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Pure Sex Radio tackles the tough subjects of porn and sexual brokenness and offers practical principles for living every day with sexual integrity. PSR seeks to help men, women, and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ. If you have questions or comments regarding the show, or if you have a suggestion for a topic on an upcoming broadcast, please email us at psr@bebroken.org. Or follow us @PureSexRadio.
- 723 - Why Do We Fall? And How Do We Get Back Up?
Why do we fall? This is a deep question and we can’t ever fully answer the “why” questions. But it’s worth the conversation.
In this episode, Stephen and I dive deep into the emotional and spiritual tangles that we all face. We begin by talking about the roots of our emotional programming and then move on to the emotional-spiritual connection and the complexities of stumbling and falling; it’s not just about sin. Emotional maturity is just as vital.
Finally, we aim to provide some practical wisdom for facing emotional pain and the power of community in our healing and recovery journey. Even though we fall, we can get back up!
For daily thoughts to help on this emotional growth journey, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Interconnectedness of emotional and spiritual aspects of human behaviorDevelopment of emotional program in childhood and its influence on adult behaviorCommon disconnect between strong spiritual knowledge and emotional strugglesBiblical concept of sin and falling short of the glory of GodInfluence of parental values and language on emotional program developmentChallenges of navigating relationships and emotions in childhoodRecognizing and addressing unresolved emotional issues in relation to spiritual struggles and addictionsUnderstanding the connection between spiritual and emotional programs for maturity and healingExploring breakdowns in the emotional program and addressing emotional painSeeking community support for emotional healing and maturityMore Resources:
Find a Support GroupGateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveUntangling Emotions* by Groves and SmithRelated Podcasts:
Helping Men Grow and MatureA 7-Day Challenge for Emotional GrowthA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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In this episode, we're hanging out with the dynamic duo, Linda Stewart and Linda Noble, who share their journey and collaborative work in the world of sexual education and theology of the body.
They tell about their work with the Identity Project, aiming to help parents and families chat about sexuality and relationships in a faith-filled, positive way. The Lindas talk about their own lightbulb moments at the Theology of the Body Institute and how they're now passionate about giving parents the tools to paint a beautiful picture of God's design for their kids.
They're all about tackling the big questions and easing those parent jitters with resources like their books and workbooks. It's all about building trust, having heart-to-hearts, and guiding the little ones through life's big topics.
Learn more about the Lindas and their work atIdentityProject.tvandTheConversationWorkshop.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Collaboration of Linda Stewart and Linda Noble in sexual education and theology of the bodyThe Linda's Involvement in the Identity ProjectApproach to educating parents and families about sexuality and relationshipsInitial reluctance to discuss sexuality and the journey to embracing the theology of the bodyTheology of the body as a comprehensive view of sexuality and Christian sexual ethicImportance of understanding God's design for sex in addressing sexual brokennessThe role of parents in teaching children about God's love and their designAddressing the fears and anxieties of parents in discussing sexuality with childrenProviding support and resources for parents to navigate sexuality and relationships with their childrenMore Resources:
Before the Sex Talk* by The LindasHonest Talk* by John FortOur Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher WestRelated Podcasts:
God's Design for Emotional Growth and SexualityHelping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Today’s podcast covers a LOT of territory, including the complexities of masturbation, its connection to our emotional health, and the differences between a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset when it comes to living in victory over sexual sin.
Our guest today is Matt Cline, founder of Restored Ministries. In our conversation, we explore the significant role emotional well-being plays in navigating sexual brokenness. We emphasize the importance of understanding our emotions to discover genuine happiness and connection. We also explore the intriguing concept of scarcity versus abundance in the context of our sexuality. Matt's perspective on how a scarcity mindset can lead to feelings of isolation is eye-opening, and he highlights how adopting an attitude of gratitude can help us perceive our lives more abundantly.
To cap off the conversation, we point listeners to some valuable resources provided by Restored Ministries, including thePure Freedom Communityand thePure Victory Podcast, which offer support to those on this path.
To learn more about Matt and his ministry, visitRestoredMinistries.ca.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Masturbation and its prevalence among menEmotional health and its impact on sexual brokennessScarcity versus abundance mindset in the context of sexual brokennessThe significance of identifying and acknowledging emotionsTransformative experiences of individuals in recognizing and expressing emotionsDetrimental effects of living in a scarcity mindsetEncouragement to shift towards gratitude and thankfulnessResources available through Restored Ministries for support and guidanceImportance of emotional health in the journey towards healing and wholenessMore Resources:
Pure Freedom JourneyGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive49 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts:
Overcoming Shame and Embracing Your True IdentityWhen Shame Gets Real (with Carl Thomas)Are You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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In this episode, we have Andrew Arthur back with us to dive deep into the art of active listening. We chat about the common obstacles we face, like distractions and assumptions, that can disrupt our ability to truly hear others, especially in long-term relationships.
Andrew shares a golden nugget for exceptional listening: asking "What do you need from me right now?" as a way to better support those in emotional need. We even touch on how this skill translates to our spiritual lives, suggesting we quiet our inner chatter to connect with God.
Wrapping up, we leave you with some practical tips to enhance your listening skills.
To learn more about Andrew and his mediation services, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Importance of active listeningRoadblocks to effective communicationRemoving oneself from the center stageAsking "What do you need from me right now?"Providing support and affirmation in times of crisisAssumptions in long-term relationshipsBarriers to good listeningListening to God and spiritual connectionPractical advice for improving listening skillsMore Resources:
Untangling Emotions* by Groves and SmithWords Have Power40 Days to Oneness by Stephen CervantesRelated Podcasts:
Conflict Management for Marriage Healing from BetrayalDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?The Goal is Connecting*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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On today’s episode, Brian Ellsworth shares his personal journey of trauma, addiction, and recovery. Brian is the new executive director of Living Without Lust, which is a fellowship of men desiring to live with sexual integrity.
Brian discusses his challenging past, sobriety-seeking turning points, and healing through an intensive program. He shares how he went from a crippling addiction to now helping other men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. The conversation stresses the significance of addressing underlying pain, seeking help, and the continuous process of recovery.
To learn more about Brian and Living Without Lust, visitLivingWithoutLust.com.
More Resources:
Contact Brian at 904-479-5629Boulder RecoveryGateway to FreedomRelated Podcasts:
A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional GrowthKeys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Sexual BehaviorsHelping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsFri, 12 Apr 2024 - 718 - Understanding Female Sexuality and Struggles
In this episode, we welcome back Ashley Jameson from Pure Desire Ministries. She helps us understand trauma, addiction, and women's struggles with sex and relationships, shining a light on the importance of transforming our worldly views on sexuality.
Ashley candidly highlights the different ways women grapple with their sexuality. Ranging from matters of toxic relationships to fears of intimacy, her insights and personal journey resonate deeply.
Ashley also explores the negative impact of violent sexual acts in fantasies and media content. She emphasizes the urgent need to redefine our perspective of sexuality as a beautiful and valuable gift from God.
As a wrap-up, Ashley speaks on the far-reaching positive impacts of breaking free from sexual shame on all aspects of life, notably parenting and personal relationships. This powerful conversation will invite women dealing with love, sex, and relationship issues to boldly embark on their individual healing journeys.
To learn more about Ashley and the resources mentioned in this episode, visit PureDesire.org.
More Resources:
Unraveled KitCounseling HelpFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:
God's Grace for Women Struggling with Sexual ShameGoing Deeper for Women: How Your Inner Child Affects Your Love and Sex AddictionFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse----------
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The world, especially in the West, is awash in all forms of sexual brokenness and confusion. And much of this brokenness and confusion is present in the Church. How can we help Christians understand God’s design for sex and live it out in our local churches and communities?
Today we have Daniel Weiss back on the program with us to discuss these issues. Daniel is the president of Sexual Integrity Leaders, a ministry dedicated to equipping, supporting, and collaborating with Christian leaders to promote Gospel-centered sexuality in the Church.
Much of our conversation revolves around the Identity Project, a platform containing many teaching videos from multiple leaders in various arenas of expertise regarding biblical sexuality. We talk about why these teachings are important for every Christian, especially topics like the “image of God,” singlehood and sexuality, and how our true identity is rooted in community.
To learn more about Daniel and Sexual Integrity Leaders, visitSexualIntegrityLeaders.com.
To learn more about the Identity Project, visitIdentityProject.tv. Use coupon code:IDPSEXUALINTEGRITY10
More Resources:
Rethinking Sexuality* by Dr. Juli SlatteryOur Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher WestPure Life Academy Courses for LeadersRelated Podcasts:
What is Sexual Discipleship?Being a Single, Sexual ManEmbracing God's Image in Gender*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Addiction recovery is hard work. It is the process of learning to live in a whole new way apart from old, harmful, compulsive patterns. Such transformation doesn’t happen quickly or without help.
Our guest today is Mark Denison. He has been on the program several times before and is the co-founder, with his wife Beth, of There’s Still Hope. He joins us to talk about his newest book,Recovery Rules: 100 Truisms that Will Change Everything. Men often need pithy, wise tips to help them on the long road of recovery.
In our conversation, we highlight several of the truisms, such as:
If you are 90% in, you are 100% out.Addiction isn’t a bad problem, it is a bad solution.If you can stay sober for 20 minutes, you can stay sober.Relapse is not an event, but a process.Don’t commit to a lifetime; commit to a day.Direction trumps destination.If you are looking for some super practical help for your recovery journey, this episode will be very impactful.
To learn more about Mark and his ministry’s resources, visitTheresStillHope.org.
More Resources:
Recovery Rules: 100 Truisms that Will Change Everything*Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:
A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional GrowthThe Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle3 Levels of Sobriety*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Forgiveness is a topic that gets brought up over and over again in the space of healing from betrayal. But before you tune out let me encourage you to stick around for my super practical conversation with Karla Downing on this topic.
Karla is the founder of Change My Relationship and has been on the podcast multiple times to help us think through important relational issues like boundaries and grief. Her many years of experience helping couples in very difficult situations comes out in this interview on forgiveness.
In the episode, Karla gives a robust definition of forgiveness and then walks us througheight practical stepsthat are essential to the process of forgiveness.
To learn more about Karla and her ministry, visitChangeMyRelationship.com.
More Resources:
The 8-Step Forgiveness Process (PDF)30 Days of Blessing (PDF)Healing the Wounds of Your PastRelated Podcasts:
Betrayal Healing PhasesThe 7 Steps of ForgivenessThe Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma----------
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Why is confidence important to recovery from addictive patterns? And how is confidence different from arrogance or pride?
To help us address this topic, we have Dr. Eddie Capparucci back on the program with us. Eddie is certified as a licensed professional counselor and certified in treating sexual and pornography addiction. He has been on the program multiple times to share his expertise and wisdom in the field of addiction recovery.
In our conversation, we discuss what confidence is, the causes and effects of a lack of confidence, what healthy confidence is rooted in, and how to grow in confidence. If you are a man who wants to grow and mature in your recovery, take notes and apply what Eddie shares in this episode.
To learn more about Eddie and his resources, visit InnerChild-SexAddiction.com.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveGoing Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction*Grace-Based Recovery GroupsRelated Podcasts:
Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and EmotionWhat To Do in the Moment of TemptationWhy Men Struggle to Love*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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There are many men and women in the Church who struggle with all forms of sexual brokenness, including same-sex sexual desires. How can Christians love and care for those who want freedom from such besetting sins?
In today’s episode, our guest is Garry Ingraham. Garry is the co-founder of Love and Truth Network, a ministry that equips church leaders in restoring biblical sexuality, community, and identity through personalized leadership training, teaching resources, and experiential growth opportunities for personal transformation and supporting others.
Garry shares his own story of same-sex brokenness and how God drew him out of the dark and into the light. He also shares how God called him into ministry, especially to pastors and helping them with their personal sexual struggles and how to address sexual sin and hope in the local church.
Finally, Garry has a new book entitledAm I Gaywhich highlights his story and how to navigate sexual confusion with the truth of Christ and the community of fellow Christians.
To learn more about Garry, his ministry, and the book, visitLoveandTruthNetwork.com.
More Resources:
Am I Gay book*The Love and Truth Network PodcastFree Confidential CoachingRelated Podcasts:
Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?What To Do When Your Child "Comes Out"How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in Christ*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Why is pornography such a big deal? This is a common question in the culture, but not necessarily one of alarm, but rather questioning why ministries like ours and many others even exist. Is there any real harm to pornography?
To help us answer these questions we have Nick Stumbo back on the program. Nick is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and an author and speaker on sexual issues from a Christian worldview.
In our conversation, Nick shares many of the negative effects of porn: biological, mental, emotional, and relational. We look at the many unhealthy patterns porn promotes, the natural trajectory of tolerance (both individually and culturally), the linkage between human trafficking and porn, and then how to live free from the negative effects of porn.
Finally, Nick shares a new video series resource called Living Undefiled that takes an in-depth look at the topics surrounding pornography and human trafficking.
To learn more about Nick and Pure Desire, visitPureDesire.org.
To get access to the Living Undefiled course, visitLivingUndefiled.com.
More Resources:
Help for MenHelp for Women*NCOSERelated Podcasts:
New Research on Why Women View PornExposing the True Impact of PornKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Xposed is an annual event to help pastors, ministry leaders, counselors, and individuals navigate sensitive sexual issues and equip them to care for their communities regarding God’s design for sex.
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Many men struggle deeply with their godly responsibilities of leadership, especially in the home, because they aren’t even managing themselves very well.
In this episode, Stephen brings a letter from a leader that is meant to be representative of most men who struggle with this internal conflict of leadership calling and poor self-management. This letter addresses issues like:
Dividedness and hypocrisyWearing masks to cover fear and shamePoor or non-existent emotional skillsWeariness and hopelessnessFor any man who can relate to what is shared in this letter, there is hope for transformation. You can become the man and leader God designed you to be.
For helpful resources to enhance your godly manhood and marriage skills, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive49 Days of Growth by Stephen Cervantes*Daily Thoughts from Doctor MarriageRelated Podcasts:
Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and EmotionA 7 Day Challenge for Emotional GrowthAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Sometimes we don’t have a “topic” for the podcast, but instead simply have a conversation with someone with loads of experience and wisdom in sexual struggles and recovery. This is what today’s episode is all about.
Our guest is author and speaker, Nate Larkin. He founded the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility, and recovery.
In our conversation, Nate shares his own story of addiction and recovery. Then we dive into lots of questions that draw on his decades of personal and ministerial wisdom that will prove helpful to any man listening who wants to break free from unwanted sexual behaviors.
To learn more about Nate and his ministry, visitSamsonSociety.com.
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Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveSamson and the Pirate Monks*Find a Samson MeetingRelated Podcasts:
Men Helping Men Grow and MatureThe Importance of "Whole Man" Recovery3 Levels of Sobriety*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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How important is trust to emotional health and building strong, mature relationships? It is vital! Yet, many men we have served in our ministry struggle terribly with trust.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to dig into this important topic of trust through the lens of one man’s story that begins with him not being able to trust his parents with his thoughts and feelings and ends with him finally living a “love plus trust” story.
We will share the distinction between love and trust and how love plus trust takes us even deeper than love alone. We need to learn how to understand trust in its multilayered dimensions if we want to enjoy strong, healthy relationships.
For resources from Stephen to help you grow and mature emotionally, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
More Resources:
40 Days to OnenessGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy*Untangling Emotions by Groves & Smith*Related Podcasts:
Men Helping Men Grow and MatureHealing Steps to Rebuild TrustWhy Men Struggle to Love*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Albert Bandura was a psychologist who is credited with developing the term “human agency,” which refers to how you act, think, and interact with life.
In this episode, Stephen and I will unpack the four functions of agency and how they might help us develop better self-awareness and deeper faith and relationships.
The 4 functions of agency are:
- Intentions (or intentionality)Outcomes (or expectations)Self-regulationSelf-reflection
Agency asks, “Are you paying attention to your own intentions and are you getting better at self-regulating and self-reflecting?’ We hope this conversation will help you understand yourself and others better – and use your agency for good, godly purposes.
To learn more about Albert Bandura and his research, visitAlbertBandura.com.
More Resources:
Untangling Emotions by Groves & Smith*Growth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest & Joy by Stephen Cervantes*APEST Spiritual Gifts TestRelated Podcasts:
Why Must I Learn Me?Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your StoryAbout Your Emotional Connecting Skills*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Every Christian knows that forgiveness is central to salvation and restoration to God. But what does forgiveness look like between us and those who have hurt us?
Our guests today are Bruce and Toni Hebel, founders of Forgiving Forward, a ministry that helps people experience the freedom of the gospel through the power of forgiveness. They share their own journey of learning the hard way how vital forgiveness is to personal character and health, as well as effective ministry to others.
In our conversation, Bruce and Toni define forgiveness, explain why Christ is the only one who can pay the full debt of sin and wounds, expose the roots of unforgiveness, the common obstacles to forgiveness, and ultimately how to forgive in real-life situations of betrayal and pain through 5 key protocols:
- GRATITUDE for God’s forgiveness of me.REPENT of my sin of unforgiveness. WHO do I forgive and for WHAT?FORGIVE each offense from my HEART.Ask God to BLESS them and look for ways to bless them when possible.
To learn more about Bruce and Toni’s ministry and to get their book, visitForgivingForward.com.
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Forgiving Forward book*FAQ: How to ForgiveFAQ: How to Help Others ForgiveRelated Podcasts:
The 7 Steps of ForgivenessBetrayal Healing PhasesGrace to Forgive*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Did you know that 58% of women who struggle with porn were exposed to porn before age 12? Or that 93% of women who struggle with porn never attend a support group? And that 48% of women viewing porn were a victim of sexual abuse?
Our guest today is Crystal Renaud Day, a coach, author, and speaker – and the founder and executive director of SheRecovery.com. She has been a leading voice for women in this space of sexual integrity ministry since 2009.
Recently, Crystal and her ministry conducted research to answer the question “What Drives Women to Porn?” There were over 1300 anonymous female participants, ages 18 to 65+ from 58 countries, who had used or been addicted to pornography in the past or present.
This episode discusses the findings of this research and why this is important to women struggling and those who love them.
To see the research and results, visitSheRecovery.com.
More Resources:
LivingOnPurposeKC.comBeggarsDaughter.comSexual Shame in Women and How to Experience Freedom*Related Podcasts:
Total Freedom for Women Struggling with PornGod's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual ShameFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Lots of men over the years have shared the sentiment of the following statement: “I’m good as long as I can stay out of my own head.” As we have unpacked this idea with the men who have shared this, there have been four key thoughts that typically keep guys from feeling safe within their own minds.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to share these four thoughts. They are:
- ShameOld StoriesCore FearUnhealthy Fantasies
When you can understand how these thoughts operate and how to combat them, you can reclaim that territory in your mind for hope, peace, and joy.
For helpful "daily thoughts" on emotional health and growth, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
More Resources:
Growth Map by Stephen Cervantes*Identity: What Foundation Are You Building On?*Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenRelated Podcasts:
How to Be at Peace in AlonenessOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity50 Things To Do When Your Core Fear Gets Triggered*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Originally Aired on March 7, 2023
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Today’s episode is getting back to the basics of living a life of sexual integrity. Stephen Cervantes and I have been working with men desiring greater integrity for over 20 years, and we know that a life of integrity is not static. You must be on a daily growth mission to mature.
In our conversation, we share some of our personal growth tips and many other insights we have seen that help men get on a growth mission and discover their God-sized purpose in life.
A great next step in your pursuit of greater integrity is our Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. This Friday-Sunday event will help you get down to the roots of your unwanted sexual behaviors and provide practical, powerful direction for living each day with integrity and purpose.
Learn more about Gateway to Freedom and how to register at Bebroken.org/gtf.
More Resources:
FREE Integrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity for MenThe 4 Pillars of PurityRelated Podcasts:
Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors3 Levels of SobrietyInsights and Action Steps for Men----------
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Originally Aired on February 28, 2023
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Sexual betrayal in marriage is more common than most of us would like to admit. But this terrible fracture is not incurable for couples who choose to go on a journey of healing and restoration.
Our guest today is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed professional counselor, ordained minister, professor, and founder of Building Intimate Marriages.
In our conversation, Michael answers questions about the “why” of affairs, the impact of past trauma, the myth of affairs only occurring in “bad” marriages, how to know if restoration is possible, what is required for restoration, and more.
To learn more about Michael and Building Intimate Marriages, visit IntimateMarriage.org.
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Secrets of Sex and Marriage (book)Gateway to Freedom for MenWives Care GroupsRelated Podcasts:
Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalAffair Recovery Through a Trauma LensHelping Husbands and Wives Go All In----------
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Just about every man who has ever entered recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors has wanted a “quick fix” to his addiction. But there are no quick fixes. In fact, true recovery is a years-long process that ultimately leads to deeper emotional growth over a lifetime.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I share a 3-year roadmap of recovery and emotional growth that every man who enters recovery needs to understand and embrace if he wants lasting freedom and lifelong joy. The road of recovery may be long, but it is worth walking it.
To get Stephen’s emotional growth resources for men, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
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Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups40 Days of Purity Online CourseRelated Podcasts:
Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted BehaviorsGrace to PersevereMen Helping Men Grow and Mature----------
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Recovery from any addiction is difficult and there are many stages and layers to the process. It is easy to become overwhelmed and wonder if there is any hope and what the ultimate goal is in recovery.
My guest today is Zach Ellis. He is the Director of New Programs at The Nathan Project, a ministry whose mission is to engage, equip, and encourage Christian families struggling with pornography, sexual brokenness, and addiction.
Zach shares how he got into this space of ministry and some key elements of recovery that are vital for true transformation: freedom, identity, and creativity. He talks of freedom as both a “breaking” and a “building” and how this two-sided aspect of freedom leads to deeper meaning and purpose. He shares of the importance of identity and the value of listening. And, finally, Zach shares some insights around the need for exploring and expressing creativity as part of recovery.
To learn more about The Nathan Project, visitNathanProject.net.
To learn more about Zach and his photography, visitZachEllisPhotography.com.
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Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups1-on-1 Personal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:
Men Helping Men Grow and MatureKeys to Long-Term Freedom From Unwanted BehaviorsThe Importance of Whole Man Recovery----------
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Parenting can feel overwhelming in the best of circumstances. But in today’s world which is awash in all forms of sexual brokenness, it can seem impossible, especially when it comes to the issue of identity.
In today’s episode, our guest is Jordan Young. He is a student ministry pastor at Table Community Church in Hillsboro, Oregon near Portland. He has decades of experience in working with students and the various challenges they face in the culture.
Our conversation focuses on identity and the confusion many students are experiencing and how the gospel of Jesus addresses this with grace and truth. Jordan and their students read through our Identity book over 6 weeks and it made a huge impact on helping the students better understand what identity means and how we all live from a sense of identity, whether true or false – and why identity in Christ is the only source of eternal hope and peace.
You can get your copy of the Identity book by John Fort at Amazon* or our ministry resource page at Bebroken.org/store.
More Resources:
7 Tips to Help You Address Sexual Issues with Your KidsHonest Talk book*Online Courses for FamiliesRelated Podcasts:
Exposing the Gender Lie (with Brandon Showalter)God Made Boys and GirlsHow Identity Shapes Everything*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Infidelity is devastating. For couples who have experienced this deep betrayal of trust, it can be hard to imagine that restoration is possible – and even more difficult to think that they could rebuild their marriage into something better than they ever had before. But this is the story of Steve and Lisa Goldberg’s marriage and ministry.
Steve and Lisa are the founders of Side by Side, a ministry to help couples navigate the “unexpected crash” of betrayal and how to restore and rebuild their marriage.
In today’s episode, Steve and Lisa share their own story of brokenness and healing and the key elements of restoration in their new book entitled The Journey to Stay. They offer a practical message of hope to couples facing the overwhelming difficulty of unfaithfulness.
To learn more about Steve and Lisa and their ministry, visitStaySidebySide.org.
More Resources:
The Journey to StayThe Journey to Stay Guide (free download)Building True Intimacy* by Drake & RaabsmithRelated Podcasts:
Navigating the Revelation of an Affair (Steve & Lisa)Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from BetrayalHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Everyone listening to this podcast right now was once a child. Childhood is unavoidable on the journey to adulthood. But none of us got through our childhoods unscathed. And some of the residue of that continues to affect us now as adults.
Today we have back with us Dr. Eddie Capparucci to talk about his inner child therapy model and a new resource he has co-authored for women who struggle with love and sex addiction. Eddie’s model is based on the premise that we all have core emotional triggers that impact our inner child based on past wounds, and in order for us to heal and mature we must address these triggers by understanding our inner child and not simply ignoring our past.
In our conversation, Eddie defines the inner child model and highlights the 10 specific “inner children” for women to understand in order to heal and recover from love and sex addiction.
To learn more about Eddie and the inner child model, visit AbundantLifeCounselingGA.com.
More Resources:
The Inner Child Recovery ProcessSheRecovery.com*90 Days to Wholeness*The Myth of Normal* by Gabor MateRelated Podcasts:
God's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual ShameThe Immanuel Approach in RecoveryTotal Freedom for Women Struggling with Porn*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Screens are everywhere and, while they are not bad or wrong as a tool, the way we engage them and what we allow on them can be negative. So, how can we build better screen time for ourselves and our families?
Our guest today is Andrea Davis, the founder and CEO of Better Screen Time, which provides strategies and resources for families to think through how to engage technology and screens for better health and balance in life and relationships.
Andrea shares her own story as a parent of 5 kids and some of the challenges and victories they have experienced in working out these strategies in their family. She also shares why cell phone contracts rarely work and better strategies for creating a family tech plan to learn personal responsibility with technology.
To learn more about Andrea and the resources she provides, visitBetterScreenTime.com.
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Better Screen Time ResourcesOnline Courses for FamiliesHonest Talk -- The GameRelated Podcasts:
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Men, I’m really excited to bring you today’s program because Stephen and I are going to provide you with some VERY practical help for understanding how to navigate between logic and emotions – and why engaging emotions is essential for maturity.
Generally, the majority of men we work with in our ministry are very comfortable when communicating logic and solving problems, but very uncomfortable and unfamiliar with communicating emotion. This often results in them becoming stunted or stuck in their relational skills, especially in marriage.
Today, Stephen and I will share with you a story of one man’s journey to get unstuck when it comes to sharing his emotions and the 2-channel system he developed to help with that process. We are hopeful that this conversation will enlighten you and give you the confidence to work on becoming more skilled in emotional sharing and listening.
More Resources:
49 Days of Growth* by Stephen Cervantes40 Days of Training for Your SoulThe 40 Day Relationship Builder* by Stephen CervantesRelated Podcasts:
Why Don't I Connect Better?15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenGuy Thoughts on Emotional Awareness and Maturity----------
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For over 10 years we have helped wives heal from sexual betrayal trauma. One aspect of this healing process that simply should not be overlooked is the need for self-care and simply rest.
Today’s guest is Christy Jones Jackson. She is the founder and director of The Guest House Project, a non-profit ministry that helps women find hope after betrayal. Christy shares some of her own story and how vital it was that in the middle of her failing marriage due to betrayal a friend took her away for a weekend to pray with her, make her eat, give her gifts, read her Scripture, made her laugh, and reminded her who she was. It was a pivotal moment in her journey to healing and planted the seeds for what would eventually become The Guest House Project.
To learn more about Christy and The Guest House Project, visitTheGuestHouseProject.com.
More Resources:
Winter Respite Retreat Feb 22-25Wives Care Online GroupsBlog: Loving Our Bodies After TraumaRelated Podcasts:
Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to HopeHealing, One Brushstroke at a TimeEmbracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal----------
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Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” This idea of helping each other get sharper is so common in our work with men, especially in our Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshops. Guys form a bond that is deep and meaningful.
In this episode, Stephen and I talk about what can men hope to be saying 6-12 months after they have begun their honest journey toward greater integrity. These insights are coming directly from other men who have traveled this journey and what they discovered on the way. The hope is that these men can help other men to press on and finish well.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop10 Lessons for Overcoming Addiction (free download)40 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts:
Men Helping Men Grow and MatureInsights from a Brother in RecoveryFor Men Who Want to Finish Strong----------
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What is the difference between alone and lonely? Is there a healthy aspect to being alone and understanding who you are by yourself?
In today’s episode, Stephen and I dialogue about the topic of aloneness and why we need to be okay with ourselves – by ourselves. We also talk about the difference between aloneness as a healthy thing and isolation as an unhealthy thing.
We explore some questions that help us better understand how to embrace aloneness, such as:
What scares you most about being alone? What does it feel like in your body when you are alone?What could you do that would be healthy when you are alone?It’s okay to be by yourself. We hope this episode helps you navigate this topic with confidence and hope.
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Abba's Child by Brennan ManningIdentity by John FortGrace-Based TransformationRelated Podcasts:
I Love God (Until it Gets Dark)Understanding AlonenessSilencing Your Inner Critic----------
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Childhood sexual abuse is not something that only happens to girls. Boys are victims, too. Most of these boys grow up to be men who find it terribly difficult to talk about these experiences.
In today’s episode, our guest is Dr. James Reeves, founding pastor of City on a Hill Church in Fort Worth, Texas, and the creator of the Fearless Series for women and men. Dr. Reeves shares how he got involved in helping abuse victims and why the church needs to be a safe place for such victims to heal and belong.
The Fearless Series for Men addresses childhood sexual, physical, and emotional abuse men have experienced and the hope possible for not just surviving trauma but finding true healing and fulfillment through the gospel of Jesus Christ.
To learn more about Dr. Reeves and the Fearless series, visitFearlessResources.org.
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Facilitator Training for Fearless SeriesRefuge: How Hospital Church Ministry Can Change Your Church ForeverGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menRelated Podcasts:
Our Born Identity (with Randy & Cynthia Lail)Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamBecoming a Healing Church----------
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Today’s episode may be the most unique program we’ve ever done on our podcast. We are diving into the space of politics and government, and how Christians can engage their local and state elected officials in gospel-centered ways.
Our guest is Daniel Degner. He is the director of the Church Ambassador Network for the Wisconsin Family Council. He is going to help us understand the fallacy of “separation of Church and State” and how we can do amazing ministry at the intersection of our Christian faith and government. This conversation is critical as we look forward to elections in 2024, not to promote a specific political party, but instead to educate and inspire you on how to build relationships with elected officials for the sake of the gospel and the good of your community. It makes a difference that your local government officials know who you are and what you believe about God’s design for sex and life.
If you would like more info about Daniel and how to get involved in the Church Ambassador Network, visitWIFamilyCouncil.org.
Or reach out to Daniel directly at ddegner@wifamilycouncil.org or (920) 204-4447 (he welcomes texts!).
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The Good Citizen by Josh HershbergerThe Daniel ImpactRelated Podcasts:
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When many parents look across the cultural landscape they can become fearful, especially seeing the trajectory of sexual brokenness and confusion. But is there hope in this midst of the fear?
Our guest today, Barb Winters, believes there is. She is the founder of Hopeful Mom and author of the bookSexpectations: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships.
In our conversation, she highlights key principles and practices from her book that will help parents (and any caregivers of young people) know how to talk about sexual topics and struggles with clarity, confidence, and hope.
Our ministry’s director of training, John Fort, even provided an endorsement of this book, saying, “Sexpectationsis a calming voice to parents in the midst of the chaos of trying to talk with older kids about sex… I appreciate how Barb goes beyond just ‘what to say to kids’ but includes work that we need to do as parents throughout this process. Sexpectations is an emotional rock for parents to stand on as they navigate these waters.”
For more information about Barb, her ministry, and the book, visitHopefulMom.net.
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Sexpectations bookFamily Care Learning LabsFamily Care Online CoursesRelated Podcasts:
God's Design for Emotional Growth and SexualityBrain Defense Digital Safety for KidsHow to Talk with Your Kids About Sex----------
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One of our core values in ministry is story. It is often the primary bridge that connects people adrift in brokenness and addiction to the community of recovery and transformation.
In this episode, our guest is Austin Couture, the founder of The Gentle Path Project, which is a place where people can share their stories and be encouraged in their journey to a better life. Austin shares his own story of recovery and growth -- and the challenges he faced and insights he has gained in hopes that it will encourage others to start, or continue, their own pursuit of freedom and joy.
To learn more about Austin and his ministry, visitGentlePathProject.com.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for menIntegrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity online courseRelated Podcasts:
From Jew to Atheist to Sex Addict to Freedom in ChristUnderstanding 4 Key Roles in Your StoryOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity----------
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When a husband betrays his wife’s trust through sexual acting out, this can cause feelings of deep insecurity to arise in a wife – even to the point of feeling unsafe.
In today’s episode, we will discuss the topic of emotional safety in marriage and why this is often befuddling to many husbands (and men in general) and offer a few ideas on how to create safer emotional spaces for the healing and restoration of marriages broken by sexual betrayal. (As a side note, this topic is helpful foranymarriage!)
This conversation was sparked by a conference Stephen went to by Focus on the Family. They built this topic around the book by authors Paul, Burbee, and Arnzen, entitledRestoring Hope: An Integrative Approach to Marital Therapy(link below).
More Resources:
Restoring Hope bookHope Restored Marriage IntensiveDoctorMarriage.orgRelated Podcasts:
The Need for Boundaries After BetrayalHelping Men Understand a Woman's Grief ProcessHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal----------
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I’m so excited about today’s program. I have written a new book that was released this month. It is entitledGrace-Based Transformation: The 3-Stage Journey to Wholeness in Christ.
In this episode, I share what Grace-Based Transformation is and why I wrote this book after 20 years of full-time ministry. It’s really the book I’ve always wanted to write.
We will explore what I call the Transformation Pathway and highlight the three key stages on it: Heal -> Grow -> Share. These form the primary indicators of a Christian’s progress.
So, if you would like greater freedom, deeper joy, and a more effective impact in your life, I invite you to listen in.
To get the book, simply go toAmazon.comor any other online book distributor.
More Resources:
Bebroken.orgGrace-Based RecoveryMade for PurityRelated Podcasts:
How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in ChristHow God Redeems Our Brokenness to Help OthersThe Journey of Transformation----------
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Betrayal in marriage is a trauma. Many wives have struggled to find healing because the help they have received simply didn’t address the trauma.
Today’s guest is Laurie Bryson, a licensed professional counselor who specializes in betrayal trauma healing. She is also certified in Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT) which goes beyond simply “talk therapy” in order to help clients experience deep healing from trauma and other emotional wounds.
In our conversation, Laurie shares what ETT is and how it practically benefits her clients and additional ways to help betrayed wives discover breakthroughs that lead to deep and lasting healing.
To learn more about Laurie and her practice, visitBrysonCounseling.com.
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Hope Rising ConferenceAffairRecovery.comWives Care Groups (online)Related Podcasts:
The Journey of Healing from Betrayal TraumaBetrayal Healing PhasesAffair Recovery Through a Trauma Lens----------
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How did we get to where we are today when it comes to sexual brokenness, confusion, and outright rebellion against God’s design for sex?
In this episode, our guest is Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, who is the founder of the Ruth Institute, an interfaith international coalition to defend the family and build a Civilization of Love.
Our conversation was inspired after I read Dr. Morse’s book,The Sexual State: How Elite Ideologies are Destroying Lives and Why the Church Was Right All Along. In this book, she provides a timeline that breaks down the sexual revolution into its component parts so that people can better understand how we have reached our current period and respond to it with grace and truth.
Dr. Morse shares the three big ideas of the sexual revolution:
- The Contraceptive Ideology – Society should do everything possible to separate sex and babies. The Divorce Ideology – Society should do everything possible to separate both sex and babies from marriage. The Gender Ideology – Men and women are completely interchangeable; the “idea” of self is more important than the body.
To learn more about Dr. Morse and her resources, visitRuthInstitute.org.
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Family Defenders Flash DriveRuth Institute Resource CentersLove Thy Body by Nancy PearceyRelated Podcasts:
The Dr. J ShowExposing the Gender LieHow to Speak Unpopular Truth in Love----------
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Pastors are regular men in a position of great responsibility. They are not immune to sexual temptations. How can the church help pastors recover from sexual sin and strongholds?
In this episode, our guest is Robert Posner. Robert and his wife, Judy, are the founders of 2416 Ministries, a ministry based on Proverbs 24:16, which states, “Though a righteous man falls seven times, he will get up, but the wicked will stumble into ruin.” Robert shares his own story as a pastor who fell into sexual sin and his own journey of recovery and growth.
We also talk about some of the unique challenges that pastors face due to their often isolated and elevated position. And what pastors can do to guard themselves against sexual misconduct, heal from sexual brokenness, and enter safe places for help in breaking free from sexual struggles and strongholds.
To learn more about Robert and his ministry, visit2416ministries.org.
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1-on-1 MentoringGateway to Freedom workshopThe Christian Response to Moral Failure in Church LeadersRelated Podcasts:
Becoming a Healing ChurchRestoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseA Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual Sin----------
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Sometimes it takes a lifetime to gain the deepest riches of wisdom. And yet, in much of the Western world, the aged are considered useless and expendable.
In today’s episode, Stephen shares words of wisdom from an older friend who continues to be on a journey of learning and growth. He offers simple but deep insights into the struggle within, faith in God, the value of humility, the truth of identity, the true treasures of peace and joy, and a fresh desire to pursue a life of integrity and purpose.
No matter your age, this episode will give you encouragement, insight, and hope in your personal pursuit of a life well lived.
More Resources:
Grace-Based Transformation bookIntegrity Webinar for MenWhy Slow Growth is Better than Quick FixesRelated Podcasts:
The Heart Cry of an Old Saint: I Want to Be Clean!Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of LifeSexual Healing and the Grace of God----------
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Over the past 20 years, I have heard countless stories of sexual brokenness. Many of these individuals held these stories in secret for years, even decades. They all believed the lie that no one would love them if their secrets came out. But healing and discovering one’s true identity and worth only exist in the light.
In today’s bonus episode, we have Randy and Cynthia Lail here to share a very powerful story of abuse, addiction, satanic strongholds, infidelity, and the matchless power and grace of Jesus Christ.
If you think no one could understand your brokenness or that you would be utterly rejected if the truth came out, please listen to this episode. There is no one whose story is beyond the reach of God’s rescue and transforming power.
Learn more about Randy and Cynthia and get a copy of their book atOurBornIdentity.org.
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Find a CounselorHelp for MenHelp for WivesRelated Podcasts:
Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamThe Immanuel Approach in RecoverySexual Healing and the Grace of God----------
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For parents today it is difficult and even scary raising children in our hyper-sexualized culture. And there can be many different ways to respond to these challenges and fears.
In today’s episode, John Fort will introduce our 30-week curriculum for families, entitledGod’s Design for Emotional Growth and Sexuality. John is our Director of Training and has developed many of our Family Care resources. This curriculum is designed for families with kids ages 5-18.
If you are a parent desiring to help your child navigate a world awash in sex, this episode will help you gain clarity and confidence.
To learn more about the God’s Design curriculum, visitBebroken.org/store.
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God's Design curriculum outline Honest Talk bookCritical Conversations WebinarRelated Podcasts:
Brain Defense Digital Safety for KidsHow to Talk with Your Kids About SexGod Made Boys and Girls----------
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We learn and grow best in community. This is why we encourage and enjoy feedback from men as they travel along in their transformation journey.
Today’s episode is a collection of honest thoughts and ideas and insights from men who are wanting to break free from unwanted sexual behaviors and live as the men God created them to be.
If you’re a man on a similar journey, we hope and trust that today’s episode will encourage and challenge you to keep pressing on in pursuit of greater integrity and emotional maturity.
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Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop for MenGrowth Map by Stephen CervantesFind a Men's GroupRelated Podcasts:
Why Don't Men Go Deeper?Guy Thoughts on Emotional AwarenessInsights from a Brother in Recovery----------
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Do you live your life with intentionality and purpose or merely as a reaction to your moods or circumstances? How does the answer to this question affect your pursuit of sexual integrity?
My guest today is Michael Warren. He is a land surveyor by trade but has written a book entitled Live Deliberately. In our conversation, we unpack some insights from the book that will help you address wounds and brokenness from your past and live the full, abundant life Jesus offers.
To learn more about Michael and get a copy of his book, visit MWarrenAuthor.com.
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Going Deeper by Eddie CapparucciGrace-Based RecoveryFind a CounselorFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:
Connecting Theology to SexualityHow Does Faith Fit into Recovery?How Do You Know if You are Changing?----------
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Women struggle with porn, too. This is not just a man’s problem. We have known this for quite a while but there are still far fewer resources and environments for women to get help than there are for men.
This is why I’m so glad to have Jessica Harris back on the program today. She has been a pioneer for women seeking safe places and help for breaking free from the stronghold of porn and lust. In our conversation, she shares a bit of her own story, where a woman must start their journey toward wholeness, and practical insights for discovering true fulfillment and freedom in the abundant grace of God.
For more information about Jessica and her resources, visitBeggarsDaughter.com.
More Resources:
Quenched by Jessica HarrisResources for Women Who Struggle with PornSheRecovery.comRelated Podcasts:
Total Freedom for Women Struggling with PornHope and Help for Women Struggling with Unwanted Sexual BehaviorsCan Women Struggle with Porn Too?----------
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My guest today is Brandon Showalter. He is a journalist and podcaster with the Christian Post and has co-authored the excellent ebook, Exposing The Gender Lie, with Dr. Jeff Myers. In his role at the Christian Post, he has written extensively on topics of theological interest in the Church, including developments of the “gender identity” movement and transgender ideology.
In our conversation, we discuss how Brandon got into writing on this topic, some of the history and roots of the current transgender movement, the truth about real gender confusion, the war over language, and how Christians can respond to those struggling with the cultural narrative as well as true gender confusion.
To learn more about Brandon and to get a copy of his book, visit ChristianPost.com/ebook/gender-lie.
More Resources:
DeadNameDocumentary.comSummit.org/protectMinistry to Transgender IndividualsRelated Podcasts:
Embracing God's Image in GenderGeneration Indoctrination: Inside the Transgender BattleCan the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?----------
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What do you do when your child says they are gay or is exploring a gay identity? How can you respond with grace and truth?
In this episode, we have Danisa Suarez back with us. She is a licensed counselor and sex therapist who has a passion for teaching and coaching others on God’s good design for sex. This includes helping parents navigate the difficulty of a child pursuing a gay identity.
If you, or a parent you know, is facing such a challenge, this episode will give you hope and practical ideas.
To learn more about Danisa and her counseling services, visit CCICounseling.com.
More Resources:
What Does the Bible Really Teach About Homosexuality?Embracing the JourneyThe Center for Faith, Sexuality, and GenderRelated Podcasts:
God Made Boys and GirlsExplaining God's Design for Sex to Your KidsEmbracing God's Image in Gender----------
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How can a man who has sexually betrayed his partner understand her grief process and why is this important for the potential restoration of the relationship?
Today’s guest is Karla Downing. Karla has been on the podcast multiple times and provides a wealth of wisdom and practical advice for couples navigating difficult challenges in their relationship. In this episode, she helps men understand the grief process of a woman healing from betrayal trauma by highlighting each stage:
DenialAngerBargainingDepressionAcceptanceHOPEMen, if you want to better love and serve your wife in her healing journey, this podcast will give you practical insights.
To learn more about Karla and her resources for couples, visitChangeMyRelationship.com.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/menBebroken.org/wivesUntangling Emotions by Grove and SmithRelated Podcasts:
The Recovery Process for Couples4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal----------
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Our guest today is Sam Black. Sam is the director of recovery education at CovenantEyes and the author of the new book,The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It.
In our conversation, Sam shares who he wrote this book for (pastors and ministry leaders) and why he wrote it (to help them better understand why people get stuck, why they often stay stuck, and how the church holds the answers for freedom, not just for individuals but for families and leaders, too).
To learn more about Sam and get a copy of the book, visitTheHealingChurch.com.
For a FREE copy of the book, go tohttps://www.signupanywhere.com/signup/hrmupv0t(available to the first 50 people; US addresses only).
More Resources:
The Victory AppSafe by Nick StumboMinistry to Transgender IndividualsRelated Podcasts:
How False Grace is Perpetuating Abuse in the ChurchReframing How the Church Views Sexual PurityCan the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?----------
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“A life unexamined is only half-lived.” -paraphrase of Socrates
We talk all the time in our ministry and on this podcast about men needing to get on a growth mission, especially as it pertains to emotional growth.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I get passionate about helping men grasp why it is important to understand yourself and how to learn yourself in a way that leads to greater peace, joy, and love.
If you feel stuck or confused about how you fit into God’s great design and plan, you will be encouraged by this episode. You are greatly loved and have a great purpose.
More Resources:
Growth Map by Stephen CervantesGateway to Freedom 3-day workshopUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithRelated Podcasts:
15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggle to LoveHow to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature----------
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Conflict is inevitable in marriage. But often couples assume that all conflict is bad or wrong and believe the goal is to eliminate it altogether. But my guest today has a different approach when it comes to conflict in marriage.
His name is Andrew Arthur and he is a mediation specialist with both personal experience and professional expertise in addressing conflict in marriage. In this episode, Andrew helps us to normalize the reality of conflict, gives a simple definition of conflict, how to navigate the needs and interests of both parties in the conflict, and unpacks the 5 specific “conflict styles” and how they intersect in marriage.
If your marriage is struggling with conflict and how to resolve it in constructive ways, this conversation with Andrew will help.
To learn more about Andrew and the mediation services he offers, visitGenesisChristianMediation.com.
More Resources:
Find a CounselorPrepare-Enrich40 Days of OnenessRelated Podcasts:
I'd Rather We Fight than NotHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual BetrayalThe Goal is Connecting----------
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Today’s subject matter is something we rarely like to talk about but is extremely necessary for parents considering the sexualized culture we live in. Our topic is protecting your child from predators.
Our guest is Dr. Beth Robinson, a licensed professional counselor, professor, and certified school counselor with over 25 years of experience in caring for traumatized children and educating parents on how to better protect their children from danger.
In our discussion, Dr. Beth helps parents deal with their fears around this topic, when and how to talk to their kids about sex and safety, how to choose a babysitter, what to do if parents think their child is a victim of sexual abuse, addressing technology, and more.
To learn more about Beth and the resources available to parents who want to better protect their kids, visit KidsCallMeDoc.com.
More Resources:
Protecting Your Child from Predators by Dr. Beth RobinsonThe Safe Touch Coloring BookCritical Conversations Webinar for ParentsRelated Podcasts:
Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital WorldGod Made Boys and GirlsFighting Fears of Talking to Your Kids About Sex----------
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A life of peace and joy and hope is intimately tied to one’s ability to connect well in relationships. And when you have experienced trauma or addiction or shame this skill can seem virtually impossible to imagine.
In today’s episode, Stephen brings a multitude of comments made by men who struggle to connect well in their relationships. We unpack these comments in hopes of helping you gain insight into your own connecting skills and make appropriate tweaks to improve.
More Resources:
Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy40 Days of Training for Your SoulRelated Podcasts:
15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggle to LoveHow to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature----------
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Boundaries are essential after betrayal, but few have any experience of knowing what boundaries to set and how to set them.
In this episode, Tammy Gustafson helps us navigate this delicate but necessary topic. Tammy is a licensed counselor who is passionate about helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, and betrayal.
Boundaries are more than just drawing lines and enforcing consequences when they are crossed. They are about safety, responsibility, self-care, and the building (or rebuilding) of healthy relationships.
To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visitBetrayalHealing.com.
More Resources:
Betrayal Healing CoursesWives Care GroupsFirst 7 Days for WivesRelated Podcasts:
The Why and How of Boundaries in a Recovering MarriageBoundaries for WivesMore Boundaries for Wives----------
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Addiction can be simply defined as a repeated cycle of unhealthy or harmful behaviors that gets worse over time. In order to break free from addiction, recovery must include understanding this cycle and how to respond differently to its triggers.
Today’s guest is Vern Tompke, a 30-year pastor, podcaster, and founder of Band of Brothers, a community of men helping men find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors. Vern has developed what he calls the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle as a tool for helping men understand their addictive cycle and how to respond more quickly when tempted to go down old paths of self-destructive behaviors.
To learn more about Vern and his resources, visitBandofBrothers.care or Vern's Podcasts.
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More Resources:
Finding Traction CourseGateway to Freedom Workshop for MenFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:
Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of LifeExposing the True Impact of PornBreaking Free with Russell Willingham----------
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There is an old saying used in Alcoholics Anonymous, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.” Also, you may have heard of a simple statement to describe insanity: “Doing the same thing over and over, but expecting a different outcome.”
If you want to be free from destructive and unhealthy patterns in your life, change must happen. But how can you know if change is actually occurring?
In today’s episode, Stephen and I will unpack some core principles and practices that will indicate if true change is happening.
More Resources:
40 Days of Purity for MenUntangling EmotionsFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:
Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingHow Do I Know He is Changing? For Men Who Want to Finish Strong----------
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For 20 years our ministry has been helping men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors and pursue a life of integrity and purpose. And most of these men are married – all of whom need lots of growth in the area of emotional health and maturity.
Today, I get to interview Doctor Marriage. You have known him as my cohort and co-host, Stephen Cervantes. But he is a true expert on the topic of marriage and what it takes for husbands, especially, to revolutionize their marriage by focusing on emotional growth.
In this episode, we highlight three of Stephen’s workbook resources to help husbands grow emotionally:
49 Days of Growth: Growing in Emotional SkillsGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy40 Days to Oneness: Start Connecting with Your SpouseTo learn more about these resources and how to buy them, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom workshop for menWives Care GroupsHusbandMaterial.comRelated Podcasts:
About Your Emotional Connecting SkillsAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?----------
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Many Christian leaders struggle silently with various sexual temptations and sin. And too many never get the help they need to heal and grow in their personal sexual integrity.
Today our guest is Jorge Suarez, co-founder of CCI Counseling, a counseling ministry that provides therapy to couples as they overcome infidelity, sexual addiction, a lack of intimacy, betrayal trauma, and intimacy disorders. Jorge especially has a heart for leaders and helping them live out their God-given purpose.
In our conversation, we talk about the four key areas where leaders (and anyone, really) need health in order to thrive:
- EmotionalSpiritualRelationalSexual
If you are a leader or want to help Christian leaders in your life, this conversation will inspire and encourage you toward greater health and wholeness.
To connect with Jorge for further help, visit CCICounseling.com.
More Resources:
Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveThe Christian Response to Moral Failure in the ChurchRelated Podcasts:
Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseA Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual SinPastors on Porn----------
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In the best of circumstances, marriage is hard work. But when a couple has histories of brokenness and unresolved pain, it’s even more challenging.
Today’s guests are Travis and Adelle Graham, founders of The Noble Marriage, a ministry dedicated to helping struggling marriages discover true intimacy.
Travis and Adelle share their broken pasts (even though raised in Christian homes) and how that affected their marriage; how it led them both to build false images about themselves and their relationship. Eventually, their masks were removed in favor of pursuing an authentic relationship with Christ and each other. This is their story and a message of hope for couples wondering if their struggling relationship can be redeemed.
To learn more about Travis and Adelle and their marriage resources, visitTheNobleMarriage.com.
More Resources:
Online Marriage AcademyGenesis Christian Mediation40 Days of Oneness by Stephen Cervantes (paid link)Related Podcasts:
The Recovery Process for CouplesGod, Sex, and Your MarriageRebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual Betrayal----------
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We all have a story. And stories are one of the things we value greatly in our ministry. Why? Because it is through our stories that we connect and discover and learn.
Today’s guest is Neil Getzlow and he has quite a story to tell. He was raised in a Jewish home but eventually left his family tradition in preference of atheism. Along the way, he developed a porn and sex addiction, which made him miserable. Eventually, God chased him down and invited him to stop running and instead find rest and freedom in Christ.
Neil shares his experience of needing to learn how to be alone as a kid, how he was introduced to porn, the effect of his parent’s divorce, and how he came to believe that love and sex were basically the same things. He also shares the radical way in which God broke him out of his secret addiction and led him to a place of truth, grace, and hope.
To learn more about Neil and get his book, visitNeilGetzlow.com.
More Resources:
Unmasked (book)Unmasked Podcast with NeilBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:
Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted BehaviorsThe Importance of Whole Man RecoveryBecoming the Type of Man Who Doesn't Look at Porn----------
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For couples who want to pursue reconciliation and restoration after sexual betrayal, what does the process of recovery look like?
Today’s guest is Cat Etherington, Director of Recovery at Naked Truth Project. She helps us understand the key principles and practices that allow for the best possible results for couples wanting to heal and grow after betrayal.
There is hope for recovery in your marriage.
To learn more about Cat and her work and resources, visithttp://NakedTruthProject.com.
Retreats by Naked Truth Project:
US Grief retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-retreat-TexasUS Couples retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/couples-retreat-texasAustralia Grief Retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-grief-retreat-AustraliaPrevious episode (#872) with Cat: The Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma - https://youtu.be/WuUexC7Ucc8
More Resources:
DisclosureHope.comHelp for HusbandsHelp for WivesRelated Podcasts:
Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual BetrayalRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalThe Goal is Connecting----------
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A man recently shared, “I don’t want to live the next 20 years of my life the way I have lived the past 20 years.” This is a man who wants to get on a mission of growth and change.
In today’s episode, Stephen shares the journey of this man who wants to finish better than he started. We unpack many of the fundamental issues and principles that must be examined and worked on if long-term transformation is going to happen.
If you are a man who wants to finish life better than you started it, this episode will give you encouragement and insights to help you experience deep contentment and freedom.
More Resources:
40 Days of Training for Your SoulGateway to Freedom 3-Day WorkshopBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:
8 Comments from Men Struggling to Pursue IntegrityHow Long Does Change Take? Struggling to Come Clean and Find Rest----------
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This is our 900th episode! And it’s such a delight to release this milestone episode on my birthday. I hope it blesses you as much to listen as it did for me to record it.
Today’s episode is getting back to the basics of living a life of sexual integrity. Stephen Cervantes and I have been working with men desiring greater integrity for over 20 years, and we know that a life of integrity is not static. You must be on a daily growth mission to mature.
In our conversation, we share some of our personal growth tips and many other insights we have seen that help men get on a growth mission and discover their God-sized purpose in life.
A great next step in your pursuit of greater integrity is ourGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. This Friday-Sunday event will help you get down to the roots of your unwanted sexual behaviors and provide practical, powerful direction for living each day with integrity and purpose.
Learn more about Gateway to Freedom and how to register atBebroken.org/gtf.
More Resources:
FREE Integrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity for MenThe 4 Pillars of PurityRelated Podcasts:
Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors3 Levels of SobrietyInsights and Action Steps for Men----------
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Sexual betrayal in marriage is more common than most of us would like to admit. But this terrible fracture is not incurable for couples who choose to go on a journey of healing and restoration.
Our guest today is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed professional counselor, ordained minister, professor, and founder of Building Intimate Marriages.
In our conversation, Michael answers questions about the “why” of affairs, the impact of past trauma, the myth of affairs only occurring in “bad” marriages, how to know if restoration is possible, what is required for restoration, and more.
To learn more about Michael and Building Intimate Marriages, visit IntimateMarriage.org.
More Resources:
Secrets of Sex and Marriage (book)Gateway to Freedom for MenWives Care GroupsRelated Podcasts:
Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalAffair Recovery Through a Trauma LensHelping Husbands and Wives Go All In----------
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Sex education isn’t what it used to be. But the need for good, godly sex education is at an all-time high.
Our guest on today’s program is Kristen Miele. Kristen has been educating youth on the topic of sex for 12 years and is the founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, a training organization that specializes in God-honoring accessible sex ed for children 3 to 18 years old.
In our conversation, Kristen answers questions around the importance of sex education, what needs to be taught in sex ed, how to teach it, and various obstacles that confront parents and kids alike when learning God’s good design for sex.
To learn more about Kristen and their curriculum, visitSexEdReclaimed.com.
More Resources:
Critical Conversations Webinar for Parents7 Tips for Parents (free download)Honest Talk by John FortRelated Podcasts:
Helping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityExplaining God's Design for Sex to Your KidsHoly Sexuality with Dr. Juli Slattery----------
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Everyone has experienced various emotional and mental challenges over the last three years since the Covid-19 pandemic swept the globe. Many men have faced significant mental health struggles as a result.
In today’s bonus episode, our guest is Steve Dulaney. He is a counselor in the Pacific Northwest and the director of Prodigals International, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on helping men, women and families find healing, hope, and redemption from the impact of sexual brokenness.
Our conversation is focusing on all the effects of these mental health challenges men are facing today and what hope there is for better health and relationships.
To learn more about Prodigals and their resources, visitProdigalsInternational.org.
More Resources:
HigherGroundMen.com RestoringHeartsConference.org (for wives)Gateway to FreedomBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:
Understanding Your "Flipped-Out" BrainDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?Healing Your Brain----------
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Everyone has a core fear that gets woven into their soul from childhood. It tends to drive everything, from thoughts to behaviors.
But God created us in His image, and He is love. His Word tells us that “perfect (mature) love drives out fear.” (1 John 4:18) So, how can we move from being fear-driven to being love-driven?
In this episode, we unpack this question and provide insights and tips to understand your fears and respond to them in healthy, redemptive ways that benefit you and your relationships.
More Resources:
Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithGrace-Based Recovery Find a CounselorRelated Podcasts:
Overcoming the Fear that Lives in My Head50 Things to Do When Your Core Fear Gets TriggeredFinding Rest by Speaking Out Your Deepest Fear----------
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What does our sexual sin cost us? Do we take time to evaluate the losses and how they are affecting our lives today?
In this episode, we share a story of a man who had a terrifying nightmare that vividly illustrates what it’s like to be confronted with how evil steals innocence and peace from our inner child. We then explore what this man discovered from this dream and how to respond to your own losses of innocence and peace, and what the journey back to protecting your innocence can look like.
For help with understanding how the inner child impacts sexual acting out, visit InnerChild-SexAddiction.com.
More Resources:
Going Deeper by Dr. Eddie Capparucci40 Days of Purity Online CourseFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:
Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex AddictionUnderstanding Fear and SadnessWhy Your Family of Origin Matters----------
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Why are boundaries necessary for marriage restoration after sexual betrayal? And how does a couple navigate establishing and enforcing such boundaries in a redemptive way?
Today we have back with us Karla Downing to help us answer these important questions. Karla is the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She offers Christian marriage help and Christian relationship help as a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible study teacher. As one who has walked her own path of relationship struggles, she can speak to these matters with both experience and empathy.
In this conversation, Karla defines what boundaries are, why they are necessary to rebuild a broken marriage, how they are enforced, various pitfalls to boundary-setting and boundary-keeping, and what the real “goal” is of restoration.
To learn more about Karla and her relationship resources, visitChangeMyRelationship.com.
More Resources:
Help for HusbandsHelp for WivesGod, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli SlatteryRelated Podcasts:
Helping Wives "Detach with Love" in a Difficult MarriageRecovery Discovery 026: BoundariesGaslighting and Deception----------
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Why does most “accountability” not work in recovery from unwanted behaviors? Is there a better way to engage others in recovery that does work?
My guest today is Chandler Rogers. He is the creator of Relay, an online platform that helps you discover a team of support. It is built on two key principles that are foundational to recovery:
- ConnectionTeamwork
In our conversation, Chandler shares his own story and struggle with porn and the keys to his healing journey. We also talk about the importance of authentic community in recovery and how the Relay app can help in that quest.
To learn more about Relay, visit JoinRelay.app.
More Resources:
Be Broken Support Group NetworkFirst 7 Days for MenIntegrity Webinar for MenRelated Podcasts:
Recovery Discovery 024: Community & Accountability (Part 1: Defining It)Recovery Discovery 025: Community & Accountability (Part 2: Living It)Porn, Technology, and Self-Control----------
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“Most married Christians cannot answer the question, ‘What does God say a good sex life is supposed to look like?’”
This statement is made by our special guest, Dr. Juli Slattery. Juli is an author, speaker, and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to reclaiming God’s design for sexuality.
In our conversation we discuss how Juli answers this question about a good sex life from her latest book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage.
We first cover why there is a disconnect between God and sex, even in the church. Then we unpack the four pillars of a great sex life:
- FaithfulnessIntimate KnowingSacrificial LovePassionate Celebration
To learn more about Juli and her ministry and resources, visitAuthenticIntimacy.com.
More Resources:
Java with Juli podcast40 Days to Oneness devotionalMade for Purity online courseRelated Podcasts:
The EPIC Challenge for a Great MarriageWhat are Your Sexpectations? What is Intimacy?----------
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Is all fighting in marriage bad? Don’t most of us hate conflict and try to avoid it at all costs? What if, however, there is good to be found in conflict and disagreement?
In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to unpack the positive dynamics of fighting in marriage. Discover what anger often means, how conflict is revealing what your spouse truly wants, and how to develop gratitude for the passion of differences.
For helpful resources, visitBebroken.org.
More Resources:
40 Days to Oneness by Stephen CervantesNot All Stress is BadMarriage RestoredRelated Podcasts:
Finding Rest for Your Marriage4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal----------
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Originally Aired on February 22, 2022
In this episode, Stephen and I unpack what we are calling the 3 Levels of Sobriety, especially focusing on the third level. These categories are broken down into 1) real people, 2) media, and 3) thoughts. If that doesn’t quite make sense to you, that’s exactly why you need to listen to this episode.
If you are a man who wants to grow in integrity by digging deep into what goes on between your ears, listen closely because true sobriety goes beyond just eliminating unhealthy behaviors. You must work on your thoughts and this episode will help you with practical ideas for thought sobriety.
A resource that will help you retrain your mind toward a life of sexual integrity is our 40 Days of Purity online course. Learn more and enroll at 40days.PureLifeAcademy.org.
More Resources:
Grace-Based Recovery by Jonathan DaughertyUnwanted by Jay StringerGateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for menRelated Podcasts:
Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingReplacing Escaping and Hiding with Healthy Thoughts & BehaviorsGuy Thoughts on Emotional Awareness and Maturity----------
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Originally Aired on March 8, 2022
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Today’s guest is Matt Cline, the Director of Restored Ministries in Edmonton, Alberta. He is a speaker and coach who considers it an honor to tackle the epidemic of pornography and help individuals and marriages be restored from the destruction caused by sexual sin and shame.
In this episode, Matt shares some of his story and key principles and insights that are proven to lead people from brokenness to wholeness. Our conversation addresses taking a serious view of sin, combating shame, understanding your true identity, and reclaiming a godly perspective on the body.
Learn more about Matt and his ministry’s resources at RestoredMinistries.ca.
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Help for Men: Men.Bebroken.comHelp for Women: Women.Bebroken.comHelp for Families: Family.Bebroken.comRelated Podcasts & Media:
Recovery Discovery: IdentityRecovery Discovery: No More ShameHow Identity Shapes Everything----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 27 Dec 2022 - 647 - How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in Christ
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How does brokenness fit with wholeness in Christ? Are these contradictory or might they be explained as a paradox that actually unlocks the door to experiencing God’s grace and transformative work in our lives?
On today’s episode, I’m flying solo to help unpack this amazing paradox between brokenness and wholeness. I will share three “types” of brokenness and three contexts for wholeness and how this all fits together on our journey of transformation in Christ.
You may download my outline for today’s episode atBebroken.org/paradox.
More Resources:
Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher WestHumility by Andrew MurrayGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:
The Immanuel Approach in RecoveryThe 7 (or More) Pillars of Emotional GrowthWhat Can We Learn from Lust?----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 20 Dec 2022 - 646 - Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom Use
Pastors are not immune to sexual temptations and sexual strongholds. But many pastors feel isolated and “trapped” from reaching out for help with their private sexual struggles.
On today’s episode, we have Mark Denison join us to share with us some key principles from his new book, Broken Vessels, on how pastors can get help to break free from sexual strongholds and even still be used by God for kingdom work.
To learn more about Mark and his ministry, visit TheresStillHope.org.
More Resources:
Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveRecovery MinuteRelated Podcasts:
A Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual SinPastors on PornReframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 13 Dec 2022 - 645 - Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal
Today’s guests are Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. They are the directors of The Raabsmith Team, coaches and therapists that love to help individuals, couples, and families create life-giving change in themselves and in their relationships.
In today’s episode, Matthew and Joanna will help couples understand the ins and outs of rebuilding a healthy marriage after betrayal. There is hope and thriving intimacy is possible even after betrayal. This conversation will be especially beneficial for couples who are wanting restoration.
For more information about Matthew and Joanna and their resources, visitRaabsmithTeam.com.
More Resources:
Intimacy Pyramid Training (virtual workshop)Online Care Groups for WivesFirst 7 Days programs (for men and wives)Related Podcasts:
Affair Recovery Through a Trauma LensRebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual BetrayalHope After Betrayal----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 06 Dec 2022 - 644 - What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?
For nearly two decades we have been inviting men to embark on an emotional growth mission, not merely a sexual purity mission (as good as that is). But what is an emotional growth mission and what are the challenges and possible stumbling blocks to emotional growth?
In this episode, Stephen and I define the emotional growth mission and share over 10 thoughts and ideas that could stunt this mission.
To get started, or keep going, on your emotional growth mission, watch the 7-part Emotional Training for Men webinar series atBebroken.org/etm-webinar.
More Resources:
40 Days of Training for Your SoulUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithFree Integrity Webinar for MenRelated Podcasts:
How to Experience Excellent Emotional ConnectionsEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional SystemDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 29 Nov 2022 - 643 - Exposing the True Impact of Porn
Porn is not victimless. In other words, porn use has consequences that negatively impact the viewer.
This may seem obvious, especially to those who have developed an addiction to porn. But it’s important to state the impact of porn bluntly and clearly in order to help you see it for what it really is: dangerous and harmful.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I will help you see multiple ways in which pornography impacts your life – things like escaping, avoiding relationships, unhealthy fantasy, the pain and difficulty of repairing what you have broken, and more.
For help in overcoming unwanted porn use, visit Bebroken.org.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive40 Days of Purity Online CoursePersonal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:
Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamOutgrowing the Porn PacifierHelping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 22 Nov 2022 - 642 - Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors
Thousands of men over the past 20 years have reached out to our ministry to get help in overcoming unwanted sexual behaviors. Our desire is to help them experience long-term freedom, not merely short-term abstinence. So, what are the keys to long-term freedom from unwanted behaviors?
Our guest is Jason Martinkus. He is the founder and president of Redemptive Living, a coaching and speaking ministry helping men find freedom from sexual integrity issues and marriages find redemption beyond betrayal. Jason has 19 years of personal sexual sobriety; he has walked the walk.
In this episode we talk about key principles of freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors, such as humility, confession, authentic community, and more – principles that are vital for both short-termandlong-term freedom.
To learn more about Jason and his ministry, visitRedemptiveLiving.com.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveIntegrity Webinar for MenGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:
The Freedom Fight with Ted ShimerRecovery Discovery 030: Lifelong LearningThe Last Relapse with Sathiya Sam----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 15 Nov 2022 - 641 - Father-Son Accountability 2.0
The father-son relationship is vital to boys learning how to grow up into manhood. And part of maturing into manhood is understanding sex and sexuality. But how can fathers and sons talk about sex and sexuality?
Our guests today are John and Lucas Fort, the father-son duo who wrote the book Father-Son Accountability: Integrity Through Relationship. They share their story of how they learned to talk about sex and other difficult topics – and offer tips and pitfalls they discovered along the way.
If you are a dad (or son) who wants to gain insights and helpful tools for talking about sex, this podcast will give you confidence to engage such conversations.
To get the Father-Son Accountability book, visit Bebroken.org/store.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/familyFather-Son WebinarHonest Talk by John FortRelated Podcasts:
The Identity of My FatherA Son Talks to His DadWhat to Tell Your Son about Sex----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 08 Nov 2022 - 640 - What Do You Say to Someone Who is Struggling?
Everyone in life has struggled with something. Struggle is part of being human. Here we see it in all forms of sexual brokenness. We have staff and ministry partners who are trained in helping such strugglers.
But what if you wanted to help someone who is struggling? Do you know what to do or what to say? Have you ever given bad advice? Does it scare you when someone shares their pain?
In today’s episode, Stephen and I will share with you some practical things to do and say when someone shares their struggles with you. You don’t need to be an “expert” in order to truly help a struggling friend.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/counselorsUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithBetter Together (blog post)Related Podcasts:
How Do I Help My Wife When She Falls into a "Pit"?The Immanuel Approach in Recovery50 Things to Do When Your Core Fear Gets Triggered----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 01 Nov 2022 - 639 - What's Your Failure and Rejection Management Plan?
Failure is part of life. But how many people have a “Failure and Rejection Management Plan”? I would guess very few.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I will help you examine failure from a new perspective and give you some practical principles for managing failure and rejection in hopeful ways.
More Resources:
First 7 Days programsBy Grace, Failure Turns to Opportunity (blog post)Sex & Anxiety online courseRelated Podcasts:
Understanding Fear and SadnessRecovery Discover 28: Learning from FailureFailure Immunity----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 25 Oct 2022 - 638 - Healing, One Brushstroke at a Time
Today’s guest is Sheila Harkins. Sheila was on the podcast a couple years ago, May 19, 2020, to talk about how to help teens talk about difficult topics. If you’d like to listen to that conversation, it isEpisode 749.
But on today’s episode Sheila is here to talk about her own healing from betrayal trauma and divorce. She shares about the long journey of trying to restore a broken marriage and then the aftermath of divorce – and how painting was instrumental in her healing process.
As healing slowly took root in Sheila’s life she was stirred to share her journey with other wives through her paintings. This resulted in the release of her book,Healing, One Brushstroke at a Time, which contains 42 of Sheila’s paintings along with short reflections to help women heal.
To learn more about Sheila and get a copy of her book, visitSheilaHarkins.com.
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Bebroken.org/WivesOnline Wives Care GroupsPersonal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:
Is There Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to HopeEmbracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 18 Oct 2022 - 637 - Whole Man Recovery (Pt 4): Spiritual
In today’s final episode in our 4-part series on Whole Man Recovery we will explore the Spiritual element.
We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element:
What is the element?What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identityHow does recovery address this element?What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life?Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery. To learn more about Matt and Boulder Recovery, visit BoulderRecovery.com.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/Men40 Days of Purity Online CourseGrace-Based RecoveryRelated Podcasts:
Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamGrowing in Christ10 Biblical Truths to Transform Your Emotional System----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsFri, 14 Oct 2022 - 636 - Whole Man Recovery (Pt 3): Emotional
In today’s episode we will explore the Emotional element of Whole Man Recovery.
We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element:
What is the element?What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identityHow does recovery address this element?What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life?Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery. To learn more about Matt and Boulder Recovery, visit BoulderRecovery.com.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/Men40 Days of Training for Your SoulFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:
15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Need to Practice SadnessEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional System----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsThu, 13 Oct 2022 - 635 - Whole Man Recovery (Pt 2): Physical
In today’s episode with Matt Wenger we will explore the Physical element of Whole Man Recovery.
We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element:
What is the element?What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identityHow does recovery address this element?What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life?Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery. To learn more about Matt and Boulder Recovery, visit BoulderRecovery.com.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/MenNot All Stress is BadFind a Support GroupRelated Podcasts:
How Do You Handle Pain?Recovery Discover 018: Your BrainHealing Your Brain----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsWed, 12 Oct 2022 - 634 - Whole Man Recovery (Pt 1): Intellectual
Earlier this year I had today’s guest, Matt Wenger, Clinical Director of Boulder Recovery, on the program and we touched on the four elements of Whole Man Recovery: Intellectual, Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual. I thought it was so good that we should dedicate four separate podcasts to break down and dig deeper into these four elements.
Today is Part 1 in the series and we will explore the Intellectual element of Whole Man Recovery.
In each part of this series we will attempt to answer the following questions:
What is the element?What effect does it have: On addiction, On relationships, On identityHow does recovery address this element?What might health and wholeness look like for this element in one’s life?To learn more about Matt and Boulder Recovery, visit BoulderRecovery.com.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/MenGateway to Freedom 3-day workshopFalse Intimacy by Dr. Harry SchaumburgRelated Podcasts:
Addict ThinkingAddicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingOne Man's Growing Up Story----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 11 Oct 2022 - 633 - Connecting Theology to Sexuality
What is the connection between theology and sexuality? And why does this matter?
My guest today is Jonathan McLatchie. He is a biologist by training, but also a Christian apologist and founder ofTalkAboutDoubts.com, a website that allows anyone to ask questions about the Christian faith and receive answers from Christian experts in various fields of study.
In our conversation, Jonathan defines theology and then helps us unpack the gospel metaphor that is portrayed in God’s design for sex. We also talk about how a biblical understanding of sex directly impacts our specific sexual sin struggles.
To learn more about Jonathan and see his writings and debates, visitJonathanMcLatchie.com. To submit any question about Christian faith, visitTalkAboutDoubts.com.
More Resources:
Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher WestRethinking Sexuality by Juli SlatteryBibleThinker.org with Mike WingerRelated Podcasts:
Thinking Biblically Youtube ChannelRecovery by the Power of God's WordWhat is Sexual Discipleship----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 04 Oct 2022 - 632 - Embracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal
When a wife discovers that her husband has been unfaithful, it is devastating and life-changing. No woman wants to experience betrayal trauma.
Today’s guest is Debra Wallace, author ofIn His Grace: Embracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal. She shares her personal story of healing from betrayal and how that led to her writing this book for other wives facing a similar path.
If you are a wife who needs hope in what feels like a hopeless situation, Debra has a powerful message for you.
To learn more about Debra and get her book, visitDebraWallace.org.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/WivesWives Care Online GroupsFirst 7 Days for WivesRelated Podcasts:
The Journey of Healing from Betrayal TraumaIs there Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsFri, 30 Sep 2022 - 631 - Why Don't Men Go Deeper?
Every day we are inviting men to embark on a journey of personal growth, especially in the area of emotional growth. This is an essential part of breaking free from unhealthy, unwanted sexual behaviors and pursuing a life of integrity and joy.
On today’s program, Stephen brings lots of statements from men who are stunted on their journey of emotional growth, such as, “I have a good life and I’m stable. Just leave everything alone. Why do I have to keep growing?”
We then offer insights and practical ideas for getting “unstuck” and going deeper to grow in emotional maturity.
For specific help on going deeper emotionally, we encourage you to download our free resource, 40 Days of Training for Your Soul, atBebroken.org/store.
More Resources:
Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithIntegrity Webinar for MenPersonal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:
15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggle to LoveEssential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional System----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 27 Sep 2022 - 630 - Brain Defense Digital Safety for Kids
Kids today of all ages are influenced by sexual messages coming in every direction from screens all around. The most impressionable ages are 7-11. Many parents feel ill-equipped for preparing their children to navigate these topics well.
My guest today is Kristen Jenson. She is the founder of Defend Young Minds and #1 best-selling author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of books. She is also the executive producer of the Brain Defense Digital Safety curriculum, which is what we discuss in this episode.
If you are a parent or grandparent who wants to learn how to arm your kids and grandkids with safe technology habits to protect their growing minds, this conversation will help.
To learn more about Kristen and Defend Young Minds, visitDefendYoungMinds.com. To learn more about the Brain Defense online course, visitBrainDefense.org.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/FamilyOnline Courses at Pure Life AcademyGood Pictures Bad PicturesRelated Podcasts:
Helping Parents Teach Healthy Tech to KidsKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital WorldA Family Game Plan for Responding to Porn----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 20 Sep 2022 - 629 - The Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma
Every day we are helping wives who are experiencing the devastating effects of sexual brokenness and sin. It is always a mess and it is always traumatic.
On today’s program, we have two guests who will help us understand these effects and how a wife can heal. They are Cat Etherington and Cindy Bajema from Naked Truth Recovery.
Key issues we cover in this episode are where to start the healing process, defining trauma, stages of healing, something called “the window of tolerance,” why addressing the whole person is crucial to healing, and what to do if the offending partner doesn’t seek help.
To learn more about Cat and Cindy, and their work and resources, visitNakedTruthRecovery.com.
More Resources:
Whole Hearted - support for partnersWhole Life Recovery ProgramWives Care by Be BrokenRelated Podcasts:
Online Care Groups for WivesHope After BetrayalBetrayal Healing Phases----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 13 Sep 2022 - 628 - Hope and Healing After Abortion
Our guest today is Karin Barbito. She is the Special Projects Coordinator at Support After Abortion, an organization whose mission is to end the demand for abortion through healing people impacted by abortion.
In this episode, Karin shares her own abortion healing story, the connections between sexual brokenness and abortion, the hope of healing after abortion, specific stages of healing, and also how abortion impacts men.
To learn more about Karin and the resources provided by Support After Abortion, visit SupportAfterAbortion.com or call 844-289-4673.
Helpful Resources:
Keys to Hope and Healing bookletsVirtual Support GroupsRelated Podcasts:
Support After Abortion PodcastFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 06 Sep 2022 - 627 - 15 Rules of Emotionally Detached Men
In today’s episode, we unpack a list of 15 rules that emotionally detached men tend to live by, and why it’s important to know this. Here is a sampling of just the first 8 rules:
- I don’t know me, so I can’t know you.I don’t go to deep places, so you shouldn’t go there either. Emotions scare me, so I won’t go there even if you ask. Fear hinders me; I don’t have a healthy outlet for expressing fear.I get defensive and detach in order to make you stop talking or pursuing me.The emotional chaos of a woman is overwhelming; I would get lost in there.My wife has needs I can’t me, so I won’t try.When I don’t know what to do, I’ll just try to fix something.
Dive in with us on this journey to grow and mature emotionally as men so that we can have deep, thriving relationships.
More Resources:
40 Days of Training for Your SoulGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupFind a Support GroupRelated Podcasts:
Why Men Struggle to LoveHow to Know Yourself to Grow and MatureAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 30 Aug 2022 - 626 - Racism and Sexual Brokenness
Today’s guest is Ashley Jameson, the Associate Director of Women’s Groups at Pure Desire, and she has a powerful story and message related to racism and sexual brokenness.
How much is one’s identity shaped by racism and/or sexual brokenness? What kinds of wounds and trauma from racism exist that then effect sexual brokenness?
Ashley shares her story of how all these elements intersected in her life and how much more prevalent they are than we imagine. She also shares a message of hope and good news for those who want to heal – and anyone who wants to help break unhealthy generational patterns.
To learn more about Ashley and her work, visitPureDesire.org.
More Resources:
Be the Bridge by Latasha MorrisonUnwanted by Jay StringerRelated Podcasts:
Sexual Abuse, Sexual Brokenness, and the GospelHow False Grace is Perpetuating Abuse in the ChurchResponding to #MeToo----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 23 Aug 2022 - 625 - The Immanuel Approach in Recovery
Our guest on today’s program is Kristin Cary, co-founder of Living Truth, a ministry dedicated to helping those struggling with sexual brokenness to experience healing and transformation.
In this episode, we focus on the Immanuel Approach and how it can be used to help individuals find deeper healing and a more intimate connection with Christ. This approach uses prayer to invite Jesus into our broken places to experience more joy and peace – and to “turn on” the relational circuits in the brain that have been shut down by trauma.
To learn more about Kristin and her ministry, visitLiving-Truth.org.
Bonus Resources from Living Truth:
Top 10 Tips to Rebuild Your Marriage After betrayal AND The Path to Freedom (ebooks)More Resources:
ImmanuelApproach.comSexual Behavior Self-AssessmentMen in the BattleWomen in the BattleRelated Podcasts:
Immanuel Approach with Dr. Karl Lehman (Part 1)Immanuel Approach with Dr. Karl Lehman (Part 2)Healing Your Brain----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 16 Aug 2022 - 624 - What to Do in the Moment of Temptation
You will be tempted. It is a fact of life. And some of those temptations will be sexual temptations. How can you respond to such temptations with confidence and wisdom?
In today’s episode, Stephen and I are opening the so-called “sexual temptation management toolbox” to share very practical tips for resisting temptation.
So, if you’re a man who wants to improve your ability to respond well to sexual temptation, listen in and take notes!
More Resources:
Men.Bebroken.comWords Have PowerGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupRelated Podcasts & Media:
Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamRecovery Discovery: Resisting TemptationUnderstanding Failure in Recovery----------
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Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donationsTue, 09 Aug 2022 - 623 - Understanding Male Sexuality
Today’s topic is “Understanding Male Sexuality.” Someone once said that male sexuality can be like handing a shotgun to a 12-year-old! So, how are men to manage this powerful, and sometimes unruly, aspect of their being?
In this episode, Stephen and I will highlight the goodness of male sexuality, the power of male sexuality, and how we can manage our sexuality in a way that honors God and blesses others.
More Resources:
Men.Bebroken.com40 Days of Purity Online CourseSexual Integrity Webinar for MenRelated Podcasts:
Men, Men, Men!What is Healthy Masculinity?What is a Sexually Healthy Man?----------
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