reason to Kiss and Tell? Listen in as we discuss our opinions in the matter!

Listen in on our conversation with a resort full of imperfect but beautiful ladies! The ladies of Desire discuss what they've had to realize and overcome in order to enjoy and grow into the lifestyle. Along the way the are discovering real transformation both in themselves and in relationships with their partners.

We all agree consent is a bedrock principle in the lifestyle but most conversations around this topic focus on verbal consent.  We'll talk about using our words but will also consider two additional dimensions: non-verbal consent (body language) and giving yourself consent.

Topic- Some people are either put off by the term "swinger" or have misperceptions of what it really means today. We've decided to use the term 'Social Sexy' to describe how we view and engage with others in the world of ethical non-monogamy.

Mentioned: Our friend "Ess" is a boudoir photographer. Check him out on Instagram and read his recent blog post on our website!

We discuss identifying red flags in other couples and how to respond when you see them. We also talk about red flags that pop up within your own relationship and how, if left unresolved can lead to you becoming a red flag to other couples. Listen in as we work through one of our own red flags!

When first considering reasons for entering the lifestyle making lifelong friends is not normally the goal. But after getting used to connecting with people and having some sexy playtimes we begin to realize how 'human' our lifestyle friends are and how these friendships are sometimes deeper, more meaningful and more real than any we've had before.

We talk about our pathway to discovering our tribe in the lifestyle and just how special some of these friendships have become!

Discussion topic: We often focus on rules and guidelines "inside the bedroom" but in this episode we discuss what we consider to be the golden rules of the lifestyle outside of the bedroom. The importance of Confidentiality, Respect and Honesty with ourselves and others should seem evident but in a sex-charged environment they can be easily overlooked and forgotten.

Join our conversation with Bomber and The Belle from the Black & Kinky Podcast as we discuss the issue of race in the lifestyle today. As a black couple they share their perspective, experience, opinions and challenges around meeting and connecting with those of a different race.

In this episode we discuss what "chemistry" in the lifestyle means to us and how it's different from attraction.  Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over time? How is chemistry with lifestyle friends different from the chemistry between me and my spouse or partner? Listen in for our answers to these questions and hear a couple of sexy snapshots from us and some listeners!

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In this episode we talk with the creators of the brand new lifestyle website Double Date Nation, Dave and Andi.  The four of us discuss our ideas and share our opinions on how best to create and optimize your lifestyle website profile to be most effective. We also interview them about their new site to find out how it's different from others and why they believe another lifestyle dating site is necessary.

To try Double Date Nation free for three months sign up here and use promo code: WGTPC

Watch Dave and Andi on their YouTube channel: The Celibate Swingers

George has been hosting elaborate and sexy lifestyle events all over the world for 15 years. Since we've attended several and get many questions about these 'mysterious' lifestyle gatherings we thought it best for you to hear directly from George! From Burning Man to Cuba to London, Mexico City, Manhattan Napa and even Washington, DC you're sure to find an event to pique your interest.  Care to join us?

Explore all of George's upcoming events here!

Discussion Topic: In Part 2 of our judgment series we are joined by our "much younger friends" to talk about how age factors in to meeting, connecting and even playing with couples who are much older or younger. We also break down age related stereotypes in the lifestyle. Is age truly just a number?

The New Monogamy- Redefining Your Relationship after Infidelity by Tammy Nelson

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Discussion Topic: We all have experienced being judged.  However, we don't often reflect on how we judge others or why so many people in the lifestyle still tend to judge.  We discuss how we are wired and what influences in our lives may predispose us to our own personal bias when assessing and judging others.

Try Double Date Nation free for three months! Use promo code WGTPC and join us as we help build a brand new lifestyle dating site.

Listen to our friends Jay and Kay from That Couple Next Door podcast.

Less than 5 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019!  Book your trip here.

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Discussion Topic: The swinging lifestyle is a place we go to grow our relationship.  But to experience any kind of personal or relationship growth we must step out of and beyond our comfort zones. Listen as we discuss the topic ourselves and then hear similar thoughts from others in a session we recorded with Swinging Downunder on our latest trip to Desire Pearl Resort in Cancun, Mexico.

Less than 10 rooms remain! Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019!  Book your trip here.

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Discussion Topic: Does being in the lifestyle mean a race to full-swap? Will we find ourselves always wanting more? Why does trying the lifestyle seem like a risk to our relationship? Will we become addicted and always want more?  We discuss the importance of agreeing on "why" you are in the lifestyle and how critical it is to stay on the same page throughout your journey.

Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019!  Book your trip here.

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Discussion Topic: Using Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, we align how those same habits can make you successful as a couple in the swinging lifestyle.

Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019!  Book your trip here.

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Discussion topic: In this episode we catch you all up to date on what we've been going through since we were "outed" as lifestyle podcasters 18 months ago.  Through all the turmoil we lost our "happy place" and share how we've grown and rediscovered each other.  Each person and couple has the freedom to define and then find their happy place in the lifestyle.

Our We Gotta Thing Desire Pearl trip next year we be the week of November 16-23, 2019. Click here to join us!

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Discussion topic: Most agree we'd like to avoid any drama in a lifestyle experience.  But is this a realistic expectation? Is drama such a bad thing? Do we know what drama really is and is not?  How should we handled drama if we encounter it in ourselves or another couple?

Catherine (from episode 41), a licensed professional counselor joins us again and provides answers, insights and tools to help answer these and other questions around drama in the lifestyle!

You can reach Catherine via email at: expansiveconnection@gmail.com

Catherine's website is www.expansiveconnection.com

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Discussion topic: In this episode we discuss the tension between wanting to be discreet yet at the same time wanting to know as much as possible about others. Too much discretion and nobody knows you but being vulnerable is necessary to connect socially to make true friends (with benefits) in the lifestyle.

Join us at our first WGT Regional Meet & Greet on Saturday, October 20 at 8pm in Providence, Rhode Island! Register at Choice Social Club and be sure to put "WGT2018" in the comments section to be included in our group.

Discussion Topic: We share sexy stories from our trip to Desire Pearl and discuss the benefits and drawbacks of sexual play with newbies and veteran couples in the swinging lifestyle. Spoiler alert: we enjoy both!

Mentioned this episode:Join our We Gotta Thing private members only group Listen to our podcast with the Spiritual SwingersDesire Pearl Resort in Cancun, Mexico

Discussion Topic- Whether it's your very first play experience or you've been swinging for years awkward encounters will always be a part of your lifestyle journey. We share some awkward lifestyle moments, discuss why they occur, what (if anything) can be done to avoid them and how to work through them as a couple.  

Visit our website: https://wegottathing.com/ Join our private community: We Gotta Thing Members OnlyJoin KasidieBook your trip to Desire!

Discussion Topic: In this episode we celebrate the milestone of reaching 50 episodes by reflecting on our lifestyle journey thus far. We are learning a lot and having a loads of fun but it's the people we meet and the growth in our relationship that are most valuable.

Care to join us? Our new We Gotta Thing Members Only Subscription Our Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey online course Our new We Gotta Thing website Email: mrjones@wegottathing.com Email: mrsjones@wegottathing.com Follow us on Twitter

Discussion Topic: Mrs Jones is joined live by "C" from the Swinging Downunder podcast to discuss what the two ladies believe men need to know and understand to be successful in the swinging lifestyle.

Mentioned this Episode: The Swinging Downunder podcast Our brand new We Gotta Thing website Our new "Members Only" subscription Our online Lifestyle Course

Discussion Topic In this episode we discuss the difference between being courageous and being confident as you enter and navigate the swinging lifestyle. Many people say "just be confident" and you'll be fine.  But is that enough to be helpful?  We offer tips to help you understand the difference and how being courageous leads to being a more confident person and couple in the swinging lifestyle.  Confidence is sexy!

Discussion Topic- In this episode we discuss how we see the lifestyle bumping up against real life.  Personally we are becoming more "out" as swingers, more and more mainstream media is reporting on swinging and the lifestyle community seems to be growing rapidly.  What does this all mean? Listen in to find out!

Mentioned in this episode: Our online lifestyle course- Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey The Joneses Interview- Leading Questions w/Calvin Moore Podcast Swinger Diaries Interview- The Together Podcast Swinging Downunder Interview- Share a Slice with Sean Podcast GQ Magazine Article: Inside the Clothing-Optional Resort of Your Swinging Dreams Prevention Magazine Article: I Took My Husband to a Clothing Optional Resort and Here's What Happened Maxim Magazine Articles: Welcome to One of the Raunchiest Party Spots on the Planet and Welcome to the World's Kinkiest Cruise Line The Today Show with Megyn Kelly: Are Non-monogamous Relationships on the Rise?

Discussion Topic- Connecting with your play partner while trying to maintain a connection with your own partner is a balancing act many find difficult to achieve.  This month we discuss the challenge of and some helpful tips for staying connected as a couple during playtime with others. Online Lifestyle Course Relaunch- we are excited to announce the following major changes and additions to our course products: Base price reduction on our Community and Premier level courses A new a la carte menu allows you to purchase the individual course   modules of your choice Reserve private video conferencing sessions with Mr and Mrs Jones New $99 mini-courses designed by topic We now also accept payment via PayPal We offer 12 month payment installment options for the Community and Premier courses All products come with access to our private and secure members only forum Explore and purchase at our Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey store!

Discussion Topic- Navigating this lifestyle can be awkward at times, especially when trying to transition from conversation to playtime.  We discuss our experience in this area and share some tips to help couples take the leap to enjoying some sexy fun with others! 

Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live!Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey is now available! Purchase in the month of January 2018 to have a chance to win two free passes to Naughty in N'awlins 2018! For more information and to purchase visit our new course website or send us an email at mrjones@wegottathing.com.

Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live!Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey is now available! We've created 6 modules and over 40 lessons to help you move into the through the lifestyle while having fun, growing your relationship and avoiding the pitfalls and mistakes. For more information and to purchase visit our new course website or send us an email at mrjones@wegottathing.com.

Discussion TopicWe contrast the sexy, fun, respectful, open and honest (for the most part) people we meet in the lifestyle to the current workplace culture of sexual harassment and assault.

Announcing our special projectMrs Jones and I are developing an online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey to be released in December 2017! We've created 6 modules and over 30 lessons to help you move into the through the lifestyle while having fun, growing your relationship and avoiding the pitfalls and mistakes.  For more information please check out our website or send us an email at mrjones@wegottathing.com.

Discussion TopicAs we prepare for our first group trip to Desire, we discuss the seven deadly mistakes to avoid when attending a lifestyle resort, hotel takeover, meet & greet or any other large swinger event.  Why are we experts? Because we've made all seven mistakes ourselves!

Discussion Topic: Setting expectations is something we (and many couples) struggle with in the lifestyle.  With expectations usually comes disappointment.  Disappointment can lead to leaving the lifestyle or stir up negative emotions and feelings about yourselves.  We discuss how we TRY to manage our interactions with others and share some tips we hope will help you do the same. Good luck!

Discussion Topic: Way back on WGT Episode 3 we discussed Mr Jones's struggle with jealousy when we entered the lifestyle. In this episode we welcome Catherine, a licensed professional counselor AND swinger!  She breaks down jealousy: what it is, how to prepare for it, what it feels like, how to identify it, how to work through it and come out of it stronger as a couple.

You can reach Catherine by email at expansiveconnection@gmail.com or on her website: www.expansiveconnection.com

Resources Mentioned:  The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola Numerous books by Brene Brown Vulnerability TED Talk by Brene Brown

Discussion Topic- Many couples approaching the lifestyle consider clothing optional resorts as a first step on their journey.  This episode we tackle some commonly held beliefs and fears regarding clothing optional resort vacations.  Just back from another trip to Desire Pearl, we use our experiences from the week to "bust some myths."

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Keeping up with the Joneses We update you on our new business ventures and Mr Jones makes his request to Mrs Jones for his home office modifications.  We also describe a visit from our Canadian friends, our Southwest friends and our long-time LS friends.

Topic Many people say how intimidated they are by having to flirt with others in the lifestyle.  We break down flirting in society, in the lifestyle, tie it to individual growth and how ultimately it helps our relationship.  If done naturally it's not so difficult!

BONUS: Listen our conversation with C&D from their Swinging Downunder podcast!

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Keeping up with the Joneses We recap the highlights of our experiences at Naughty in N'awlins 2017!  Our WGT Meet & Greet and workshops were amazing, we were runner-ups again at the Annual Lifestyle Awards for Best Lifestyle Podcast.

Discussion topic We hear from many listeners how difficult it is to find that "four-way connection" with other lifestyle couples.  We break down the issue and offer insights into what works and doesn't work for us. Oh, and we share how we screwed up at NiN (the Joneses are not perfect).

A special thanks to Ike Thomas for writing our transition song to snapshots and the ending of our show!  Ike's latest work is an acoustic album with the Irreverent Reverends called "Songs for Andreas" and can be found on iTunes and Spotify.

Visit our website for more information about the Joneses!

Discussion topic: This month we stray from our regular format to talk about being "outed" as podcasters in the lifestyle.  We discuss what happened, how it impacted our lives, how we managed the fallout, what decisions we had to make and how we've decided to move forward.

Snapshots: This month we share two emails from listeners that describe perfectly how we view the lifestyle and why it's so important to us both.

Mentioned this episode: It's time to vote for your favorite lifestyle podcasters.  Cast your ballot at the Annual Lifestyle Awards website!  Also, if you'd like to attend our Naughty in N'awlins Meet & Greet be sure to visit our website and sign up so we can send you the details!

Keeping up with the Joneses "Friends" from out of town drop by for a few sexy encounters and we chat about the half-marathon that almost happened.

Discussion topic We break down lifestyle friendships and what they might look like.  We categorize friendships into four types: Community, Casual, Close and Core to help put some perspective on expectations for making Friends With Benefits in the lifestyle.

Snapshots Mr Jones enjoys watching a friend give Mrs Jones a good tongue lashing on the massage table while Mrs Jones recollects a hot make out session.

Mentioned Please sign up here if you're interested in attending our Meet & Greet at Naughty in N'awlins this summer! Find the "dumb" card game here!

Keeping up with the Joneses This episode we share three explicit experiences, a weekend with some "tried and true" LS friends, an evening with our new Texas friends and (queue the trumpets) our first experience with a single female!  

Discussion topic We discuss how we developed a healthy approach to the lifestyle by 1) setting priorities, 2) staying balanced and 3) keeping a healthy perspective as a couple in the lifestyle.

Snapshots Mr Jones shares an extremely "happy ending" with a new friend and Mrs Jones describes being pushed against a wall from behind while enjoying a sexy view in the mirror...

Mentioned Please sign up here if you're interested in attending our Meet & Greet at Naughty in N'awlins this summer! Mrs Jones recommends visiting the Licor 43 website.

Keeping up with the Joneses This month we catch you up on our date(s) with a "unicorn", an evening in our swinger pad with good friends, a somewhat vanilla work party at our house and a family event.

Discussion topic Mrs Jones recently discovered the lifestyle changed Mr Jones more than herself.  Armed with this revelation she decides to "interview" Mr Jones in order to dig into how men may view the lifestyle experience differently than women.

Snapshots We start off by sharing two newbie "hot tub" snapshots from listeners.  Mr Jones shares a "messy" story with good friends while Mrs Jones tells how she caught herself flirting at a vanilla event while Mr Jones was out of town.

Don't forget to join us at Desire Pearl the week of November 11-18! Visit our website and click through our Desire banner to book your room and join us, the rooms are going fast!

Keeping up with the Joneses This month we catch you up on the sexy weekend we had with a very special couple as the four of us visited the Trapeze Club in Atlanta, Georgia.  Oh, and you'll also want to hear what we put in each other's naughty stockings!

Discussion topic How is it that we can watch each other have sex with other people and not only does it turn us on but it brings us closer?  Many of you have asked this question so we decided to share some tangible things we've experienced that prove to us (and hopefully you) that swinging can improve and already strong relationship.

Snapshots Okay, two naked female bodies and a strap-on.  Need we say more?

Don't forget to join us at Desire Pearl the week of November 11-18!  Visit our website and click through our Desire banner to book your room and join us, the rooms are going fast!

Keeping up with the Joneses Our trip to Desire Pearl is set! Join us the week of November 11-18, 2017 as we bring T&A from The Curious Couple and C&D from the Swinging Downunder podcasts to meet you all for some sexy fun times.  Book on our website through our affiliate link on the page titled "The Joneses Recommend." We also describe what happened at our second house party (note: it was better than the first).

Discussion topic As much as we try to research, learn and discuss everything before stepping into the lifestyle the inevitable mistake(s) will happen to us all.  This time we don't tell you how to avoid the mistakes but rather how to work through them and come out stronger on the other side.  Mistakes will happen to experienced swingers as well as newbies!

Snapshots We recently had a sexy experience with a couple and did something we've never done before: book a hotel room from our dinner table at a restaurant!  Both of us share sexy stories from the evening.

Keeping up with the JonesesOur new website is live! Come take a look at wegottathing.com and let us know what you think.  We also share what sexy things we've been up to this month to include pushing a boundary by playing on the first date, enjoying our "Southwest Friends" again (in a sexy way) and a couple of other dinner dates.   Discussion topic We've received a couple of critical emails lately from listeners who say we "only play with attractive couples" and that the lifestyle environment we describe is "nothing like what we  normally see".  We break down the idea of what attractiveness means to us both, who we are attracted to and how attractive we see ourselves.  Attractiveness is a subjective word and we hope to better explain what it means to us and ask you to do the same.

Snapshots Mr Jones loves the "dirty talk" while Mrs Jones participates in a very sexy triple-blow-job (yes, they do exist)!

Discussion Topic In this bonus episode we discuss an issue that most couples will face, one way or another, during their journey through the lifestyle.  Jay and Kay from "That Couple Next Door" podcast join us to discuss a performance anxiety issue the four of us encountered when playing together.  This issue is pervasive and can be discouraging but fear not, with the right approach: good communication, self-reflection and re-testing it can be resolved for the best!

Keeping up with the Joneses A lifestyle "happy hour" with "sexy" lifestyle friends, an intimate conversation with "new" lifestyle friends and we share some playtime with "old" lifestyle friends, and a very fun evening with some "podcasting" friends.

Discussion topic We made mistakes early in our lifestyle journey by not understanding how to make rules.  We've split "rule making" into two categories: "rules" to protect your relationship and should not be broken and "boundaries" which are more flexible and allow for healthy growth.

Snapshots Two listeners share snapshots about making and breaking rules and boundaries while Mrs Jones and I share two of our sexy encounters from this past month.

Keeping up with the Joneses After a bit of a rant from Mr Jones, we chat about a local date with a new couple that didn't go as well as we would've liked.

Topic We talk about our week in paradise! After 14 months we finally get back to Desire Pearl and talk about meeting some amazing new friends, experiencing some play time with sexy couples and of course a lesson learned (or two).

Snapshots Two sexy stories from a couple we had some fun with at Pearl and two from us as well.

Discussion topic Listen in as we chat at Desire Pearl with Jay and Nathan, an Indian couple from Edmonton, Canada, who were brought together in an arranged marriage.  If you think you know what an arranged marriage is you might want to listen and learn!  They discuss how it all began, the pitfalls and stereotyping they faced and what led them to try the lifestyle after over 20 years of marriage.

Keeping up with the Joneses We share our "creed": who we are, where we are coming from, why we share and the purpose of our podcast.  We also share a sexy tale after a special visit from friends we met at Naughty in N'awlins!

Discussion topic Finally! After months of remodeling our "sex-pad" and preparation we host our first house party.....and an orgy breaks out!  As much fun as it was we had a lot to process about what we enjoyed and what our comfort zones are regarding group sex.

Snapshots Mrs Jones shares a "tattoo'd vision" from our house party and Mr Jones shares a hot (and wet) story about a sexual encounter with Mrs Jones on our sex swing!

Keeping up with the Joneses We discuss our evening with J and K from the That Couple Next Door podcast and we thank you, our listeners for voting for us and making We Gotta Thing a finalist in the Annual Lifestyle Awards ceremony at Naught in N'awlins.

Discussion topic Not much of a lesson in this episode- we talk about all the hot, fun and sexy times we had at Naughty in N'awlins 2016!  Our Meet and Greet was amazing, we met so many lifestyle podcasters, listeners, new swinger friends and reconnected with "old" friends too.

SnapshotsOf course we both share sexy snapshots from NiN!

Contact us Mr Jones's email- mrjones@wegottathing.com Mrs Jones's email- mrsjones@wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com

Music licensed by BMI Me and Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Keeping up with the Joneses Dinner with new friends, hosting new friends in the "Swinger Pad" and a night out with Jay and Kay from That Couple Next Door podcast.

Discussion topic We recap our trip to Temptation Resort in Cancun and discuss our penchant for attracting and helping "newbies" move forward in  the lifestyle.  Connection, confidence and communication!

Snapshots Listeners "M and A" share a sexy story, Mr Jones recounts a happy ending with Tony and Mrs Jones shares a memory from her birthday weekend at Temptation.

Mentioned in this episode That Couple Next Door podcast with Jay and Kay Temptation Resort, Cancun Mexico Lifestyle Awards voting for your favorite podcast!

Contact us Mr Jones's email- mrjones@wegottathing.com Mrs Jones's email- mrsjones@wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com

Music licensed by BMI Me and Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Discussion topicIn this special episode we'd like to share our "single guy" with you all!  We hope that listening to Tony will help couples navigate the single guy experience and help those aspiring single males to better understand how to best position themselves for "success" in the lifestyle.

Snapshots A "three-way" snapshot of our playtime together with Tony!

Contact us Mr Jones's email- mrjones@wegottathing.com Mrs Jones's email- mrsjones@wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com

Music licensed by BMI Me and Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Keeping up with the Joneses Afternoon delight with good friends, Mr and Mrs Jones's reconnection time,  Dan Savage's Humpfest and why you shouldn't drink beer all day before running a half-marathon.

Discussion Topic We talk about when and how to talk to your partner about trying the swinging lifestyle.

Snapshots Mr Jones describes watching the purple double-ended dildo disappear and Mrs Jones shares a naughty look with Mr Jones.

Mentioned in this episode Dan Savage's "Humpfest" The Desire Forum That Couple Next Door podcast

Contact us Mr Jones's email- mrjones@wegottathing.com Mrs Jones's email- mrsjones@wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing Website- wegottathing.com

Music licensed by BMI Me and Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Keeping up with the JonesesA vanilla race weekend, a hot quickie with good friends before vacation, sexy fun with the Sapphic Swingers, a trip to Trapeze Club in Fort Lauderdale and a weekend double-header.

Discussion topic We talk about how our "vanilla cruise" helped us to redefine the lifestyle as a way of living a sexy life full of fun and not just swinging (although that's fun too)!

Snapshots Mrs Jones dancing with a bunch of sexy guys and Mr Jones at a nude beach with three HOT chicks!

Mentioned in this episode The Sapphic Swingers- with Rachel and Tiffany Trapeze Club- Fort Lauderdale

Contact us Email- mrjones@wegottathing.com mrsjones@wegottathing.com Website- wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing

Music licensed by BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Keeping up with the Joneses- another try at a house party, a visit from our Florida friends, single guy #2 and a "shake down" cruise of our new swinger pad.

Discussion Topic- We discuss how we approached understanding and balancing the risks (STIs, pregnancy, our relationship and being found out) with the rewards of entering and progressing through the lifestyle. Snapshots- (Yet) another un-sexy snapshot from Mr Jones but never fear, Mrs Jones heats things back up with a very sexy story!

Mentioned in this episode Centers for Disease Control- educate yourself about sexually transmitted infections.

Contact us Email- wegottathing@gmail.com Website- wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing

Music licenses by BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Keeping up with the Joneses- a visit from mid-west friends, Mrs Jones joins the Vino Ladies and a house party with a communications issue (oops)!

Discussion topic- Do You Know George? We do! We share our experiences at a George event in Miami.

Snapshots- Mr Jones bobbing in the hot tub and Mrs Jones with her single guy....

Mentioned in this episode Do You Know George? Learn about and book his events here. Just For Dinner- A smaller "George" event coming to a city near you! The Game of Lifestyle- we highly recommend this icebreaker card game. Ruti Celli Music- website, iTunes and Facebook

Contact us Email- wegottathing@gmail.com website- wegottathing.com Twitter- @wegottathing

Music licensed by BMI Me & Mrs Jones- Billy Paul

Keeping up with the Joneses- We Gotta Thing-o, Naughty stockings, a birthday double blow job, a trip to Pittsburg, new play friends and your hairdresser said what?

Discussion topic- we talk about the thought process and steps to take in order to move into the through the lifestyle.

Snapshots- two listener snapshots and a couple of hot snippets from our latest playtime!