Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for seven years, but we are separated. My husband saw text messages and pictures I sent to another man, and he didn't try to work things out with me and see why I was involved with someone else. I have had a boyfriend for a few months and he is a great lover and an excellent provider. I didn't have to ask for a thing. I don't have to ask for a thing or lift a finger when I'm around him. He knows how to treat a woman. My husband, on the other hand, would get upset and call me trifling if I ask him to put gas in my car or wash it for me. My husband didn't care if I was happy with our sex life or not. He only cared if his needs were being met....................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, One of my oldest friends got reacquainted with a girl we went to high school with, and he was so excited that she wants him. He is trying to marry her. My husband and I invited them to dinner, and I purposely did not tell my husband anything about the ladies past. I let him meet her and form his own opinion just from sitting and talking to them for two hours. My husband said that my friend is so caught up by her beauty. There's nothing I can do or say about this girl to make him leave her. This woman is thirty three years old now, and she slowed down a lot and said she's in love with my friend and ready to be a wife............................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm divorced and my ex husband and I are great at co-parenting. My son is fourteen and my daughter is ten, so she prefers to stay with me and my son prefers to stay with his dad. After we have been divorced seven months, I got a mommy makeover and my ex came and stayed a few nights to help me with the kids. He also drove me to my doctor's appointments and we worked on becoming friends again. Ten months after our divorce, we started having sex again. Then I found out he had a girlfriend and I asked him about it, and he admitted that he was in love with a new chick. I met the woman and she told me they were getting married......................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I live in a duplex and his brother and the brother's girlfriend live next to us. I don't get along with a girlfriend, and she knows she will never be welcome in my house. My husband's brother and I are the same age. We're forty six. My husband is fifty eight and he has problems with sleep apnea, so he's been sleeping with a CPAP machine to help him sleep at night. Because of it, I don't have a lot of sex with my husband. I have it with his brother instead. He gives me all of the great sex that I want and need, and we don't even have to sneak around to do it. He comes over after my husband falls asleep, and the sounds of his sleep machine drown out any sounds we're making in the next room.........................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been together for twenty five years and married for twenty two. Our youngest daughter finally moved out, and my husband and I hit the road and visited his parents, and then we drove up to Michigan to see my sister and her children. It was a great two weeks of spending quality time with my husband. The only drawback was that we didn't have a lot of sex because his back was hurting. He had his doctor phone in medication for his back and we picked it up as soon as we got back into a few days after the trip, I was still unloading stuff from the back of my husband's SUV. I mistakenly dropped a bunch of things in the driveway and I heard a crash............................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm almost sixty years old and I've been a live in girlfriend for over twenty years. When my honey and I started dating, he was fresh off a terrible marriage and I was married to an old man that died on me and left me homeless. I had saved up a lot of money and lost it all taking care of him. When he died, his children took what little money he had. So my current honey and I said we'd never get married, but he'd never leave me like the last one did. He makes sure I have access to everything that's his, and he doesn't have any children, so I'm good on that part. We have a comfortable life and he loves to travel...................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a thirty nine year old married man. My wife is thirty seven, and she volunteers throughout our community and it's become her life passion. She got fired right after the pandemic because it was too hard for her to keep her composure with her coworkers after all of the Black Lives Matter movement stuff. Every day she comes home ranting. She came home ranting over something a coworker said, and I'm sure she usually took it the wrong way. Currently, she's the director of a nonprofit organization that does gardens in underserved areas of town...............................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm fifty six years old and my husband will turn seventy five in May. My husband is a great provider and great daddy, but I don't get butterflies when I'm with him like I did in the beginning. I will admit he wooed me with expensive things and I was caught up at first. We met and got married all within a year. I didn't snap back into reality until I met my step son at our wedding a year ago. Now I want my step son more than I want my husband. He's a fifty two year old bachelor and a big flirt............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for nine years and I've been mad at my husband for the last year. For an entire year, he has questioned my faithfulness to him and demanded me to drop friends that I've known longer than I've known him. My husband is projecting his character traits on me. He's a cheater, not me. He is the one that texts women and comments on their pictures on IG while he's in bed next to me. When he started tripping about who I hang with, it set me off. I've known my girl Fay for twenty two years, and I met her cousin, John John about five years ago. We've had Faye and John John over to the house hundreds of times. My husband enjoyed hanging with John John until I told him that John John is Fay's cousin and not her man.....................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a man online and he's a decent guy that's eight years older than I am. He's fifty nine and divorced and I have never been married. When we met, we talked about everything and I really got to know him. I found out that he's the cafeteria manager at an office building downtown and he loves to cook. He lied on his dating profile and said he's a chef's so I brought that up to him. All he did was brag about his cooking, and he said he's the best chef I'll ever meet. So our first date was a makeshift picnic at a park by my office, and he brought all of the food. My first impression of him was not good.........................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, The love of my life is a six ' four beautiful man that is black as tar with the straightest teeth I've ever seen. He's a singer with no gigs, but I've been patient with him since we started dating because he's a good man. He's messed up his credit so he doesn't have a car right now. I allow him to use my car when he's going to go sing, and he brings it back on E because I don't want him to use a little money that he has on gas. I'm twenty nine and he's twenty eight. We moved in together and my dad stopped talking to me because he knows my man can't take care of me like he should.......................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am the baby girl of two older sisters. My oldest sister lives in a gated community and she's a housewife, but she's not too bright. She's just a rich and a pretty homebody whose husband has been cheating on her for a long time. I felt bad about it for years, but now I feel worse because I have a secret that I can no longer keep. My middle sister is having sex with my brother in law, and I saw it for myself. I stayed over at their house to babysit for them while they had a Christmas party at the house. My nephew and I were upstairs in his room playing a video game, and I heard a lot of banging on the bathroom wall closest to his room....................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm remarried and I was living my best life until my stepdaughter graduated college and moved back in with her mom. My husband has two children from a previous marriage, and my bonus son is a sweetie. But the girl is a stepdaughter for a reason. She has caused problems in my home from day one. She was sixteen when we got married, and she stayed one weekend at our house and she found my weed stash, wore a brand new shirt of mine, and let a whole roast go to waste because she left it out all night. Her own mother admitted she was being vindictive.........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a forty seven year old married man and this is my second marriage. I have a twenty one year old daughter from my first marriage, and my wife has a twelve year old and an eight year old. We're living in a house. We're living in my house, which is four bedrooms and three bathrooms, and it's busting at the seams. My daughter just moved in and she has a one year old son. My wife's children split time between our house and their father's house. I wish they could go live with him full time, but my wife wants them to live with her, which is understandable. I think they should be with their dad.....................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley,  I am a 58 year old single woman.  I have been divorced for four years and my two children are grown.  The man that I have been dating hasn't been honest with me so I need your advice.  We met at a blind date and it was one of the worst dates I have ever been on.  The guy was not feeling well and he kept going to the bathroom.  I told him that I could not see myself going on anymore dates with him and after a few days he started begging me for a second date, I fell for it and went to his house for dinner...........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your help on how to resolve a big mess with one of my girlfriends. I have a non- profit organization for homeless women and I provide clothing and toiletries for the ladies. I’ve been using part of my living room to sort donations. An old friend of mine recently lost weight and donated her old clothes to my organization. I went by her house to pick up the items and I was happy to see that she had two big black garbage bags full of clothes..............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for four years, but we have been together six years. My husband charmed me and I was head over heels in love with him. He was always considerate and very loving, but over the years he's become distant in everything that we do. He stopped dating me after the pandemic. We had just got married, and when the world opened back up, he never resumed his duties as my husband. Now we make love and he gets in the shower and then goes to sleep on the sofa. He said it's because I don't like to sleep with the TV on. But I will compromise if he'll stay in the bed with me. I even tried to lure him back in for sex twice in one night, but he said he was tired. When we go out for dinner, we don't have much to talk about, so we talk about whatever's topical on social media.............................................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I live in North Carolina, and I'm in a long distance relationship with a man I've known all my life. He's a great man that would never cheat on me because he barely has enough money to take care of the two of us. After dating him for seven years without him having a real plan for our future, I cheated on him. I got a sugar daddy that lives in the same city as my man.  He is a preacher and he's thirty one years older than me. He spoils me with gifts and he knows exactly what he is doing in the bedroom. But I have a potential problem coming up Easter weekend, and I don't know what I should do..................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty three years old and I moved back to my hometown two months ago. My dad is ill and my mother is doing the best she can to take care of him, at least that's what she told me. I kicked right in and started taking Daddy to the doctor and to get his medication. When I couldn't do it because of work, Daddy had another woman taking him, and I thought she was some kind of nurse or assistant that his insurance provided. My mom said it was just a lady that my dad knows.....................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I think my husband is cheating on me. I found out after a woman called me and said my husband was late on her car payments. She said they've been having sex for almost a year and bought her a car. He bought her a car for her birthday last August. She said that she started dating another man in October and my husband got mad and said he would take the car away from her. She said she kept dating her boyfriend, but she was still sleeping with my husband..........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm forty four and my partner is forty eight. We've been together for thirteen years total and living together for the past nine years. He's been married before, so he didn't want to get married again. I have never seen a great marriage, so I'm not big on the institution of marriage either. Even now, nothing but married men hit on me. I'm a realist and I know that ninety eight percent of men cheat, so I've tried not to stress out over what my partner is doing when he's not with me.............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am newly divorced and dating again at fifty three years old. My aunt set me up with a handsome, bald man that has a great smile but a quirky personality. I cannot figure out what's up with him until recently. He's a school administrator and he does educational videos for the school district, so he's really into how he looks. On our first date, he told me that he bleaches his teeth regularly and he gets fillers in his face. We have been dating four months and he still won't tell me how old he is, but he looks like he's slightly older than I am........................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a thirty four year old married woman and I'm staying at my cousin's house temporarily while I'm working on a project in Austin. My cousin is fifty two and her husband is forty eight. My room is on the other side of their house, by the kitchen. I've heard my cousin's husband on the phone mumbling late at night, damn near every night since I've been staying with them. He's usually on the couch every night until 3am, and then he goes to bed. My cousin is up and out early in the morning for work, and then her hubby is free to FaceTime some woman that has an annoying laugh........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I moved to a new city and I met a man at my apartment complex. He doesn't live there, his sister does. He asked me to go out, and our first date was so good that he wanted to show me around town. We became inseparable, but we haven't had sex or put a title on our relationship. It's been three months and I'm sexually attracted to him, so I asked if we were dating?..................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm forty years old and married to an older man. He's an entrepreneur and I'm in the insurance field. He's out and about rubbing elbows with big wigs every day, at least that's how he describes his line of work. He dabbles in real estate and he owns a few parking lots and he just acquired another one. When he's at home, he's sleep or he's on his computer. We used to cook at home together and watch movies. That was our thing............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a fifty eight year old married man. I'm a dump truck driver. I retired from teaching after thirty years in the classroom. I was only fifty five, so I decided to reinvent myself and get back to work. I was talking one of my homeboys that has a hauling business. I hadn't talked to him in years. One day I ran up into him and he was telling me how he bought a truck and he gets a lot of business hauling dirt, tree limbs, and debris, and he sets his own rates. He said he already made twenty seven thousand this year and it's only March. I went to my wife with the idea of buying a truck and taking a class to become a certified driver.....................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I met and immediately fell in love. I'm twenty eight and he's thirty four. I met him at work and he relocated and asked me to come with him after we had known each other for only two and a half months. Everything was rosy back then, and all I could think about was getting married and having babies with curly hair like his. My fairy tale life lasted for almost a year.......................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I love my husband with all of my heart, but I do not like him, and I don't like being around him. I cannot have a conversation without him weighing the pros and cons of what I'm telling him. For example, prom season is coming and our son has a date, but our daughter chose to go to the prom with a group of girls. He tried to get my daughter to ride to the prom with our son, and I had to shut that down. He thought of every reason in the world to keep my daughter from doing her junior prom her way. When we are out with friends, he can't decide which credit card he is going to use because one card gives him perks and the other one has a better interest rate..............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 33 year old married woman and I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 5. My husband just found out that my male best friend is my ex-boyfriend. I also have a female best friend that I used to have threesomes with. We are all close and they loved my husband and he loved them. I was on FaceTime with my best friend the other night and he mentioned a tattoo on my lower back and said he remembered when I got it.................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been together for fourteen years and married for ten. After our third child, we gained a little too much weight, so when our toddler started school, we started to work out. My husband has lost a lot more weight than I have, but I am glad that my clothes are fitting again. I have to hear my sweet husband bragging about losing more weight than he imagined he would. I have to smile when he flexes his flabby arm muscle in my face like he's Hulk Hogan...........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been married for eleven years and we have a son. My husband is eight years older than I am, and he has old school values and ideas. He is great with our finances and I'm not. I spend a lot of money on our child's extra curricular activities and his annual school fundraisers. I hate that I have to ask our friends to support our child, and I have to do this single handily because my husband won't ever help me. So I use cash that he keeps in the house, or I use our credit card. My husband never questioned me...........................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married and I have a male best friend that just moved to Hawaii. My husband couldn't be happier that he moved so far away. I'm excited too, because we've been sleeping together for three years. I was tired of playing things off in front of my husband. I went out to Hawaii to help him find temporary housing, and I told my husband I was in San Antonio with my sister. My sister is in on it, and she makes me feel bad about sneaking around on my husband. She says that's when things happen.............................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 32 years old and I’ve been dating this guy for almost 8 months and we’ve had fun getting to know each other. He was honest in the beginning and told me he had some loose ends to tie up before we got serious and I appreciated that honesty. The fact that he didn’t hide his phone or turn his ringer off made me feel that he was ready to be in a relationship with me so I didn’t trip. We went out all over town and I stayed at his home all of the time...........................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My boyfriend and I just moved in together and he had four months left on his lease, so he kept his furniture and a few personal items there until he completely moved out. It was our crash spot. If the traffic was bad in the city, we'd stop by there and wait for the traffic to die down. Last week he had wine, cheese, and crackers and a jar of olives in the fridge. I asked who the snacks were for, and he said they were for us. We have never had wine and cheese together. It made me wonder if he had been entertaining someone else there at that time, I could only get into the gate by calling him to let me in..................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I met in the seventh grade and I have loved him since then. We got married when we were twenty two years old, and we have two grown children. His parents are like my parents and vice versa. His mom is staying with us for a while because my father in law was going through her personal things and he started following her. When she found out, she called us with a sob story and my husband sided with her. I immediately gave my father in law the benefit of the doubt because his wife is very dominant and he lets her run all over him. My husband always takes his mom's side, and he got upset with me when I asked him to hear his dad out................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I got busted and I don't know what to do to get my man back. I will admit that I search his phone and I look for makeup on his clothes, but other than that, I trust him. He has had a few slip ups makeup on his shoulder of a shirt, but he said he likes to hug people instead of shaking hands. Right before his birthday, he planned a party for his boys at his house. He just rented a nice house and it has a huge deck with a built in bench and rope lights. I asked if I could come over and host the party for him and his friends and he said that it wasn't that kind of party. He said it was going to be strippers and everything, and I didn't need to be around all of that.......................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm in love with a man that's dramatic and very high strong. He overreacts in everything he does. Whenever he's driving, he swerves all over the place to avoid potholes and he swings out to make right turns. It gets on my last nerve, but it's also entertaining. You ought to hear him gossiping when he talks to his mama. When I hear him say oh nah, I know they will be at it or while the funniest part of our marriage is how he acts in the bedroom, I have to clear the room before we start. He will knock over anything on the night stands........................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for seventeen years, and when our marriage got stale, my husband asked for a Hall pass. He said he didn't want to cheat on me behind my back. I told him I wanted to see who he had in mind for his hall pass it so I just so happened to know the woman and her husband. I told him, let's both get a hall pass and we can invite the couple over. That was two years ago, and we've done the switcheroo at least once a month with them. I introduced my husband to another couple, but we haven't hooked up with them as much because the man makes my husband very insecure. This newer couple is my favorite for so many reasons. The husband is Jamaican and that's all I need to say about him....................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a forty eight year old divorced female and I'm trying online dating. My niece helped me do my dating profile and we used a real photo of me, but she suggested that I lie about my interests so I would attract a man with a nice body. So I said that I love working out, running and traveling. The app matched me with a tall, muscular, older man. He isn't cute, but we've been dating for six weeks getting to really know each other and I like him a lot. He runs marathons and he asked me to do a charity run with him in April. I said yes because I didn't know how to say no..................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been together for eight years and married for three years. In the beginning, I told him that I had a problem with all of his female friends. He said he would cut them all off for me. He's a hairstylist and barber and his best lady friend as he calls her, is in the same salon with him. My husband and I are thirty nine years old, and his best lady friend, Tammy is thirty. I've always wondered how he and Tammy's friendship has lasted for six years. I told him, as his wife, I should be his best lady friend, but he is stuck on stupid.........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, One of my best girlfriends was sleeping with my husband and I feel like a fool for trusting her. She was smiling in my face and acting like she and my husband couldn't stand each other. It was like Martin and Pam's relationship back in the day. I sent my husband to her house for years whenever she needed help with minor things. The most shocking part was that my husband told me everything after he'd been trying to end the affair for months. He saved text messages from the beginning of their relationship and it showed that she initiated everything...........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 44 years old, divorced and single for 10 years. My husband divorced me because I cheated on him and the man I cheated with was married and he’s still married. We met at work and the rest is history. We are still in a relationship and it’s been 10 years now. Our sex life is great but our relationship has a few challenges. We have a 6 year old son and he has 2 children with his wife............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, In relationships, I know you have to take the good with the bad, but my boyfriend is a terrible dresser. He's fifty two years young and a well known DJ in the city. He's still got all of his hair, but he keeps it braided up. He goes to get his hair done just as much as I do. But that's not a problem because I like to be neat and clean. My problem is the way he dresses. I don't know if he's trying to look younger or not, but his jeans are way too tight. They're tight and short. He calls them ankle pants and I wear ankle pants, so I begged him to stop calling them that. Most of the young white guys in our area dressed like my boyfriend, but they are about twenty five pounds slimmer in the waistline.....................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married to a forty six year old gossiper and my life went downhill when I let him get on Instagram. He loves to take pictures when he gets addressed, when he gets dressed up, and I would always post his pictures on my Facebook and Instagram pages. His friends would poke fun at him because he wasn't on social media. So I asked him if he wanted me to set him up a page. I did, and all he posts are pictures of his car after he washes it. The other day he posted a picture of our son after he got a haircut. He's really not a poster, but he's a creeper........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My honey and I are on shaky ground and I'm not in a loving mood. This Valentine's Day, we celebrated our two year anniversary and Valentine's Day on Sunday because he has a flight on Valentine's Day. He's a flight attendant, so he flew in on Sunday and met me at a hotel for our little staycation. We ordered room service and he had his friend drop off my gifts. He got me a necklace with a diamond encrusted two on it for the two years we have been together. I also got a teddy bear wearing a T shirt that said I love you, and I got a bottle of Creed perfume................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm twenty nine years old and my boyfriend of two years broke up with me and when I asked for closure, he finally agreed to tell me why he broke up with me. He said he got bored because I'm shallow. He said it was fun at first, but when he got to really know me, there was nothing there but a pretty face and a lot of unbelievable sex. He told me all about his new girlfriend and he said things are going great because she is who she says she is inside and out. I know that I'm the total package and his new girl is around a six on a scale of one to ten..............................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a Christian woman and new to dating. I was married for twenty two years and my husband divorced me in 2022. I have dated men at church and men that my friends hook me up with. I'm very traditional, so I like to be courted. I want my doors opened, and I want my man to order for me and when we're on a date. I also like passionate love making and refuse to settle for wham bam thank you, mam in the bedroom.......................................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband played a significant role in politics in our city for fifteen years, and then he started a business that we now run together. When he was in politics, he interacted with lots of prominent females that he called his associates. When rumors swirled about him cheating, there was no way for me to find out if they were true because he was around pretty women all the time. When he started our business, we interviewed a lady that worked on his campaign. She seemed to know all about marketing, so I agreed to hire her. I've regretted it for three years..................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm staying with my sister because my husband said he needs space. I can't blame him for how he feels about me, but I can blame my best friend for what she did to me. I argued with my husband all during the holidays over the smallest stuff, and he was on my nerves. When I'm upset, I have no desire to have sex, so he wasn't getting any. I told my best friend what I was going through, and she said she was stuck in a rut too and it was time for a girls trip for the MLK holiday weekend.........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm forty six years old and married, but over the past two years, my relationship with my husband has tanked. We've been sleeping in separate bedrooms since last October because he sleeps with a CPAP machine. He also has the TV on and he sleeps under the ceiling fan. We have not had sex since August. He's tired and cranky all the time, so I started going out after work with a co-worker instead of going home to a hostile environment. My co-worker and I drank so much one night that we ended up in a hotel room having sex in the shower. My affair is fun and exciting because I'm sneaking around to have great sex.......................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty one years old and my boyfriend and I have been together for eight months. We live almost an hour apart, so he gradually started staying at my house for days at a time. I just let it happen because it was cold outside and I wanted to cuddle. He lives in the house he grew up in with his sister. His parents moved back to their hometown and left the house to his sister, but she couldn't afford the upkeep, so he is living with her. I've stayed overnight there a few times, but there is no real privacy with his sister there. In the past few days, I have switched things up and I asked if we could stay at his house..............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty seven years old and my sister is forty five. I'm staying with her and her live in boyfriend of seven years. I've been having sex with her boyfriend and it started after I was here only a week. For years, the sexual tension has been strong between me and her boyfriend, but I was married at the time. A few years ago. She mentioned it, but she wasn't mad. I wondered if it was on her mind when I moved in with him, but it's like she doesn't care at all....................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My boyfriend is married and we've been together for a year and a half. He calls me his wife two point zero or the new and improved version of his wife. We met when he came in to pay his property taxes. He was so fine that all the women in my office did a double take. I started flirting with him instantly before one of the other girls snagged him. I gave him my number and he came over late that evening........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a single mother of a seventeen year old high school senior. I had my daughter when I was forty, and my grandma loves to say that babies are for young people. She got that right. On Friday night, I went to the movies and my daughter went to the basketball game at her school. Another parent called and said, my daughter left the game early and she was wondering if everything was okay. I felt like she was trying to tell me something without telling me something. I could not get my daughter on the phone, so I ended my date early and went home...................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been in a relationship for twelve years and my girlfriend confessed that she cheated on me seven years ago. She blurted it out during an argument and it cut like a knife. I have never cheated on her when I could have, I remained faithful. The worst part for me is that she won't tell me who she cheated with. She thinks that clearing her conscience is enough and I should be able to deal with it and move on, but I can't. How can she halfway confess it could be one of my friends, co-workers, a guy at the gym, or even a family member?........................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty eight years old and I have a two year old and a two month old. My husband and I have been married two years and we've been busy growing our family, but not on purpose. He has an eighteen year old son and he told me that having more children wasn't high on his list of priorities when I met him, but as soon as we held our first daughter together, he started saying he wanted another son. Then we had our second daughter two months ago and he still mentions wanting another. I have to try to avoid him in the house because he can't keep his hands to himself...................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I live about thirty minutes away from the city on his family's land, and we're renovating the home he grew up in. I used to love being away from the madness of the city, but now my country bumpkin in-laws have moved in on us. It's their land, so we can't say anything about them living right across from us. When my husband's grandmother died, everyone started fighting over who would get her house. Unfortunately, she had a will and it stated that the house belongs to my father in-law. So they left a house they built in 2018 to live on the family's land...................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, When I met my new friend, it was like a fairytale romance. I'm twenty eight and he's thirty five and perfect for me because I prayed for an older man but not too old. He has a photography studio and I booked him for a Christmas photo shoot for me and my daughter.  After the photo shoot, he asked me to have dinner with him, so my daughter and I went to dinner with him. After that, he planned dinner dates with us every night that week. I couldn't wait for my daughter to go to her dad's later that week so I could spend quality time with my new friend. He had kept telling me how good he was in bed, and I couldn't wait to see. It was supposed to go down at his house, but it was raining really badly, so he came over to my house.......................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm fifty four years old and I'm married to my third husband. I have a tendency to get bored in relationships, so I was really trying to make my marriage work. I get hit on by men at least three times a week and I always have to flash my diamond ring so men know I'm taken. I guess it's my cute dimples and my sweet voice. Each one of my husbands told me that it's the baby talk that drove them crazy. Whatever it is, I know I can always get a man. But my current husband is boring and he's not into explicit videos or role playing. We've only been married two years and he's already stopped flipping me around when we're intimate..................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married to a caveman and he invades my space all day every day. We've been together for eight years and married for four years. We work from home and we were sharing our home office until I moved my desk into the foyer to get away from him. As soon as you walk in our front door, my desk is right there. It looks junkie, but I'm willing to endure the mess over having him in my personal space all day. When he's not working, he's on the phone gossiping with one of his friends or co workers, and he talked so loudly that I can't get work done.......................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley,  As a man, I'm ashamed to write you for help, but I don't know what to do with my girlfriend. I met her at a cookout and we bonded instantly because we have a lot of mutual friends. She was gorgeous and had white toenail polish, glowing skin, and flowing hair. We've been together for almost two years, and I moved in with her because we were spending every night together. Anyway, I pay all the household expenses as a man. I know I'm supposed to do that, but I mentioned it for a reason. I'm handling all of the bills and her car is paid for. She might buy the grocery sometimes, but usually she puts them on my AMEX, so that leads me to believe that she is stacking her money, and I'm cool with that...................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband is very particular about all of his things. He had a professional organizer come and do his side of the closet and I had to have a tantrum to get him to pay to get my closet done. I'm so glad we have separate closets because with my busy schedule and a newborn, I don't have time to keep my closet neat like his. My husband has a shopping addiction too. When he goes to hang with his boys, he needs a new shirt or a new jogging suit or new dress pants. I have asked him a million times if he's really going to hang with his friends, because he is dressed so nicely. He has a thing about his underwear too. There is only one designer that he will wear, and they're expensive.....................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty two years old and single because I will not tolerate a drunk living in my house. My ex and I got into a big argument because for the past two years he's been drunk when we are intimate and whenever I want him to be on his best behavior, his Hennessy is like liquid confidence, and he has been sneaking it in on me. I don't drink like that anymore. Back when we first met, though, I used to to try to out drink him..................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am dating a cheater and he just asked me to marry him, and I was thinking of saying yes, but then one of his side chick's pressed charges against me. In November I found my man on the side of a building in his car, naked from the waist down, and a woman was running across the parking lot away from his car because she saw me pulling up. I fired a warning shot with an air gun that I keep just to scare a criminal away. When the gun went off, she got scared and fell like she had been shot...........................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I was married for four short years and my ex husband and I are still really good friends, but we can't seem to get along well enough to live together. I moved to a nearby city to start over so I wouldn't have to run into him all the time. As soon as I moved and got a job transfer, I started dating a guy at work. I've been seeing him for a little over a year, and we have a lot in common except sex drive. So a few days ago I drove back to my old stomping grounds to finalize my divorce. Then my ex husband and I ended up having sex in a parking lot of the courthouse. He followed me home over an hour away, and we got busy all night..............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty nine years old and my husband is forty two. I stopped working a nine to five when my tax business took off two years ago. I run a small office space and I offer debt relief services after tax season. In my mind, my husband never expected me to do so well and make so much money. He started hating on me early on, and he was negative about every advancement I made in getting set up. He wouldn't even come to my office until I have moved in it. He's really upset that I am making a lot more money than he is, so that's a problem..........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband of fourteen years must be losing his mind because he cheated on me once and I took him back. So he's got to be crazy to do it again at this stage of our lives. We got our marriage back on track after his affair, and I haven't. I hadn't suspected anything else was going on until November. He started going to bed early and getting up before I got up, so we couldn't have sex. My intuition told me to keep an eye on him, and my intuition never fails. My husband is cheating again and the woman lives in Maryland.....................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a teacher and I cater events and I do weekly meal prep for three people. My husband gets to feast on the leftovers, and he loves my cooking. He also loves my cookie. I am a well rounded wife and I provide my husband with good food and good loving. Wherever he wants it, he gets it, and as soon as we're done he wants a full meal. That's fine and dandy, but it's a problem when it's late at night or early in the morning and he has to eat a full meal afterwards. Something about the cookie makes him so hungry.............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I caught my husband on the phone with a female reminiscing about the sex they had earlier that day. I tried to control my laughter so he wouldn't hear me. I was cracking up inside because the girl was talking about how he put it down and it was the best she had in a long time. She sounded young, so I wondered how many men she'd been with. I was very relieved to hear that they used protection..............................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty eight years old and I've been with the same man for five years and he's not focused on marriage or taking our relationship further, but he won't let me go. He accuses me of seeking attention from other men because of the way I dress and I see that as him not trusting me. He's so paranoid all the time, so I reassure him that I'm not up to no good when I'm hanging out with my friends. I told myself i'd give him another year to propose. I would never tell him about my deadline because I don't want him to propose unless he really wants to........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for eleven years and can honestly say that I trusted my wife and loved her unconditionally, but now I'm questioning our commitment because she lied and withheld information. The week before Christmas, she and her best friend went to Orlando to do some Christmas shopping and she transferred thousands of dollars to her personal account, like six thousand dollars, but I was cool with it because she works hard and she is a great mom.  While she was gone, I took the kids to Tennessee to visit with my parents. My wife and I were both distracted, so we didn't talk much during the few days we were apart. I told her that I would be back in time to pick her up from the airport, but she said she would ride with her best friend......................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 34 years old and my significant other is 39 and we’ve been together for 3 years. I call him my significant other because he has yet to define our relationship. We started as friends, just like most couples do and as we got closer, he told me that he didn’t want anything serious but he enjoyed spending time with me. We started having sex a month after we met and at that time, I was very busy at work and helping my sister with her new baby, so I was not ready for anything serious either.............................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am an older married woman and this is my second marriage. When I met my husband, he was extremely handsome and generous. We connected spiritually and he joined my church. We didn’t court for long and he said he knew I was his soulmate the minute we met. I knew things could be going too fast because I’m his third wife, but I felt the same connection to him so I agreed to marry him................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months and he’s the best man I’ve ever been with and he treats me really good. There’s a situation that I’m dealing with and my man doesn’t understand why it’s bothering me. When we first met, he had just gotten a divorce. I mean it was literally finalized the day before I met him. Because it was a quick divorce, he was still living in the house he shared with his wife.....................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27 year old man and I have a best friend and we've been super tight for years. We have been thru all the good and bad girlfriends together and now that he’s married, I want to tell him so bad that his wife is too much. She’s too much of everything. She’s tall, thick, wears big hair, big lashes and her nails and toe nails are very long.....................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am having a major problem. My fiancé and I have been together for almost 2 years. She is 37 and I am 29. In the early stages, we use to throw down in the bedroom! I'm talking about doing it everywhere like 5 times a week and multiple sessions at a time, to the point where we ended up with bruises or bite marks. Her hair could never stay done back then. But lately, I can barely get her to take care of my needs and her mood about sex has drastically changed..................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 48 year old single, educated and professional woman that has never been married. I have dated 3 guys in the last 8 years and decided to give it a rest until recently when I met a very nice man that works with my aunt. We talked a few weeks over the phone before we met. Then he called me one day and said he’d been in a bad car accident and his face hit his steering wheel so he had to have emergency oral surgery and all he could think about was me....................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 32 year old single man and I started a sexual relationship with a female that hangs out with me and my boys. She’s like one of the boys and we party together, work out together and she travels with us on our annual guys’ trip. She is a good friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We’ve never talked about her love life, but I assumed she never dated a man before. We’ve been friends since middle school and she has always been a pretty girl........................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I are in our late 30s and we’ve been together for almost 20 years. We have 4 children and we always had a robust sex life until 2 years ago when everything changed. My husband gradually lost interest in sex and whenever we’d try, he would stop in the middle of it and tell me he was tired. I had no idea what was wrong with him and I started to think that he wasn’t attracted to me anymore. One night when he told me no to sex, I started crying. He finally came clean and admitted that he was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes and it affected his ability to perform..............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been kicked out of my church and I need some advice. I attended a very messy church and if you did not do things the way the pastor thought you should, he would call you out. I have had a few run-ins with him over stuff I post on my personal Facebook page. I told him that I can post what I want on my page and it has nothing to do with him or the church. I’m sure the real problem was the fact that I was sleeping with one of the deacons, but the pastor couldn’t say anything because everybody knew he was having an affair............

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been in a relationship for 4 years and my boyfriend and I live 3 hours apart. We’ve always been in a long-distance relationship and I thought everything was fine, until recently. He started talking about marriage after we dated 2 years and he said he would gladly move to Philly to be with me. I got all excited about marriage and I started preparing myself emotionally and financially to be with him for the rest of my life....................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, about 2 years ago I messed around with my sister’s husband after a drunken night out. I made him swear that nothing would ever happen between us again. We managed to stay away from each other but he would text me often, begging for just one more night with me. He would tell me how sexy I am and I’m the best he’s ever had and he’s with the wrong sister and all of that......................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm on my second marriage and there's an issue in my marriage. My husband was married for 18 years and he's got two daughters and joint custody of them. I have a daughter that lives with us. We've blended the family nicely and his daughters are sweet to my daughter, but they like to remind her that their father is not her father. My husband is not good at setting boundaries for his ex-wife. When we started dating, he let me know that he and his ex are friends and whatever he does for her is for his daughters. I can accept that, but when it gets to be too much, I step in to help him set boundaries...................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 42 year old single mother of a son that is 20 years old. My son’s girlfriend just had a baby that is fair skinned and they both are chocolate. This girl is 21 and a dancer at a bar across town. She says she’s not a stripper but that’s all she is. My son is afraid to ask this girl for a paternity test, so I did. When my son went to visit the baby, she jumped on him and then called me and said if I keep putting my son up to this foolishness, I would be next....................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for 14 years and I have a busy schedule as a high school basketball coach. After years of marriage, my wife still doesn’t get how stressed I am around this time of year and she had been pressuring me to buy a Christmas tree and have it up by December 1st. I missed her deadline cause of my schedule.........................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm in a long distance relationship with a man that my daughter hooked me up with. He's a bodybuilder, and my daughter met him at her gym. She said, "She was looking in the mirror working out when he came and stood in front of her to see himself in the mirror." She said, "other than being vain, he's extremely quiet and nerdy." He and I talked a lot in the beginning, and it was fun to have someone to talk to.........................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm in love with another man, and I just need to make it through the holidays with my current boyfriend so I can dump him and get with the new guy, but, I need your advice before I let a sure thing go and move on to a fairy tale lover. I don't want to leave my current boyfriend just yet, because he is getting my brakes fixed on my car and he's getting me a bracelet that I want for Christmas. I already saw it hiding in his drawer, so I'm doing all I can to stay faithful until the new year. My new man is in a similar situation, but he's married. He advised me to stay put while he lets his marriage fizzle on out.......................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been married for eight years and we have three children under age six. That means I'm always tired and trying to get a nap whenever I can. If I happen to be in the bed lying down or on the couch lying down, my husband thinks it's a perfect time for him to ask for sex. Although I might be very tired at the moment, I will always give him a quickie so he won't feel neglected. I don't want to be so tired that I make him go seek intimacy from another woman. Last week, I was so tired that I fell asleep a couple of times during intimacy and my husband did not stop.............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, One of my sister's best friends has been dating a man for ten years and he hasn't proposed to her yet, but he's cheated on her several times. He swore that he would never cheat on her again and he joined her church to gain her trust back so she wouldn't leave him. She's still with him and she started to suspect he was cheating again after he turned his phone off her few times while he was out at night. My sister had a brilliant idea that was supposed to help her friend out.............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley. I met a man online and he's a decent guy with a good job and a great set of friends. We've gone on double dates with my friends and his friends, and I did that because that's how you get to really know a person. The drawback of it is that my friends also get to point out the bad things about my man. We had a double date with my best friend and her man and my best friend.  He said that it's too soon for my man to be as hands on as he is, meaning he can't talk without touching me. She said he was going to start pressuring me for sex too soon. She was spot on with that one, so I couldn't be mad at her...............

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Dear Steve and Shirley. I used to think I was the luckiest girl in my city because of who I was dating. My boyfriend is tall, with creamy brown skin and a decent body. He's on the city council, and he sits on the board of a very prestigious private club in our city, and he's known for making things happen in our community. Dating him is not what I expected it to be, though. As soon as he changes out of his suit, he reverts to the little boy from the hood, and it's scary to be around him. He won't just have one drink, it's half the bottle. So I have to entertain him and laugh at his drunken sense of humor................................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm dating a man that goes overboard to please me. We've been together for three years, and from our first date until today, he's always done too much. Our first date was at a place where you could eat and play games. I wore a dress and a pair of heels, and he came in workout clothes. I didn't know where he was taking me, so I was shocked. When we pulled up. He made us matching shirts to wear and told me that he wanted to see how good I was at basketball............................................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a fifty one year old man and I have a wife, but I haven't lived with her in four years. It's a long story, but I'll try to make a brief. Four years ago, my cousin had a bad divorce and he needed somewhere to stay, so my wife and I let him rent one of our side of a duplex we own. I made him promise to be respectful to my older tenant that shared the duplex with him, because she's a Christian woman that loves peace and quiet. He moved in, and in less than two weeks, the old lady called me to complain about sex noises coming from his side of the duplex........................

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been friends with my boyfriend for seven years.  I met him at work and there's another girlfriend of ours that is our bestie.  We were inseparable back when we met and it was a shocker for our other friend when we started dating it just kind of happened that one night.  We talked until the sun came up and we ended up having sex on the top of his car.  He told me that it's always been me the apple of his eye the girl of his dream and my heart melted.  I called our other friend to tell her the news and she started crying.  I asked if she was happy or sad and she said both.  She explained that she didn't want to lose our friendship but she was happy that we finally hooked up because all he did was talk about me...................................

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