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How many years should you be in a relationship before knowing it’s going to be long term or for life? We get your hot takes on whether it's time wasted if you date without knowing what your future holds - or if time isn’t a good measurement at all.

We catch up with comedian Blake Pavey to chat about how his girlfriend soft launched him, the awkward experience of getting his sperm checked and his advice to anyone thinking of dating a comedian (just don’t).

When you start seeing someone, do you suss who they’re following on their socials? We debate if lists full of insta baddies is a red flag, or if that's your insecurity talking.

Are you and your partner joined at hip, to the point where you can’t stand to be apart? Maybe you’re in the thick in the honeymoon stage or maybe you’re in a co-dependent relationship.

There's always a friend who wants to bring their partner to everything, but what are the rules around when it's ok and when it's crossing the line?

‘Aftercare’ has become a bit of a buzzword the past few years, but sexologist Lauren French is here to tell you why practising post-sex aftercare is just as important as foreplay.

Is break up sex healing or harmful? Will you get closure or just make it harder to move on? We hear your hot takes and find out why it was the hottest sex of your life.

If you tear, break or snap your penile frenulum (aka the banjo string) it can be a big painful bloody mess, so here’s everything you need to know with triple j’s Dave Woodhead and sex coach Cam Fraser.  (And yes we will be chatting about blood and pain and breaking your penis in this ep so if you get queasy you’ve been warned).

Term 2 has begun for the horny SLTS of Heartbreak High, so we catch up with our favourite couple from the show - Ca$h and Darren - aka Will McDonald and James Majoos.

If your roomie’s partner is over every night, eating your food, hogging the shower and never contributing financially or to the general house ~vibes~, you might need to set some boundaries. You tell us your rules to keep the peace, plus we hear your horror stories from when a partner overstays their welcome.

Feel like your sex life is kinda meh? Sex and relationship professor Dr Tara is here to help! With 2 million followers, you’ve probably seen her in your TikTok feed, with her snappy sex tips.  In this ep, she jumps on with Dee to give advice on how to build your sexual confidence.

If you don’t know each other’s passcodes does that mean there’s trust issues? We hear your hot takes about privacy and going through your partner’s phone.

Dee catches up with neuroscientist and host of the Do You Fucking Mind podcast Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa to get all the expert advice on how to heal after a breakup and build your self-love and confidence up again.

We all know RuPaul’s classic line ‘if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?’ – but how true is it really? Or is self-love something that can grow through being in a relationship and loving someone else?

You told us that you cry, laugh, get the zoomies, sneeze and get blocked ears, or itchy noses when you orgasm.  So in this ep we chat to sexologist Lauren French and Dr Theresa Larkin about why it might be happening to you.

You’ve heard of post nut clarity, but what about post nut reactions? We hear your weird and wonderful reactions post orgasm, from crying and laughing, to blocked ears, hyperactivity, sleepiness and cravings.

A class action lawsuit has been filed in the US which claims dating apps are created to make people addicted and keep using them. Dee chats to Clinical Psych and researcher from UTS Anastasia Hronis about how dating apps can keep us hooked.

If someone has a crush on their friend, is the friendship actually platonic? Or does it completely change the dynamic?  In this ep, we debate attraction, crushes, feelings in friendships and when it blurs the line.

We catch up with the world’s biggest porn stars Angela White and she answers your questions about the adult industry, how to give good head, feminism in porn and whether bigger is better.

In our last ep we met some findoms, and a paypig, but what actually makes someone get off on giving money and gifts for no sexual favours in return?  Dee chats to psychologist Dr Sarah Ashton about why someone might be into financial domination.

A paypig is someone who gets off on giving you gifts, cash, paying your bills - but they don’t want any physical sexual favours in return. Sounds too good to be true right? We find out how findomming works and what’s in it for the pigs.

We live, laugh, love comedian, presenter, and writer Louis Hanson. As your 2024 Mardi Gras host - he’s got your pride survival guide for your gay christmas.

You told us about how you've self sabotaged your way out of healthy, secure relationships with green flags - but how can you stop this pattern from ruining a good thing? Psychologist and author Chris Cheers joins Dee to chat about why we get addicted to red flags and how you can rewire your brain.

If you've been in a toxic relationship or you only date red flags, do you find it hard when someone healthy, secure and safe comes along? You tell us your experience of what it's like dating from problematic to perfect, from feeling boredom, picking fights to self sabotage.

She’s the founder and CEO of Cheek Media, author of Bite Back, and podcast host of Big Small Talk - Hannah Ferguson put the ultimate group date to the test, and says it was the best date she’s ever been on. So here’s how she pulled it off and why she thinks group dates are going to make dating apps fun again.

If you’re living with your parents (maybe you’re studying, or for cultural reasons, or just coz cost of living is fkd) you might be struggling to have any kind of sex life.  We hear your horror stories of getting caught, getting creative and getting off.

We yappa yappered about timing, but now it’s time to hear from an actual expert. Dee chats to couples therapist Megan Kozak about how much timing actually matters in relationships, and how to deal if you’re going through a break up because of it.

Have you ever met someone who ticks all the boxes, you have great chemistry, you could honestly see a future with them… but the timing isn’t right?  Like maybe they’re about to move overseas for work/study, maybe they’re not over their ex - or sometimes it’s just a case of “I need time to work on myself”.  So how much does timing really matter? - and is it something you can overcome if you actually wanna be with someone.

If you wanna start using your backdoor in the bedroom but don't know where to start, we got chu. Sex coach Georgia Grace and founder of sexual wellness brand NORMAL Lucy Wark chat to us about all the basics of butt play.

83% of you reckon we live in a low effort dating culture. Where people never put in effort and everyone just bails or ghosts each other.  So are Australians just lazy or have dating apps made everyone burnt out? Also is it actually a bad thing? Should you expect so much effort at the start of getting to know someone? Dee and Pip hear your hot takes and chat it out.

It’s finally happened, The Imperfects are on The Hook Up <3  If you don’t know - The Imperfects are a hugely popular podcast where some of the most well-known guests jump on to share their insecurities and all the ways they feel imperfect.  Comedian Ryan Shelton and Josh Van Cuylenburg chat to Dee and Pip about the power of vulnerability and what they’ve learnt from hearing so many people’s incredible stories.

She’s one of our favourite brains in the whole wide world - historian, writer and TikTokker Esme Louise James is back with some more kinky history for you.

We chat to author and cartoonist Lily O’Farrell – you might know her as Vulga Drawings on Instagram, and she’s just released a podcast about how internet culture is shaping dating, sex, pleasure and the patriarchy.

Dylan Buckley is an ex AFL player now turned podcaster - who you’d probs know from Dyl & Friends - a podcast where (mainly AFL players) are open, vulnerable and share their stories.  Dee chat’s to him about masculinity, social pressure, his AFL career, vulnerability, being an emotional guy, embracing your insecurities, and the importance of male role models.

Did you know if you’re on the disability support pension it might stop you from taking your relationship to the next level? Award winning writer, stand up comedian and disability advocate Madeleine Stewart joins Pip to chat about what’s going on.

Every Sunday on our insta @triplejthehookup we get your raunchiest secrets, honestly they leave us gooped, gagged and gazumped.  In this special ep - you’ll hear some of the most cooked Sunday Secrets from 2023, from a missing butt plug, a sneaky rideshare hook up, and getting caught mid dildo.

It’s been a hell of a year. From Jonah Hill's therapy speak, the orchestra orgasm, and Sam Levinson's controversial show The Idol and Anna Paul's break up that rocked world – we take wrap 2023's biggest moments in love, dating, sex and relationships.

A lot of guys still associate vulnerability with weakness. But you told us that it’s messing with your mental health and your relationships - as you suffer in silence.

Dee chat's to clinical psychologist and men's mental health expert Dr Zac Seidler about the spotlight on masculinity at the moment, why so many young guys are obsessed with Andrew Tate and the importance of male friendships for men's mental health.

A lot of guys have told us they’re feeling super confused atm about how to act and what it means to be ‘a man’.

Keen to get with other people but have no idea how to ask your partner?  Going from monogamous to ethical non-monogamous sounds hot and exciting, but there’s a lot of work that goes into keeping your relationship healthy and happy.  So here’s how to do it.

We’re so obsessed with the enemies to lovers trope in movies, books and tv - but can it happen irl?  Turns out yes, and the most common way to catch feelings for your arch nemesis is through hatefucking, so we chat the experts on how sexual chemistry can mess with your head and your heart

ICYMI, you don’t have to have a foot fetish to be into feet.

Loads of people are getting later in life diagnoses of ADHD which has helped a lot you figure out the way you work – but what about the way you date?  We’re investigating how symptoms like hyperfixation vs distraction/loss of interest, impulsive behaviour and overstimulation/hypersensitivity can affect your relationships and sex life.

Imagine if you could have sex with yourself. That’s the dream for people who’re autosexual.  We delve deep into the sexuality we had no idea even existed.

Exercise might give you endorphins but it also might give you an orgasm.  It’s actually more common than you think. We get your coregasm stories and find out what exercises to do/avoid.

Most of you told us you’ve felt insecure about your body during sex, so how do you stop that negative self-talk and learn to accept yourself just the way you are? In this episode, we tackle body image during sex with body image advocate Bella Davis and find out how to feel confident to fuck with the lights on.

In this bonus episode, writer, artist and producer Madison Griffiths chat to Dee about her new book Tissue. Tissue is Madi's raw and vulnerable reflection on a pregnancy she terminated during lockdown in 2021 and the complexities that come with getting an abortion for so many people in our current political climate.

Getting a urinary tract infection can be one of the most painful experiences, and if you're getting them all the time, they can cause a lot of anxiety around sex. So in this ep, we chat to a urologist, sexologist and pelvic floor specialist about how to cope with chronic and recurrent UTIs and find out if a UTI isn't causing your pain, then what the hell is?

Everyone’s obsessed with attachment theory atm!  But even if you don’t subscribe - it’s a pretty common relationship dynamic where someone can be more avoidant and need space and someone can be more anxious and clingy. So here’s Stephanie Rigg from the On Attached pod, and Psychologist Chris Cheers on how to make it work.

She’s the activist who helped make consent education mandatory in the Australian curriculum and now Chanel Contos has written her first book Consent Laid Bare.  In this episode, Chanel chats to us about some of the ways rape culture is reinforced in Australia and what needs to change.

From posting dick pics on tumblr to now sitting in top 0.1% on OnlyFans, we get to know one of Australia’s biggest adult content creators - Girthmasterr.

You’ve probs heard of the G spot, maybe the P spot - but what about the A and C spot? We chat to Georgia Grace (aka @g.spot) and learn about the erogenous zones that will level up your sex and solo play.

There’s so much misconception around people who use a wheelchair - one being that they’re not interested in or capable of sex and intimacy. But this couldn’t be further from the truth.

Nearly 70% of you told us you’ve faked an orgasm before! So why are we all out here pretending we’re having a good time? We chat to sexologist Laura Miano @lauramianosexology about the orgasm gap and how to close it with a conversation.

Comedy content kings Swag On The Beat aka Jack, Isaac and Sam joined us in the studio to spill some secrets and share their cooked dating stories.

Attention chronic snorers, blanket hoggers, alarm snoozists – this ep is for you, because sleeping in bed with a partner can be a real struggle for a lot of us.

What’s the science behind libido? Why do I get migraines after orgasming? Does pineapple juice really change the taste of your cum? Is skipping your period bad for you? Dr Karl and Dr Theresa Larkin answer all your sex, body and love questions.

ICYMI - TikTok star Anna Paul and her boyfriend Glen broke up :’(  She said “it’s the most healthy breakup you could imagine,” so in this ep - we find out the best, most respectful way to dump someone.

What do you reckon emotional cheating is? And do you think it’s worse than physical cheating?  In this episode, we get your hot takes, and chat to couples therapist Jill Dzardey about why people do it, and how to deal if you’re being emotionally cheated on.

Are you leaving the balls out of the bedroom routine? A lot of us simply don’t know how to handle them, so these pleasure plums end up just chillin’ behind the dick getting no love. In this episode, we give you some guidance on the gonads, so you can be a demon (in and around) the sack.

We get some of the best questions from you in our dms so we thought it’s about time we did an ‘ask us anything’ episode! Sexologist Lauren French tells us how to deal with hectic UTIs, breathing for a better orgasm, how to move on from your ex's perfect dick, how to have sex after sexual trauma, and why some positions might hurt.

We get some of the best questions from you in our dms so we thought it’s about time we did an ‘ask us anything’ episode! Sexologist Lauren French tells us why we might avoid eye contact during sex, what to do if cum makes you physically sick, how to manage a healthy sex life when a partner is grieving, advice on squirting, and what to do if your dick is oversensitive in different sex positions.

Lie back on your leather couch coz it’s time to get therapised with one of the best in the biz.  In this bonus ep, Therapy Gecko chats about his therapeutic journey, from streaming on Reddit in his mum’s basement to having 2.5 million followers on TikTok and now doing a world tour.  Plus Geck interns Dee and Pip learn the art of listening and hearing people’s deepest secrets.  *just in case the gecko outfit didn’t give it away, he’s not a real therapist btw.

Dudes - do you get nervous to shoot your shot, because you don’t want to come across as creepy?

Have you dated someone where you love each other so hard, but at the flip of a switch, you hate them? We investigate the rollercoaster of love-hate relationships and why you stay on the ride.

If you don’t know Pomara Fifth, hit play on this episode and get to know her. She’s part of the deadly new generation of indigenous drag queens in Australia who’s charisma, uniqueness, nerve and talent has seen her on Rupaul’s Drag Race, Miss First Nations, and up on stage with Jess Mauboy at the Opera House. In this chat, we celebrate Pomara and hear her journey as an artist and how she incorporates her Aboriginal and Maori culture through her drag.

Did you know nipple orgasms are a thing? 👀 We didn’t, so we asked you about it and you told us nipple play is a huge part of your routine - so we find out how to lick, suck, clamp and suction our way to pure nipply pleasure (and how to get over our nip-securities).

We’ve all been there, when your mate is dating someone you just don’t vibe with. But is it ever your place to say something?  We hear your hot takes and find out the best way to tell your friend that you don’t like their partner.

“On my thirtieth birthday I got engaged. Six months later I was single for the first time in almost ten years.”  Presenter and podcaster Linda Marigliano was in the ‘perfect’ relationship, so why did she decide to end it? In this bonus ep, Dee chats to Linda about her struggle with perfectionism, people pleasing and how she finally learned how to love with boundaries.

If you have a regular period cycle - ever wondered why you hate everyone a few days before you get your period? But some days you’re in a full on slay era?  Ever wondered how many eggs you actually have? And how to tell when you’re ovulating?  In this ep - we’ve got the ultimate masterclass on the menstrual cycle from Dr Theresa Larkin - everything you need to know about hormones, periods, and your follicular (slay) and luteal (flop) phases.

Dr Yves Rees is a trans non-binary writer, podcaster and historian who recently wrote a book about their experience transitioning - called All About Yves, Notes From a Transition.  In this bonus ep, Yves spoke to Dee about when they first realised they were trans, their journey transitioning, finding their non-binary identity, navigating their sexuality and finding their community online.

If you think you might be trans, or if you’re starting to transition, what are the first steps to take on this journey? In this ep we get advice on some of the health and medical info you might need, as well as how to navigate your sex and dating life during this time. You’ll hear from trans writer Dr Yves Rees on their journey and discovering their non-binary identity during lockdown.

On a first date, if someone overshared about past trauma would you be put off by that? Or find that kind of vulnerability refreshing? We hear your hot takes on trauma dumping, why some people do it and how to share trauma without traumatising the person on the receiving end.

In dating, should you trust people from the start? Or should trust be earned over time? We get full philosophical in this ep, hear your hot takes and get a psych’s professional opinion.  And we’ll also find out how to build trust in a relationship and how to deal when it’s broken.

We chat with singer, stand-up comedian, and Rupaul’s Drag Race royalty Monét X Change.

Ever feel like you’re inexperienced when it comes to dating, relationships, kissing or sex? If everyone around you is hooking up or falling in love, it can feel isolating, like you’re being left behind or that there’s something wrong with you. It’s a super common experience and we unpack why there’s nothing wrong with you, or hitting these milestones later in life.

Talking dirty can be SO hot! But if it’s something you’ve never really done before, it can be kinda awkward. In this episode, we get your hot tips and find out how to chat to your partner about what you like.

When you first start dating someone, you’re infatuated with them - you’ve got the rose-coloured glasses on and everything is just so passionate. For most of us, this starts to fade after a few months. But not everyone. In this episode we find out how to keep the honeymoon period going.

If you’ve lived with a partner for two or more years, you’re actually considered de facto. Which means if you split up…there’s a lot on the table when it comes to your money, assets even your super. It’s pretty much the same as getting a divorce.  In this episode, we find out what you’re entitled to and your rights, plus how to protect yourself.

If you’re being honest with yourself - how’s your life going? Do you feel like you’re just coasting through, or stuck in a bit of rut? Or feeling uninspired?  Chris Cheers is a psychologist who’s been helping people change the way they think about love, their bodies, their emotions, and self-care. In this bonus ep, he’ll give you some great advice on how to do just that, so you can be your best self.

If you’re dating someone and they’re not introducing you to their friends, family or posting about you on socials - they might be ‘pocketing’ you.  In this episode, we investigate why people are pocketers (lol Pip) and how to know if there’s something shady going on (aka cheating).

Did you know you can actually cum from a flaccid penis?! There’s SO much emphasis on hard and erect cocks (hello porn) that not a lot of people play with and embrace a dick when it’s soft. It’s something a lot of you told us you feel awkward about. So here’s how to feel more comfortable around them, some practical tips for solo and partnered sex, and how to orgasm without an erection.

There’s so many unspoken rules and expectations when it comes to messaging someone for the first time. You can find yourself over-analysing texts and getting anxious if someone doesn’t reply to you for ages, honestly it’s a total headf*ck.  And a lot of you told us - a shit texter is a deal breaker for you.

It’s completely normal to feel jealous but sometimes it can make you act out in ways that can be damaging to your relationship.  Maybe you go through your partner's phone, or won’t let them be friends with their friends. We find out how to deal with insecurities and how to best support as a partner.

Ever heard of the Ancient roman trans icon Elagabalus who set tigers on her dinner party guests? Or what about the San Diego lesbians banding together to save gay men during the HIV AIDS crisis? There’s so many queer and trans stories that've been erased all the back from ancient China to now, but author and content creator Hannah McElhinney is here to teach the history you never learnt in school.

The great Esther Perel once said “foreplay begins after your last orgasm”. So if it’s something you do for a couple of minutes before sex - target audience reached. You need to hear this.

To celebrate WorldPride this month, we’re hearing your queer bite-sized love stories - and now it's time for the big finale.

If you’ve struggled to get hard or ‘get it up’ it might be because you’re stressed or anxious about being good in bed. And so many of you told us you have so much shame around erectile dysfunction.  In this ep, we find out what performance anxiety is, how to cope, and how to best help as a partner.

To celebrate WorldPride this month, we’re hearing your queer bite-sized love stories.  And nothing screams modern gay love like a grindr hook up that turned into the love of your life moving into your place the very next day.  That’s what happened to art collector Wade who fell in love at first sight with artist Teejay.

Dating in regional or rural Australia can be pretty tough. There’s like five people on the apps, everyone knows everyone’s business and you have to be careful you don’t accidentally go on a date with your second cousin.

To celebrate WorldPride this month, we’re hearing your queer bite-sized love stories.

Moving in with your partner can make or break a relationship - you might see a bunch of red flags or it might make you closer than ever.  We find out if there's a right time to do it, and get some hot tips from you on how to make it work.

You told us that dating as a bisexual person can be a really shit time. You've had people say stuff like "it’s just a phase" or "pick a side."

Friends with benefits can be a really great way to have no strings attached sex, but it can also get really messy, especially if someone catches feelings. So is it possible to bang your mates without ruining the friendship? We’ll get your hot tips and chat to a sex and relationships therapist about how to nail the FWB.

So you’re about to go on your first vacay with bae. Maybe you’re going overseas, road tripping in a van or meeting the their fam for the first time.

If you knew someone was being cheated on, would you tell them? Or just keep it to yourself?

When Harrison Kefford was told he was getting a stoma bag his first thought was: “Holy shit! No one is ever going to want to have sex with me again.”

How have dating apps impacted how we find love? Why is catching the ick so common now? What are we getting wrong when it comes to dating and relationships? And what are gen z getting right?