The Good Mood Clinic Podcast

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In today's episode Gemma discusses the invisible reasons why so many women find it hard to leave an unhealthy relationship EARLY. Based on her experience and knowledge gained from hearing the stories of hundred's of women, Gemma outlines her top 3 schema-related reasons why women don't exit relationships with partners who shows signs of unavailability, control and or narcissism. Tune in to find out why you may have g...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In today's episode we play an excerpt from a deep dive discussion on the abandonment schema from our monthly membership program, The Schema Circle.We discuss the abandonment schema and fine tune it's origins, what it actually feels like and the many triggers for this schema. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We talk about this so much with our clients. Sometimes spotting red flags isn't the problem, its acting on them for your own best interests. In today's episode we discuss the main reasons why you might ignore red flags when dating. We look at the role of core schemas such as 'abandonment', 'emotional deprivation' and 'defectiveness' and how these schema can negatively influence our decision making. We think you'll en...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!When a schema is triggered, we typically have an urge to respond in 1 of 3 (unhelpful) ways. In this episode Gemma talks about 'over-compensation' as one of those coping style. Over-compensation (also referred to a counter-attack) is one of 3 maladaptive coping styles discussed in schema therapy. Gemma reviews examples of over-compensation behaviours associated with each of the 18 schemas (in the original schema mode...

Dear Therapist, Carer or anyone witnessing the emotional pain & suffering of a client or another person or friend. You are invited to take a breath, stop and notice how you are feeling. Spend 20 minutes doing this compassion-based exercise with Dr Gemma Gladstone as she guides you through a journey of loving-kindness towards both yourself and the person you are choosing to focus on. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they ne...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Parenting Teenagers You'll love this episode if you're looking for tips and clues for parenting your teen or tween.In this episode we discuss a question asked by a member of our Schema Circle. The questions asks how to manage and deal with teenagers when they are being "disrespectful" difficult and or angry and you are in the firing line!How can we be the "Lighthouse" for our teens and give them the love , support and...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Gemma and Justine answer a question from one of their Schema Circle members.The question asks how can we know if our reaction to a break-up is fuelled by an abandonment schema or not? Before getting into this question, Gemma provides a review of the abandonment schema, it's origin and how it tends to play out in romantic relationships.The 3 ways this schema plays out in romantic relationships are (1) - an avoida...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become the...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, we discuss the emotional deprivation schema and how to start to heal this schema from the inside out.This is probably the most common schema - about 50% of people have this schema. It's the one that can be the hardest to recognise because we are often not aware of what we didn't get.Stay tuned to hear us discuss how we start to work with this schema and what you can do in a practical way to start the healing pro...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Are you unsure about the difference between these 2 common schemas.In this bitesize episode we discuss the difference and similarities between these schemas. These schemas are often considered to be 'conditional' schemas in that they develop as a way to cope with and respond to the core schemas - like abandonment for example.CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose lov...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the concept of disorganized attachment style and challenge the inclination to worry excessively about labels.Join us as we delve into the complexities of disorganized attachment and shed light on why understanding it shouldn't be a source of distress.We'll discuss the limitations of categorization and emphasize the importance of focusing on the underlying experiences and emotions that shap...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Talking to a Narcissist? Avoid These 6 Common PitfallsVery often, if you were raised by a narcissist, in adulthood you will more or less fall into the trap of seeking the approval of people who are narcissistic.A narcissists acceptance of you is often conditional – as long as you are the version of you they want to see, then they treat you well, or at least in an acceptable way.In this episode Gemma discusses 6 relational or communica...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Don't you hate this! You'v e had a first great date with someone and then it's all down hill from there. What went wrong? In this episode Justine and Gemma put this issue under the microscope and dissect the anatomy of this all too common and disappointing scenario. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick t...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!TRIGGER WARNING - Intimate partner abuse discussed and some sobering statistics of violence/sexual violence against woman are stated.In today's episode we speak with Psychologist Leanne Nunn who has recently completed her PhD research on The Earliest Warning Signs of Intimate Partner Abuse. Leanne has over twenty five years of experience as a psychologist in the clinical, management and training sectors. ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode we discuss core emotional needs and why they are so important for humans throughout our life. We are born into the world with needs and our emotional, social, physical and psychological well-being depends upon them. Our early care-givers are responsible for meeting our needs and as we grow and develop both ourselves and other people play a role in meeting emotional needs. The needs discussed are:...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Gemma does a solo show talking all about schema triggers and schema activation.Gemma described the trigger chain and how we can break down the components of schema activation - feelings, thoughts, memories, sensations. She describes what action urges are and how they are also part of the schema. She then outlines the 3 different types of coping responses and how we can start to make some behavioural change...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!TRIGGER WARNING - This episode talks about death, dying, grief and breast cancer.In Loving Memory of Astrid von Lojewski-Wilson 16/11/76 - 11/12/19, a beautiful human being, greatly missed every day. In this podcast, Gemma talks about the profound impact of losing a close friend through death. She describes her own experience of grief after the death of her close friend from cancer. Gemma then discusses 5 ways that ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In schema therapy, 'Modes' are a key part of the model. Schema Modes have been defined as moment-to-moment emotional states and coping responses that we all experience. But also, Modes can be understood as 'parts' of self. So modes can be observable to others and/or also a way to conceptualise the idea of multi-selves (ie, that we all have parts of self). Schema modes are activated by triggers (eg, ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode Gemma and Justine discuss 6 strategies for dealing with difficult family relatives over the Christmas and holiday period. Getting together with family for many, can be a stressful and challenging time. There are usually lots of unspoken expectations and sometimes old resentments and old hurts which get activated during this time.Firstly you need to decide on whether you will be attending gatherings with tha...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode Justine & Gemma discuss 4 things you can start working on if you think that you might have narcissistic traits or modes.Typically, if someone tells us they think they are narcissistic, they often are not at all. Most clients who are narcissistic don't present for therapy unless their world is significantly compromised in some way (eg, their spouse splits up with them, they lose their job, they lose friends an...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Dr Gemma Gladstone discusses mindfulness to emotions in this extended podcast lesson. Gemma describes what emotions are and the difference between the 5 basic emotions (anger, fear, sadness, disgust and joy) and more complex emotions such as shame. She discusses why it is so important to acknowledge and experience emotions rather than suppressing, blocking and criticising them. She recaps why the parenting practice o...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode we discuss a question from a listener in our mailbox series. We love getting your emails and questions! The Mailbox: My Partner Had An Affair, What Now?When you find out your partner (who you thought was wonderful) has been unfaithful, this is pretty devastating news to say the least. It's confusing and shocking news, especially if it was completely 100% unexpected. In this episode we address a listen...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode we discuss 3 signs that you may want to firm up your psychological boundaries. The first one is Resentment. Having high levels of long standing resentment is a sign that you have been suppressing your true thoughts and feelings for way too long, perhaps you have been "yes" when you really wanted to say "no". Resentment can be the result of surrendering to your subjugation schema- feeling that yo...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode we discuss 5 things that difficult parents do. We get so many requests to talk about relationships including the adult parent-child relationship. No matter what age you are, you can still find yourself caught up in the emotional forcefield of your family or origin and some interactions can take you straight back to childhood. Ask us a question or suggest a topic by emailing: justineandgemma@goodmood.c...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!This episode is a popular one from a while back. Encore Episode: 22: Coming to terms with narcissistic parents. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membershi...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss the role that schemas play when try to Emotion Coach our kids. We believe that the parenting style of Emotion Coaching (J Gottman), is the gold standard when it comes to emotional attunement and meeting children's emotional needs. BUT, we all have our own schemas as parents, so how can we be our best when we get triggered? Book mentioned:- Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! In this episode we discuss the parenting style of Emotion Coaching (J Gottman). We cover the 5 steps of emotion coaching and discuss how emotion coaching is akin to emotional attunement and helps us to actively meet our children's emotional needs.Book mentioned:- Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman.CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode we are talking about the healthy adult mode in schema therapy. In schema therapy, one of the main aims is to develop and foster this mode. We all have this mode within us to use as a resource - to varying degrees. There are many things we can do to build and strengthen this mode and it increase the qualities of this mode for ourselves. In this episode we take a look at the Healthy Adult Mode in depth, what it is a...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode we discuss a really interesting pattern that many people find themselves in when we're in this role. It can be really torturous and painful and we don't think clearly at all. It's a pattern that's played out mostly in romantic relationships and is almost always a replication of the past. What does it mean to be a rescuer in relationships and why are some people really prone to fall into this pattern. Well Justine...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Join us as we discuss a listener's email about her inner critic to whom she has given the name 'Dick'. A listener, whom we refer to as 'Mia' has sent us a detailed email about her inner critic. 'Dick' the critic, says all sorts of nasty and punitive things to Mia, but sometimes Mia feels that he actually protects her. How can this be? Does her critic actually protect her from something? Could it have a pr...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Up to 50% of people have this schema, it's incredibly common and underpins a great many relationship, personality and mental health issues.We discuss the Emotional Deprivation Schema. It's one of the core schemas, it develops early life usually in the first 10 years. It can be a tricky one for us to identify as it tends to be pervasive but elusive at the same time. What is it:The Emotional Deprivation schema is the e...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Justine tends to overcommit to things. After agreeing to do something, she often regrets it and lands up with a schema hangover because there are big consequences to changing her mind and saying no, and getting out of what she has committed to do can sometimes create a big drama.Since the last episode, she has been reflecting on how much an unrelenting standards schema contributes to people’s stress and sense of being rushed. She was ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We are talking about the unrelenting standards schema in this episode.The unrelenting standards schema is closely related to perfectionism. People with an unrelenting standards schema tend to have very high expectations of themselves that do not change, regardless of the situation they are in. They are constantly striving for standards, and when they don't meet them, it can be very distressing. Some people become so good at meeting hi...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We are doing a mailbox episode today! Someone we will call Sam sent in a thoughtful and vulnerable email after listening to and resonating with something we mentioned in our episode on narcissistic mothers.Sam is an overseas listener who grew up with two narcissistic parents. He has a brother and a younger sister who he describes as his mother’s narcissistic “mini-me”. In the podcast, we mentioned that being parented by a na...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Gemma does a solo episode on what you need to know if you have an abandonment schema and find yourself getting triggered in a relationship.We, as humans, are wired to be cared for by others and form strong physical and emotional attachments. We depend on our early attachments, so if those attachment needs are unfulfilled, interrupted, or severed, we could develop an abandonment schema.An abandonment schema can wreak h...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Gemma and Justine both have a history of working in mental health settings in psychiatric research. A while back, someone referred to Gemma by a psychiatrist arrived with a diagnosis of treatment-resistant depression and all query bipolar disorder. Working with Gemma over time, he understood what was driving his mood and chronicity from a schema perspective. He also realized how his history of complex trauma impacted how he gener...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!This episode is an encore replay of Episode 20, which was a popular episode for our listeners. We have another podcast in our series on narcissism for you. For today, we will stay with the topic of the narcissistic parent and discuss the types of relationships you might be having with your narcissistic parent and the kind of dynamics you might find within that relationship. Clinically, we tend to see four categories of those kind...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode we are talking about passive aggression.Passive aggression is covert aggression. It is a form of hostility people carry inside themselves that they express indirectly to make a point. We tend to use it when we are not being honest and authentic to express our anger, frustration, or resentment in a roundabout way. When someone uses passive aggression, they are not expressing what they truly feel. It can be toxic if...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We are revisiting the abandonment schema in our latest episode.Some of Gemma’s clients are considering returning to the dating world again, so they asked her to talk some more about the abandonment schema and how it relates to dating. Abandonment is a huge topic! In schema therapy, the abandonment schema is one of the core schemas. It is a very primitive and primal schema. It is possibly the most central schema for all mammals, s...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We are talking about the defectiveness shame schema in this episode. It is one of the core schemas. It is quite common, and it tends to develop early in life. The defectiveness schema is tricky. It is sometimes so deeply hidden that we may not even know someone has it. It comes with a deep sense of unworthiness and feelings of being fundamentally flawed as an individual. People with the defectiveness schema often feel unlova...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!This episode is in the realm of dating. It will appeal to women experiencing hopelessness after having implemented changes in the men they are dating, and then men they should avoid start to slip in under their radar. Initially, you may think the guy is different. But after the first few weeks of dating, the cracks start showing. You may notice that he is critical or does not prioritize the relationship much. Or you may feel unce...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We are delighted to have Wendy Behary joining us on the podcast! Wendy is an expert on narcissism. She is very well-known in the world of schema therapy for the work she has done on narcissism.Wendy is the Founder and Director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and the Schema Therapy Institutes of New Jersey, New York City, and DC. She is also the author of the bestselling book, Disarming the Narcissist, which is now in its...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Over the years, Gemma and Justine have had many clients, mostly women, with some insecure attachment styles. Those clients have a pattern of being attracted to and forming relationships with aloof, inconsistent, unreliable, emotionally depriving, or emotionally unavailable people. They sometimes feel the lack and become aware of what they are not getting from the relationship. Yet something about the relationship dynamic resonates wit...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We are talking about schema chemistry in this episode!Have you ever been swept away in the excitement of a new relationship soon after meeting someone? Perhaps you cannot stop thinking about the person and believe they are perfect for you because it feels like you have known them all your life. It might feel amazing initially, but over the next few weeks or months, things start to unravel. You may begin to feel some pangs of uncertain...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In schema therapy, the therapist sometimes engages with the client in different ways through limited re-parenting as part of the therapeutic relationship.In this episode, we will be talking about how we can re-parent ourselves. Re-parenting is something almost everyone can do because we all have the necessary emotional resources within us. If you take the time to tune in, you can easily tap into your inner emotional resources and...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Subjugation is common in our society, particularly amongst women and people in the helping professions. Subjugation is relevant within schema therapy. Yet it tends to be grossly under-examined and under-rated as a schema because it is generally considered secondary or conditional to the core or unconditional schemas like the abandonment schema, the Emotional Deprivation schema, or the mistrust abuse schema, all of which are devel...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!When we subjugate ourselves, we suppress our authenticity and aspects of who we are. In schema therapy, the self-sacrifice and subjugation schemas are called other-directed schemas. Those schemas appear similar in that they are both subjugating schemas, but there are some key differences.We tend to suppress our needs when we want to care for others. We suppress our views and desires when we are afraid of getting hurt or angering someo...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, we continue with our two-part series on the Netflix production, The Tinder Swindler.In the first part, we spoke about the schemas and modes of the scammer in the movie. He is a con artist who meets women on Tinder and then persuades them to lend him vast sums of money. In the second part, we focus on the women, or the victims, in The Tinder Swindler. We look at victim-blaming and unpack why people on social media...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, we are talking about red flags. The Netflix movie, The Tinder Swindler, shows an extremely nasty example of an emotionally unavailable man. The movie is scary but riveting. It tells the story of a con man who persuades women he meets on Tinder to lend him large sums of money. Even though the character in the movie is an extreme version of what an emotionally unavailable man might be like, it helps to make things ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Parenting is not easy. It is even harder for those raised by narcissistic parents because that is a particularly toxic way to rear a child. In this episode, Gemma and Justine answer a mailbox question from a listener brought up by a mother with narcissistic traits. Even though the listener acknowledges that her mother loved her, and did her best, some of what she said and did still impacted her life and mental health. As a result...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In our last podcast, we spoke about what an abandonment schema might look like generally when dating someone. In this episode, we follow that by taking a more specific look at the different coping styles people tend to use when their abandonment schema gets triggered in a dating situation. Our schemas get triggered when certain things happen. When triggered, strong emotions arise, and we feel compelled to respond in a certain way...

Welcome to the first episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast for 2022! When making new year resolutions, most of us tend to think about things we can improve in our lives and the patterns we would like to change. One of those patterns usually relates to relationships. Justine has already had several sessions this year with people who want to break their relationship patterns so that they can finally meet someone emotionally available and have a proper relationship.Our schemas tend to hin...

Welcome back! 2022 will be a great year!Today Gemma discusses what it's like having a narcissistic parent and presents one of our older episodes (our most popular episode yet). CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membershi...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Some of the ways we behave and think are known as schemas. Schemas could be described as a filter through which we view the world, and they are closely linked to our deeply entrenched core beliefs.Recently, Justine and Gemma received emails from various listeners experiencing similar problems. One of the emails was from Harry, who explained that he has an empathetic personality and suffered from being in a relationship with someone na...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Some of the ways we think and some of our behavioral tendencies are called schemas. Schemas could be described as the lens through which we see the world. They are closely related to our ingrained core beliefs but tend to be a little broader than those. Schema therapy makes things very clear and gives us some easy-to-understand labels to describe our behavior. Justine and Gemma have found schema therapy useful for problem-solving...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Most people have an inner critic. Some are aware of it and acknowledge it, while others do not seem to notice the disparaging voice talking to them inside their head. The inner critic does not have to be a constant and deliberate internal narrative. It could also be a cluster of automatic thoughts or things you say out loud to yourself. Gemma enjoys looking through the lens of schema therapy when she works with people because it ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this mailbox episode, Gemma and Justine address two questions submitted by two different listeners. One of the questions is about co-parenting children with a narcissistic ex-partner and how to protect them from the negative influences of their narcissistic parent. The other question is about supporting a partner while they have schema therapy. Like any other personality trait, type, or disorder, narcissism falls on a continuu...

Listen to a meditation by Dr Gemma Gladstone, where she takes you on a journey to connect with and start to heal an inner child part of you who needs love and connection. This meditation is very gentle and may assist you to develop a greater sense of compassion for yourself as a whole. The meditation only focuses on you and a child part of you who feels alone or overwhelmed by difficult emotions. It might be listened to as an adjunct to the individual therapy you are r...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Some distinct red flags tend to show up in the very early stages of dating that indicate that the person you are dating is likely to become emotionally unavailable, controlling, or toxic in a relationship. When you are in that situation, it can be hard to understand what is going on, and if you really want the relationship to work out, you could even become resistant and fail to recognize your schemas when they come up.In this episode...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Managing all the uncertainty surrounding the pandemic can be tough and make it hard for many of us to remain grounded during these challenging times. That’s why we need to talk openly with our kids about anything that could be worrying them and spend some extra time on our self-care right now. Gemma and Justine are passionate about helping women make better choices in their relationships. In this new series of episodes, they will be f...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Some people find it very hard to cope if their best friend goes out with another friend or starts a new friendship with someone else. They might find themselves feeling cut off, needy, jealous, or even angry. Abandonment triggers in a friendship can be just as strong as those in a romantic relationship. Especially if that friendship is a special one and the friend is someone important to you. In those situations, the same feelings co...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Gemma and Justine have another conversation in their series on breakups and schemas in this episode. If you have ever experienced a breakup when you have an abandonment schema, you know how traumatic it is. So it is understandable if you would want to avoid going through that pain again. In this episode, Justine and Gemma share a mailbox segment. They answer a question sent in by a client of Justine, who is in the process o...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!The break up of a romantic relationship causes so much angst and heartache for so many of us. Some people can’t stop thinking about their ex, and regardless of whether they did the breaking up or someone broke up with them, they cannot get that person out of their mind. They remain emotionally invested and find it hard to stop ruminating, even if they were with the person only for a few dates or a short-term relationship.In this episo...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! It is not uncommon early on in a relationship to realise deep down that your emotional needs will not be met, yet you find you are unable to leave. Things might have started hopefully, and you crave the connection and want things to work out, but you see a red flag. Or there may have been an accumulation of things that have added up over time. Either way, it is painful to be in a position where you know it is in your best intere...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Some people struggle a lot with the intensity of their feelings when they are in the throes of a break-up of a romantic relationship, particularly when they have an abandonment schema as well. The pain of the break-up and the schema becoming activated simultaneously presents a unique situation that leaves those individuals fraught with painful feelings.In this episode, Gemma and Justine discuss why that kind of break-up feels so pain...

Welcome to another episode of the Good Mood Clinic podcast!Meeting people is hard and dating can be tricky business. Almost everyone is using dating apps these days, regardless of age. However, navigating your way through those apps can be a daunting experience. It is often fraught with problems, especially in the beginning. Many of us grapple with issues associated with online dating. Today, Gemma and Justine talk about the early stages of meeting and communicating with someone online,...

Welcome to another episode of the Good Mood Clinic podcast!In this episode, Gemma Gladstone follows on with the theme of red flags. A short while ago, Gemma and Justine introduced their course called The Red Flag Project. The Red Flag Project course stems from their experience working with a niche group of women going to therapy to work on a consistent pattern they observed in their lives where relationships became unsustainable. Or they kept on getting romantically involved with partner...

Welcome back to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Gemma and Justine are back after a short hiatus due to some ups and downs and a lot going on in their lives recently. They have been having some interesting conversations with their clients and one another lately about odd things that set them off. In this episode, they discuss a few of the psychological quirks and issues that some people may experience.Gemma has a problem with feeling disgusted by some of the noises made b...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Gemma shares her experience and impressions of working with clients who have had the unfortunate experience of being 'diagnosed' with "treatment-resistant depression". Gemma believes this is a dangerous and disempowering label which does nothing to help people get to the bottom of what's driving their depression. Gemma has been doing therapy with people in a clinical practice setting since 2001. In 2005, ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Jen Hoey joins us as our guest on the podcast. This episode is the first in a series where we will be discussing the dangers that our kids face online. In the series, we will be highlighting some pertinent things that we need to think about and look out for in that area.Over the years, Jen has developed a passionate interest in the topic of kids online. And she has become knowledgeable about how to protect kids in the...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We have been getting some comments, queries, and questions in our mailbox recently. So in this episode, we will be introducing a new mailbox segment that we will have on the podcast from time to time. With this podcast, we strive to raise awareness about some common topics that many of us have to deal with. So, if you are struggling with something or have an issue, the chances are that many others will be in the same boat. One of...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Last week, our Red Flag Project went out, and what we talk about in this episode of the podcast is related to that. We will be talking about the pleasures and pitfalls of online dating today. The dating process can be hard for some women to live through. It can be quite an emotional rollercoaster, and it can also trigger lots of schemas.The world of online dating is the way to go right now. However, people looking for partners are doi...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We have been talking a lot about narcissism on the podcast recently because we have found that one of the main themes that people come to therapy with falls within the realm of narcissism. Coming to terms with narcissistic parents is a big issue that many people face, and it can be hard to do.In our last episode, we spoke about the nature of the different dynamics of relationships with a narcissistic parent. In this episode, we will b...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!From the annoying to the serious, Justine and Gemma focus on Red Flags in the world of dating and relationships. In this episode Gemma and Justine introduce their new online course. A short, affordable course for women who want to sharpen their radar for detecting early signs of emotional unavailability, relationship disinterest , narcissism and even more pathological or potentially dangerous signs in a new or potential par...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We have another podcast in our series on narcissism for you. For this episode we will stay with the topic of the narcissistic parent and discuss the types of relationships you might be having with your narcissistic parent and the kind of dynamics you might find within that relationship. Clinically, we tend to see four categories of those kinds of relationship dynamics. In this episode, we will go into some detail about each of those c...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We are continuing with our theme of narcissism, and in this episode we are focusing on relationships with narcissistic parents. People who were raised by narcissistic parents struggle with guilt. They have trouble expressing what they think and feel about things because they worry about how people will respond to them, and whether or not people will listen to what they say, and take them seriously without judging them. Narcissist...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, we’re talking about an issue related to grief and loss. Grief is a multifaceted process, and it can be influenced by many different factors. Suffering the loss of someone we love can be a life-changing experience, and after going through that, it is quite normal to feel like a completely different person. In this episode, we discuss the process of grief, and we talk about how unique it is and how much it differs for e...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!As promised, we are continuing with the theme of narcissism. Some of us have no choice but to live with a narcissist or be around one at certain times. That is usually not very easy to do, so, today we will be talking about ways you can manage the narcissist in your life when you cannot escape having to spend time around them. It could be a parent, a sibling, a relative, an in-law, a boss, or even a work colleague. Christmas tend...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In the last few years, mainstream psychology has had a lot of focus on self-compassion. About a thousand research papers have been published on the areas of self-compassion, mental health, and the benefits of shifting our internal world and monologue to a more self-compassionate stance, to help us overcome mental health issues like anxiety and depression.We all need as much compassion as we can get towards ourselves and others. We par...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In the last few years, mainstream psychology has had a lot of focus on self-compassion. About a thousand research papers have been published on the areas of self-compassion, mental health, and the benefits of shifting our internal world and monologue to a more self-compassionate stance, to help us overcome mental health issues like anxiety and depression.We all need as much compassion as we can get towards ourselves and others. We par...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We’re talking about something very interesting today. We’re starting a series discussion on narcissism, a topic that has come up a lot for us as clinicians over the years. Many of our clients have also nominated narcissism as a topic that they would like us to talk about.In our practices, we see many people whose lives are affected by narcissism, and those relationships are often very preoccupying and distressing. Some people have par...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Many different reasons cause us to develop abandonment schemas, and two other schemas tend to co-occur alongside an abandonment schema. They are the self-sacrifice schema and the subjugation schema. Those can cause a lot of distress, so you need to become aware of them and the way they could affect you.With both the self-sacrifice and subjugation schemas, you tend to become preoccupied with other people’s thoughts, feelings, needs, wa...

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The loving kindness (or metta) meditation – is a type of Buddhist meditation which focuses on sending love, care and good will to yourself as well as others. The old name for this meditation is the metta bhavana. In this adaptation of the metta bhavana, I focus on the first stage - sending metta (or love) to ourselves. These types of meditations are particularly good for helping you cultivate a deep sense of compassion for yourself and others and can help with calming ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Gemma and Justine discuss how the abandonment schema can prevent someone from ending or leaving an unhealthy romantic relationship. Being able to walk away from a relationship that is not good for you can be a very difficult and daunting experience.There are some relationships which seem so familiar on a sub-conscious level because the dynamics match or replicate aspects of our earliest attachments - that is our...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!The third in the series of our discussions on the abandonment schema and its role in romantic relationships.In this episode we discuss the ways that an abandonment schema can play out in an otherwise stable and secure relationship and cause havoc for you and your partner. What are some of the ways that an unchecked or largely unhealed abandonment schema can sabotage your relationship? How can you begin to notice your abandonment trigg...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In the last few years, mainstream psychology has had a lot of focus on self-compassion. About a thousand research papers have been published on the areas of self-compassion, mental health, and the benefits of shifting our internal world and monologue to a more self-compassionate stance, to help us overcome mental health issues like anxiety and depression.We all need as much compassion as we can get towards ourselves and others. We par...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Justine and Gemma discuss a very common issue they see in their practice. Many of us have a pattern of being attracted to and staying with romantic partners who are emotionally unavailable. What exactly is Unavailability anyway?In this episode we focus at depth on this type of relationship dynamic, we give common examples and discuss the schema involved and how they are commonly triggered. We then di...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Are you a People Pleaser? If so this episode is for you.The Self-Sacrifice schema falls into the "other-directed" domain in schema therapy. With this schema you are inclined to attend to the needs of others over and above your own needs. Failure to do so often results in you feeling guilty about having let people down. Self-sacrifice can be a form of severe self-suppression and left unchecked it can dominate y...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Justine and Gemma dive deep into what a schema is in the context of Schema Therapy. They discuss the role of parenting, temperament and life experience in the development of early maladaptive schemas (EMS).Most of the schemas are reviewed and explained with examples to get you thinking. There is also a meaty discussion of the "other-directed" schemas - such as subjugation & self-sacrifice. The co...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!You are not alone, hang in there. In this episode Gemma discusses some of the psychological consequences of the pandemic and how to take care of ourselves during this difficult period of time. With several suburbs in Melbourne Victoria (July 3, 2020) having to go back into Lock-down, anxiety and uncertainty is again on the rise. Covid-19 has meant that humanity is again facing large-scale collective anxiety and traum...

Welcome to The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Justine and Gemma introduce themselves and talk about Schema Therapy and Why this Podcast?CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/there...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode Gemma discusses the importance of having our core emotional needs met adequately in early life. What are these needs and what can happen if our parents/primary attachment figures do not meet our needs on a regular basis.Gemma discusses some of the psychological consequences and Schemas that can develop as a result. ●safety, stability & predictability●secure, loving, nurturing bond (warmth, validation, ‘...

Feeling down, unmotivated, fearful or depressed? Here is a list of evidence-based (backed by substantial research) suggestions & behaviours to reduce depression and help relieve nervous tension and anxiety:-Movement & physical exercise. Exercise and physical movement, whether it be intense or gentle can help us complete the stress response cycle, activate the relaxation response and is a natural anti-depressant.Some form of daily mindfulness practice, meditation or applied relaxation ...

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!A guided meditation / relaxation exercise to help you enhance a sense of inner wisdom and confidence in your ability to cope with change and any obstacles you may be facing. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to ...