So often, we find ourselves stuck in the same old patterns, grappling with conflicts or feeling disconnected. We try workshops, therapy, self-help books, but somehow, things just don't stick.

After today's episode, you'll understand why and what steps to take next. Through working in this way, I've seen couples completely turn things around in as little as three days, or a couple of focused weeks. But what I'm about to share isn't just for those who work with me. It's a roadmap for anyone seeking to improve their relationship – a blueprint for success. So today I'm going to show you how best to use your precious energy.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

And more. 


“The reason we've been doing things the way we've been doing them is because of the patterns we brought into the relationship. We have deep devotion to repeating our patterns because at some point those patterns were survival level necessary” -Michele Lisenbury Christensen

I hope this episode has shed some light on the patterns that might be holding you back in your relationships. Remember, you have the power to transform these patterns and create the love and connection you truly desire. Until next time, may your journey to self-discovery and relational growth be filled with joy and fulfillment.

Learn more about Terry Real at Terry Real - Relational Life Therapy.

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

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I was so grateful to sit down and record with my teacher, Eric Klein, the founder of​Wisdom Heart​ along with his wife, Devi. I wanted you to hear from him what he's teaching me about my body, mind, spirit, and the way that those interact with the experiences I have in my marriage, my earning, my business -- pretty much in every area of my life.

I am thrilled for you all to hear Eric talk with us about some of the ways that you can apply planetary astrology, the chakras, meditation, and the spiritual path in general to evolve more of what you want in love and life.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

And more.  

“Intimacy is another word for awakening  because it's really reducing the layers of self protection  in order to become more and more connected to life. The most potent aspects of life come to us as human beings.” -Eric Klein

I hope that you feel as nourished and inspired as I do after hearing from Eric. My wish for you is that you receive life’s gentle, insistent, invitations to more fullness and wholeness.

Learn more and connect with Eric atwisdomheart.comor@wisdom.hearton Instagram!

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

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So many women come to me wanting to turn up their libidos and experience more and better orgasms. I start by asking them 11 questions that, on the surface, don’t seem directly related to erotic desire. But the answers that women give me tell me a ton about their relationships with themselves,  their turn-on, their bodies, their sensations, and with their capacity to contain embodied experiences, both desired experiences and not desired experiences.

In this episode, I'm going to ask you those same 11 questions that tell me whether or not you are in a robust, joyful relationship with your own desires, receptivity, and pleasure. You’ll hear about:

And more. 

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“Our capacity for pleasant sensations is always conscribed by our capacity for unpleasant, unwanted sensations, the things we fear, the things we're angry about, the things that we have grief about.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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I hope that these 11 questions help you see where you can build your capacity to delight in sensation. My wish is that you pick just one area to begin to shift today with the intention of deepening your relationship with yourself, your body, your felt sensations, your yes, your no, and your desire.

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The term “gaslighting” has become a buzzword in recent years and, because of its widespread use, the meaning of this term has become a bit murky. In a nutshell, gaslighting is when you are experiencing something and endeavoring to talk to the other person about it, but they flip it around on you so that you wind up questioning yourself, your own character, motivations, and even grip on reality. Today, I want to talk about what I call “gaslighting lite” or the ways that understanding the gaslight effect can help you navigate when gaslighting behaviors show up in your otherwise healthy relationship.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

And more. 

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“Subconscious parts of us react in a knee-jerk fashion that might be out of character for us, might almost be like a different person's behavior, and that subconscious part does that in order to protect the blind spot.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope that this episode gives you a starting place to begin to unravel this gaslighting lite cycle and illuminate ​​the blind spots that will turn into areas of new life for you and your partner.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

We Can Do Hard Things Podcast: Are You Being Gaslighted?

The Gaslight Effect by Dr. Robin Stern

The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide by Dr. Robin Stern

What is DARVO?  by Dr. Jennifer J. Freyd

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You may have heard the term “patriarchy” used to describe a social and political construct, but, as my mentor, Terry Real, explains, it is also a psychological notion. The way that patriarchy defines rigid gender roles becomes subconsciously embedded in the way we think and behave, which has deep implications for both partners inside a relationship. How can we recognize when psychological patriarchy is at play and what can we do to counteract it? 

In this episode, I’ll discuss:

And more. 

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“We can't build deeper, sweeter relationships than we've had, than our parents have had, than all the ones we've seen around us without dismantling some of the structures that have been invisible to us, that have stopped us from having true partnership, true equality, true intimacy.”

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope that you give yourself grace as you begin to untangle all the deep and complicated beliefs about gender and relationships that are holding you back. It is my wish that you continue to heal from psychological patriarchy and grow in love together.

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Kurt and I have been married for almost 23 years and we're planning on another 50 to 75 together. We think, in terms of taking care of our bodies, minds and spirits and given the way technology is going, we could each live to be well over a hundred which gives us an amazingly long time to grow in love together and to contribute in so many other parts of our lives. Today's episode is about how we think about what I call, for shorthand “The 100-Year Marriage” and how you could think about it too. 

In this episode, we’ll cover:

And more. 

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“You get to have any marriage, you're up for creating.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope that your love can be a fountain that nourishes everything around it, an oasis that creates aliveness spreading out and out and out from you as a couple.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

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At 50 or 60 years old, you don’t have the same career, health, finances, or family life that you did when you were 30. Why should your sex life be the same as it was 20 years ago?  As we age, our bodies go through natural changes that can affect our sexual experiences and desires. This leads people to believe that they are no longer able to have the sexual experiences they used to. I’m here to tell you that fulfilling and pleasurable sex is possible at any age.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

And more. 

“If we can get out of the goal orientation, then we don't feel as acutely that "loss" of the way that we were used to performing in our thirties and forties. That opens up the doorway to the kind of sex that's possible now.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen.

Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope this episode inspires you to live into your sexuality exactly as you are now without judgment or anxiety. And I wish you many, many more years of yummy pleasure and connection.

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.


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Kurt and I just enjoyed celebrating our 25th Valentine's Day together, but, truthfully, we try to live like every day is V-Day. We know that love is a habit and a skill set that requires effort and practice 365 days a year. If you want a love that gets better over time, you need to intentionally date your partner all year long, not just on holidays or anniversaries. In today’s episode, I’ll give you a year’s worth of date ideas that will bring you closer and deeper in love.

We’ll talk about:

And more.  

Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope those 10 ideas spark years worth of phenomenal dates for you and your partner and that this practice of dating helps you build the skills that deepen your intimacy.You candownload the 10 Kinds of Dates printableto get a quick reminder of each kind of date and brainstorm your own ideas.

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You can find me on Instagram at @michelelisenbury. Let's connect!

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Whenever I say that I help couples create Legacy Love, the people I’m talking to light up because they're the kind of people who have a vision for their whole life. They want to leave a legacy in this lifetime and creating a love worth kind of handing down, something that goes far beyond just the couple to bless others, appeals to them. But, as great as that sounds, a lot of people ask me, what do you really mean by Legacy Love and what does that entail?

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

And more.  

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“Love is not just a feeling. It's a skill set. It's a capacity is something that we need to grow on, work on, expand upon every day, a little bit at a time.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

My wish for you is that you cultivate a Legacy Love that will energize and sustain you through the years. I hope that your love will continue to grow and that the light within and between you will illuminate the world around you.

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In this episode, I'll walk you through a couple of the ways that I've been helping clients for more than 20 years to review their old year and vision their new year. Visioning together is one of the foundations of Legacy Love; creating a relationship that's not just good, not just great, but builds your impact in the world, the legacy you want to leave behind, for not just you and your beloved, but your family, your community and the greater world.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

And more. 

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“What I know for sure, is that making review and visioning a lifestyle, a decade after decade commitment, will transform the trajectory of your life and of your relationship.”

“So often, our greatest transformations do come on the margin, just by changing one thing, if it's well chosen, we can dramatically change the trajectory of our lives and our relationships.”
-Michele Linsebury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Couples’ Guide to an Amazing New Year
Reviewing Your Year in Love and Sexpodcast episode

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How far are you willing to go to create the passionate marriage you want? Are you ready to try anything? If you’re like many of my clients, you’re willing to do whatever it takes to create a connected, turned-on relationship. And I believe you can do it. Unfortunately, there’s no silver bullet that will resolve your conflicts and create closeness. You may have already tried many different strategies but still don’t see the desired results. In today’s episode, I’m going to talk about some of the solutions you can try in your quest to have the kind of love and sex in your marriage that you want.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

And more. 

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“We have to believe in something that we've never seen in order to bring it about and we have to push through the conventional wisdom of our time in order to create it”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

 Wherever you are on this ultimate journey of depth and devotion, and whatever your next step is, I wish you all the best. I want for you the love, sex, pleasure and intimacy with yourself, your partner and the divine that you want.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: (if applicable)

Toys in Babeland

Lelo.com

Laura Corn

David Deida

John Wineland

John Gottman, The Gottman Institute

Terry Real

Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication

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If you feel like you are wasting your time and energy being upset about the same things month after month, year after year, the good news is that there’s a way out. You can break the cycle of hurt and resentment that keeps you from living the life you want. Sound good? Today's episode will equip you to free yourself from any grudge, irritation, frustration, resistance or anger that you may be carrying and take your power back.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

And more.  

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Resentment Remodeling Process Worksheet

“Most people want to be fair about their own role in their problems. We want to take responsibility. We want to feel agency and we want to be able to move past what's in the past. The bottom line is though, we never really learned how.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope that this tool brings you great peace and helps you return to your power. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

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In my coaching practice and in my life, I hear so many questions about family planning; how to decide, when to start, and how many kids to have. The list goes on. There are strong societal expectations around becoming parents that can keep us from realizing what we really want and what’s best for us and our relationships. In this episode, I decided to round up my thoughts on some of the common questions I get around children and their effect on relationship that you may be considering

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

And more. 

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“It's okay that we grow up alongside our children. I think it's part of the human design that as we're raising a child, we are simultaneously re-parenting the part of ourselves that is the same age as that child.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:

 My hope for you is that you and your partner find intentionality, joy and meaning in your decisions around family, no matter what that may look like. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Bringing Baby Home workshop
And Baby Makes Three by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

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While I’m not a clinical psychology professional, I often work with couples who have discovered that their brains are wired in completely different ways. This realization often arises when one partner (or both) consistently behaves in a way that creates friction between them, totally baffling the other. As humans, our brains are wonderfully diverse and have unique strengths, but it’s hard to understand what’s going on in your partner’s head when their experience is so different from your own. Today, I’ll share my perspective on recognizing the differences between you and your partner and how those insights can help us see the same patterns in a very different context.

As you listen to this episode, you’ll hear about:

And more.

Note: I use the term “ADD” in this episode to refer to what is now categorized in the DSM as “ADHD predominantly inattentive type” because it is the term used when I was diagnosed.

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“If we can take it out of the context of "What’s wrong with you?" and really understand difference, we go a long way to having a much more mutually satisfying relationship. And this kind of insight saves marriages.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

 I celebrate you and your partner exactly as you are. May you find new ways to fit ever better together.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

Quiet by Susan Cain

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If it feels like you're in a dry spell- your desires don’t match up, you’re not that interested, or it’s hard to transition from your everyday life to a really fulfilling sexual encounter, this episode is for you. Today I want to talk with you about what I think of as "nano sex." It's those little microscopic, erotic connections that create a lubricant in your day-to-day experience together to help us get to full-blown erotic encounters and get more pleasure out of our daily connection. 

As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn:

And more. 

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“I don't think sex goes away when we get older. Sex goes away when we get busy. Sex goes away when we live with each other for a long time and learn all of each other's foibles. Sex goes away when our insecurities get projected onto a partner.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope you'll decide to cultivate this practice with your partner throughout your days together and will reap the benefits of pleasure and connection. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

5 Winning Relationship Strategies Episode

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Something your partner did cause you pain and frustration. You want to tell them what hurt you, but you seem to always end up in a fight when you bring it up. Sound familiar? In this episode, I get into the specifics of how you can deliver feedback about something your partner did and what you'd like them to do differently in a way that actually gets results. Every single couple has to have these conversations, but you can develop skills that can reduce the negative fallout and even bring you closer.

As you listen to this episode, you’ll hear about:

And more.

“That's a big part of what relationships can do for us. They give us a safe place to work out old feelings”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

 I hope that today's podcast can help you have conversations in a more productive way and feel like your pains are actually doorways to more closeness, deeper intimacy and more joy together.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Related episodes of Sex.Love.Power:

Defensiveness episode

Poorly Timed Conversations episode

The 5 Winning Relationship Strategies episode

The 5 Losing Relationship Strategies episode

Terry Real’s books:

The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

I Don't Want to Talk about It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

The Settling Down Together Checklist

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These past few weeks have been tough on our nervous systems. Many people are hurting and bewildered. I wondered how I could best help through the podcast, and what came to me was that this popular episode, recorded with my friend Jessica Pullins, PhD, is the best set of tools I can give you to help you pull yourself and others through when your heart and mind are reeling. 

If you have a nervous system, you need this episode.   

And particularly if you ever:

This intro to what's REALLY going on, and what you can do about it, can be life-changing.  It's self-care, it's relationship elevating, it's survival skills. It's good.

As you listen to this episode, you'll learn about:

And more. 

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"If you can find strategies to get back into your body via the senses, that will get you grounded and calm. THAT'S WHAT GROUNDING IS."

- Dr. Jessica Pullins


Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope you find this episode helps you see some of your own and your partner’s experiences in a refreshing new light.  I hope it helps you remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

6. RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Self Regulation Toolkit Download

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Do you find yourself saying, "We're so busy, I feel like roommates?” Or maybe you say, "We know we need to go on dates, but we never seem to get around to it. And then if we do go, a lot of times we get into a fight." Today on Sex. Love. Power., we're talking about spending more time together. Whether that's talking, having fun, or getting naked together. We're going to cover how to recognize the resistance so you can break through those totally understandable obstacles and actually get more closeness and heat between you.

As you listen to this episode, we’ll talk about:

And more. 

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“We need to have more fun together. In order to help us resolve some of these conflicts. It's not the other way around, where we have to resolve these conflicts before we can have fun together.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope that you are inspired to experiment with these ideas just a little bit, and then build from there so that you can give and receive more joy or pleasure and more care.

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

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Do you feel like you're always in charge, like you're always handling all the heavy lifting in your shared life? Or do you ever feel your partner can be so controlling or perfectionistic that you tend to hang back? Both of these situations are issues of what I call polarity - the interaction between dominance and submission (and, no, I’m not just talking about in bed). If you want to go from frustration and jockeying for position, or avoiding conflict, over to playful, effective interactions sizzling with energy, this is the episode for you. 

As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn:

And more. 

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“We tend to reject so many of the sensations of aliveness that arise because we put them in that box that we label ‘bad sensations.’ So tear the label off that box and follow the sensations that are arising now.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope that whether you are choosing to lead or to follow, you use these keys to polarity to create delicious connections and deeper love.

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I want to devote a whole episode to the topic of defensiveness: how we engender it in each other, and why we get defensive ourselves. This is one of the biggest things I see stopping couples from communicating effectively, from connecting more deeply, and from experiencing more turn-on and erotic charge in their relationships. So if you've had defensiveness on either side of the conversation, this episode is for you.

As you listen to this episode, we’ll cover:

And more. 
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“It's a tremendous challenge and opportunity to be fresh in today's conversation, rather than to call up that whole library of painful experiences that everybody, even in a good relationship, has over years and years together, because you're both human.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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I wish for every couple listening today is to be able to talk about the most tender things, the most raw things, the deepest reactions you have to one another because those contain the gold of both your personal evolutions and the most intimate relationship that you can possibly have with each other.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Arbinger Institute books

Self-Regulation Toolkit Part I: Regulating The Freeze Response

Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 2: Fight or Flight

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This week, I'm bringing back the most popular episode of the podcast for your listening pleasure.

The 12 Elements of Power framework is more relevant now than ever for for us as feminists who don't want to think about power in an essentialist sense, don't want to think that there are particular qualities that we don't have access to because that hasn't been our lived experience. What we know is that we have within us, for instance, both the capacity to be self-reliant, and the capacity to be connected. Those are two of the elements of power. And all of the elements come in pairs like this that we'll talk through today. 

In this episode, we’ll talk about :

Hot Moments in this episode:

I hope you find this episode is just what you need to hear as you navigate your relationship in these intense times. I hope you are able to remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness.  And I hope you let the light within you illuminate the world around you.

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This is a different kind of episode. Often, I record podcast episodes about things that have come up with clients recently or I initiate out of conversations that I feel like we need to have in the culture that we haven't been having. Today's episode is about a topic that is blowing my mind right now, because I didn't think of it this way until I was reading this amazing book, "The Audacity to Be You" by Brad Reedy. In this episode, I want to talk about Reedy’s concept of the “three circles” because I believe that this concept is at the heart of intimacy. And it's also at the root of most conflict, especially between two people.

As you listen to this episode, you'll discover:

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“The inner work of being an adult is to find those pieces of ourselves that we've disowned, that we thought weren't lovable, that we thought that no one could both see and care about us and to bring those backup.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


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RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
The Audacity to be You by Brad Reedy

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You've tried therapy before, and it didn't get you where you wanted to go. Maybe it helped. Many people report to me that it got them on the right path, but not really to their goals. My goal is to help couples not just reduce the “itching, burning and swelling”- the immediate pains that they're facing when they come to me- but truly create a great relationship. And, truly, what many of the couples that come to me want is to go from a good really solid relationship to a great relationship, which I call Legacy Love. Today, we're going to talk about why couples counseling often doesn't get couples to that place, and how to make sure that next time you do make an investment in your relationship, it can get you where you really want to go.

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“Our rates of normal marital mediocrity can be chalked up to not having a high enough vision and a deep enough devotion to being one another's person.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


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 I hope this episode gives you what you need to seek the support that will help the two of you keep going all the way to the shining, emotional and energetic aliveness that you really want in our relationship. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Tony Porter Man Box Ted Talk

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There are some serious ways that our partners can be stuck. Many clients and members of my audience have approached me with concerns like, "I just need him to get a job and nothing I've tried has worked" or "Her drinking is really concerning to me, but it's not concerning to her so she's not about to get into recovery.” It's very reasonable that your partner might feel terrified to make a particular change and you may be the only voice or the loudest voice asking them to change. Today's episode is about how we get our partners on board with something that we really want, but that perhaps you've spent years trying to get through to them about and it hasn't worked. 

In this episode, I’ll walk you through:

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“I assure you, you were built for more. If you are living in a way that is hobbled by your partner’s under-functioning or under-living, they deserve and you deserve so much more.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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I hope that you get to a place where this kind of invitation is just a working part of who you are as a couple; that you keep leapfrogging into new possibilities. erotically emotionally, career-wise,  This is a never-ending road, not of difficulty and pain, but of potential and joy, growth, freedom, and pleasure. And that's what I want for you.

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Think for a moment about what conditions you thrive under, what sets you up to be your happiest, your healthiest, most balanced, joyful self. When that thing is missing it functions like a rock in your shoe. You're not unable to keep walking is just a little bit more painful. That’s how an unmet need can feel and how it can create tension and unhappiness in your life. Today, I want to address what needs are and what they aren't, and how you know. We'll talk about what's possible when your needs get met, and what to do when they're not.

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"Desires are the marching orders that the divine writes on our hearts. They speak to who we are to be in this world."
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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I hope that you're taking away a bright vision of yourself as an organism that has needs that you might not have pinpointed yet, but that you can get acquainted with. And I hope that you can see that when you honor those needs, you do a service not just to yourself, but to your partner and everyone you're close to and truly to the whole world. 

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This topic is very close to my heart and it is one of the central beliefs that informs all the work I do with my clients. Today,  I'm here to tell you that you deserve and are capable of experiencing pleasure no matter where you are in life. In my latest episode, we talk about how you can bring more of that pleasure and aliveness into your marriage.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

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I'm here to tell you that pleasure is absolutely possible at any age. And beyond possible, it's absolutely worthy and beautiful and it is our birthright.
-Michele Linsebury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope you pursue that shining vision of what you can be, have, enjoy, and experience. You deserve it, you are worthy of it.

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Let me ask you a personal question (or a few). Do you have fantasies about sex with other people? Do you have sometimes active desires to consummate those fantasies? Do you wonder what that means about you or about your partner? I’m going to guess you answered “yes” to at least one of these questions. And you know what? That is all totally okay. Today we're going to talk about your desire for sex with other people and start to dig in to what that could mean for you.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

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“ I think of sexual fantasies as being like a Pensieve, they show us ourselves. You can see yourself in your desires.”

-Michele Linsenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

My wish for you is that, after listing to this episode, you choose to be gentle with yourself when you have fantasies, desires and urges. Don't push them down. Don't chastise yourself for having them. Instead, I hope that you stay curious about and open yourself to the aliveness that is awaiting you on the other side.

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Money is a hot topic, especially in relationship to love and sex in long-term relationships. Money is energy, and it's power. How you handle money together shapes so much of the rest of your experience of your partnership and how you feel about yourself. So, today, I thought I'd dive into it in an episode about my money, our money, your money, and look at the relationship side and the erotic side of what happens with couples and money.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear learn:

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“Money is like a mirror, it will reflect whatever we hold up to it.”
  - Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

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 I hope that whatever you choose to do together with money, do it consciously, communicate openly, explore the meaning that you've made up, and rewrite the meanings.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

Money Harmony by Olivia Mellan and Sherry Christie

YNAB (You Need a Budget)

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I am a nerd for planning. I love to envision the future. I love to review the past. And New Year's time is totally a time when I want to look over the past year and see the themes and then set intentions for the new year with my husband. But pretty early in our relationship, I got the picture that Kurt was not a planner in the same way that I was. And perhaps you can relate. I find that in most couples, there's one person who's way more into this stuff than the other. And that's perfectly alright. I'm here to help both of you have a peaceful and joyful way of moving through a process of really capturing the gems from the past year, setting intentions for the coming year, and keeping your relationship on a really powerful trajectory. 

As you listen to this episode, we’re talking about:

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"Truly amazing relationships get stronger over time, instead of grinding each other down over time. They're intentional."

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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 I wish you a blessed new year. I hope that each year of your life together is even better than the one before. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

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"If I'm such a visionary about relationship, and my partner doesn't think that way, isn't that a problem?" This is a question I have heard many times and one I asked myself in my relationship, too.  It’s a big responsibility and can feel like a burden. But what I have come to see is that I am someone who has been gifted with the opportunity to hold vision. So in this episode, I'm going to share with you what I've learned about being a visionary in love. I'm going to answer some of those key questions that visionaries often ask me, and I'm going to call you up, I'm going to invite you into courage and into action in the role of the visionary. 

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

And more.  

“Being the visionary means that we take 100% responsibility for becoming and living from the qualities within ourselves that will bring about that vision.” 

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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 My wish for you is that you see yourself as that visionary, that change agent who is blessed with a vision that others might not yet see, but a vision that will serve you in the world very well, if you nourish yourself well enough to hold the vision and devote yourself to it with self love and perseverance. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

Resources Mentioned in this episode:

Heifer International

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Every year for the holidays, you make it a priority to spend time with your extended family or focus on making magic for your kids, but your relationship becomes an afterthought. Over the last 24 years together, Kurt and I have really focused on this and learned a lot about how to make sure that our holidays are a magical time for us as a couple as well. Together, we outlined the seven paths to hotter, more loving holidays, so that you can create a holiday season that's more pleasurable, intimate, peaceful, and nourishing so that after the holiday, you feel energized and inspired and not depleted.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

And more.  

“I invite you to look at where the pockets are where you might be able to create shared pleasure with your partner and keep yourself orgasm fueled so that you're at your best for the holiday.”

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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I hope you will try out just one or two of these paths to a hotter more loving holiday. My wish is for you to fully experience a magical and sacred time of year that feeds your aliveness. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

Heifer International

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Full show notes & transcript are available at http://lisenbury.com/epsisode/043

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In today's episode, we're gonna follow up our last conversation which was all about the core qualities that make a great lover in a long-term relationship with the other side of that same coin. There are four categories of obstacles to great passionate sex that just gets better for a lifetime. And the results I get with clients all trace back to my devotion to pinpointing and addressing these obstacles in a systematic way. Naturally, that all starts with knowing what those obstacles are in the first place. So that's why today we'll walk through the four obstacles to great passionate sex.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

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“Enjoy your partner's body and your own and reveal your energy to them in a way that no one else gets to see.”

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope you find this episode makes you feel less alone if you’re quietly facing one of these obstacles. My wish is that it will encourage you to take the first step to make your sex life everything you want it to be.

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Would you like to have the kind of sex that surprises you and makes your partner surprised by the emergence of that facet of you? The sort of lovemaking that keeps you both coming back for more? Sex that allows you to call up the energy at the end of the day when you're both tired, but you cannot resist the adventure because you have no idea where it will lead? This episode is for you! I will share four qualities of a great lover, and I’m sure if you apply at least one of the qualities, your relationship will never be the same.

As you listen to this episode, you'll discover:

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“Intimacy is both high sensation and high emotion. If you can't regulate yourself, when there's that much flowing through, it's kind of like if you can't swim in a fast flowing river. And you're going to get carried away by it.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

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I hope you find this episode excites you and inspires you to embrace your inner lover.

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When we own our turn on, it lets us really own the truth of our erotic nature that it is ours and ours alone. If you've been looking for that formula on creating turn on and what we should and shouldn't do, tune in to this week's episode!

This week, we're going to talk about creating turn on. Often, couples come to me wanting to feel more turned on in their relationship. I’m going to say something you might find unexpected: we can’t rely on our partners to turn us on (at least, not completely). From  my experience, turn on is something we create within ourselves. Our turn on has a lot to do with a great many things that take place outside the bedroom outside the erotic arena. 

You cannot afford to miss this episode.

As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn:

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“I firmly believe that turned on women, who have come fully alive to themselves, women who claim and maintain that unicorn space are the key to solving the problems that ail the world.” 

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:

I sincerely hope that this episode has challenged you to turn yourself on to bring out that powerful woman in you.
I’d love to hear what you’re taking away from this episode and what questions you have. What action are you willing to take daily to ensure you turn yourself on?

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We need to talk. One of the conversations I think we need to have is about how to get out of your head during sex. If this applies to you, you’re not alone: so many of my clients get stuck in their heads in bed. And there's a number of reasons for this. 

In this episode, I will talk you through the traps that many people get stuck in that take the enjoyment out of sex and how you can start getting out of your head and into the moment.

As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn:

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Hot Moments in This Episode:

My wish for you is to release yourself from expectation and find deeper connection. I hope you let yourself be worshipped and worship yourself at this temple of pleasure.

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See the full show notes at lisenbury.com/episode/039.

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Do you crave an intimate getaway with your partner? You can make your desire a reality. Many people always feel like having a trip with their partners is impossible, especially if children are involved.

In this episode, I will be sharing how Kurt and I planned and actualized our intimate getaway. I will teach you the three core stages of creating an intimate getaway and creative ways of ensuring your children are well taken care of as you enjoy your trip.

Listen in and learn.

As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn:

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I sincerely hope that this episode has played a role in convincing you that you can have the intimate gateway you have always been craving. All you need is a plan and intention.   

I’d love to hear what you’re taking away from this episode and what questions you have. Feel free to share your experiences, ask questions and get more actionable ideas for creating the love and sex you deeply desire in ways that evolve you.

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My husband, Kurt, and I just got home from our latest adventure to Croatia. It sparked so many thoughts I can’t wait to share with you about why I think it's so important that couples carve out the time to be together, to get a completely different environment, and to have some novelty and adventure. I'm going to share with you over two episodes what we've done, why, and how you can do it, too. In this episode, we're going to dive into all the ways your relationship can benefit from an intimate getaway and tackle the mental blocks that keep you from your next adventure.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

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I hope this episode affords you a new perspective on traveling with your partner.  My wish is that you have many beautiful and enlightening adventures throughout your long lives together.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

Read the full show notes and transcript at https://lisenbury.com/episode/037

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Today, we're going to talk about why I think couples counseling and therapy didn't really do the trick for me and Kurt, and why it may not for you either. To be clear: I’m not here to talk trash about couples counseling at all. I want to explain why I'm evolving a way of working with couples that is very different from anything that we were ever given. And why I think that that's more powerful.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

Hot Moments in This Episode:

I hope you find this episode helps you decide what kind of support will make your relationship flourish.  I wish for you to continue on the path to building a love that will be a model for generations to come. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

View the full show notes and transcript for this episode at https://lisenbury.com/episode/036

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If you listened to my last episode you know I went through the 5 losing communication strategies people often resort to in their relationships.  I promised then to detail the antidotes - the 5 winning relationship strategies that really help us overcome our learned dysfunctional patterns of relating and create healthy, adult connections with our partners.  It’s a practice.  Nobody’s perfect at it, least of all me, but these 5 strategies, as a direction, are like a compass pointing due north - showing us where to turn when we want deeper connection, when we want to be kind, when we want our partner to meet us, and we want to give and receive abundant love and turn-on.

In this episode we’ll cover:

And more.

“Request.  Don’t complain. And never lose sight of what you really want...The winning approach is to wait to talk to your partner about something UNTIL you can be really rooted in a VISION of what you desire.  Where you’re inviting them into something beautiful.”

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen


Hot Moments in This Episode:

I wish for you the beautiful and unique experience of feeling held, seen, and understood in your relationship. And I would love to hear about your journey. My wish for you and for our community is that you'll join the conversation over on the Conscious Couples' Circle at society.lisenbury.com.  It's a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex that you deeply desire in ways that evolve you both. That's all happening at society.lisenbury.com. 

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If you’re realizing your partner isn’t showing up with the capacity for the love or sex or vibrancy you want, deserve, and need

If you have been asking for what you need and they maybe make some moves toward it and then take steps backward and you find yourself asking, “Am I an idiot for staying when I’ve made it clear what I need and my partner doesn’t seem to be changing?”

If you long for a depth of love and sex that you wonder if your partner will EVER be capable of meeting you in

...Then this episode is for you.  And if what I share here makes you slam your hand on the table and shout “YES!  Thank you!  That is what I’ve been feeling and trying to express!  You named it!”  then this might be a good episode to share with your partner.

This episode is a deeply personal one for me and for Kurt.  You need to know upfront that in a different universe he’d be on here talking about this with me… AND that’s not who he is, but also that if you’re hearing this now it’s because he gave me the green light to share the episode I made sharing our story from my perspective.  We are both on a mission to help other couples create the love and sex they really want and to grow into the capacity to have a vibrant, life-giving love even if we didn’t grow up learning how to create that.  He and I just work on this mission in different ways.  

He’s an introverted, intensely private person who has exploded so much of his own cultural conditioning and blown past the models of masculinity, marriage, and fatherhood he grew up with.  He isn’t one to talk about himself, but I’m so grateful for his partnership in my own growth and his vulnerability in letting me be transparent about our growth together AND his support and encouragement for my work.   

I want you to feel seen and supported by this episode, to feel that I really GET how painful a relationship can be when it’s good in many ways and in other ways it’s unworkable to the point that you want to give up.  I HAVE BEEN THERE, and spent years working through those challenges… and I’m grateful to be able to be GLAD to still be with my very human husband and to be able to help others who want to create outrageous love inside the imperfect relationship they already have.

In this episode we talk about:

And more

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If you’ve found yourself feeling not-so-into sex - like you yourself never have the urge, and like even when your partner initiates, you’re not interested… but you wish you were, this episode is for you.  

And if you’re the partner who does want to have sex, whether you try to initiate or you’ve heard “huh-uh” so many times you’re too discouraged to ask again… We need to have this conversation.  

And I want you to know that even though in movies and on tv shows, everybody seems rarin’ to go, all the dang time -- even the harried sitcom couples with kids coming out their ears -- out here in the real world, you two are not alone if you find that one or both of you are singin’ the “want-to-want-to-but-to-be-honest-I-don’t” blues.  
Today’s episode will help because I’m going to introduce you to an important distinction straight out of my Sex Ed for Grownups Course.  

This one notion - I call it the 3 Yeses - is responsible for COUNTLESS sexual encounters between married couples and partnered couples that would not have otherwise happened!  And you’re next!

It will allow you to go from “no way” to “okay” to “NOW!”
  

It will allow you to initiate in ways your partner will respond to warmly… and perhaps, given time, with PASSION

And it will give the two of you a better vernacular with which to communicate about your level of willingness to talk about the possibility of having sex. 


In this episode we talk about:

And more....

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If you’ve found yourself feeling not-so-into sex - like you yourself never have the urge, and like even when your partner initiates, you’re noooootttt interested… but you wish you were, this episode is for you.  

And if you’re the partner who does want to have sex, whether you try to initiate or you’ve heard “huh-uh” so many times you’re too discouraged to ask again… We need to have this conversation.  

And I want you to know that even though in movies and on tv shows, everybody seems rarin’ to go, all the dang time -- even the harried sitcom couples with kids coming out their ears -- out here in the real world, you two are not alone, if you find that one or both of you are singin’ the “want-to-want-to-but-to-be-honest-I-don’t” blues.  

Today’s episode will help, because I’m going to introduce you to an important distinction straight out of my Sex Ed for Grownups Course.  

This one notion - I call it the 3 Yeses - is responsible for COUNTLESS sexual encounters between married couples and partnered couples that would not have otherwise happened!  And you’re next!

It will allow you to go from “no way” to “okay” to “NOW!”  

It will allow you to initiate in ways your partner will respond to warmly… and perhaps, given time, with PASSION

And it will give the two of you a better vernacular with which to communicate about your level of willingness to talk about the possibility of having sex. 

In this episode we talk about:

And more

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If you have a male partner who avoids sex or gets stuck in his head sometimes during sex or about sex, this episode is for you.  

If you or your partner struggle with what the industry tends to call “sexual dysfunction” - which is so pejorative - I do not like any of the medical terms at all - from erections that don’t start or that don’t stay, to ejaculating before you’d like to, not ejaculation when you’d expect to… This episode is for you.

If you are or your partner is a man who is comfortable with sex as long as he’s in control or in charge, or as long as the attention is on the other person, not on him, this episode will be helpful.

And really for anyone who is a man, cares about a man, or walks through the world among men, I believe this episode is really important because it talks about something we don’t talk about:  and that’s the underreported, underdiscussed epidemic of men’s sexual trauma.

This is such an important episode to me because time and again, my male clients will tell me “I’ve never told anybody about this” or “Nobody explains this the way you just did, and it feels like huge burden has been lifted.”  I’m on a mission to lift that burden, to give that relief, to help as many men as possible to feel seen and understood and that they’re normal and they’re not broken and they’re not alone!  So that’s why we’re going to talk about a couple of key things today:

 What sexual trauma IS and how common it is among menThe ways sexual trauma is inflicted for men Ways the conversation is silenced around men’s sexual traumaSigns that you or a many you love is having a trauma response in the sexual realm

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Full show notes & transcript at http://lisenbury.com/epsisode/030

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We’re diving deep into how patriarchy gets into our relationships and messes with both partners, regardless of what gender everyone is.  This episode is a response to a beautiful letter from a listener.  I look forward to hearing your experiences.  What is the role of male privilege in your relationship?  How does psychological patriarchy affect the intimacy and aliveness in your relationship?  Listen in to hear how I define these terms and what a long-time male listener thought and felt when I said “smash the patriarchy” in an email about a prior episode.  

In this episode we talk about:

And more

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If you’re a woman and you feel like you’re always “on”, always have to be handling projects, tasks, and other people’s feelings and needs…. And you just crave to let down, lay back, and have someone else handle it all for YOU now and then… and handle you really well in bed, to boot… This episode is for you.

Or if you love a woman who seems demanding, take-charge, always “on” and seldom satisfied, and you sometimes wonder how you could possibly truly “win” with her… This episode is for you.

In this episode I'm going to share:

And more...

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This episode is your peek behind the scenes of the first six months of Sex. Love. Power. 

My last episode was Episode 26.  I didn't realize until after I had recorded it that that means I've been doing this for half a year. And I was talking with a friend about it and she said, "I want to hear all about that. I want to hear about your process. I want to hear what you've learned.  And I don't even know how you set up a podcast or what was involved. So tell us about it." 

So I thought I would.   Today's episode is for you if you're curious about how I launched the podcast... how I think about it.  
- I'm going to share the story of how I came to name it Sex. Love. Power. and what it was like for me to have sex be the first name of my podcast and some of the things that I was thinking about before that. 
- I'll share a little bit about the tools I use, how my process for creating an episode goes, the whole team that's behind getting the episode out into the world and getting you that detailed transcript so that you can really absorb what I'm teaching, if you want, and what tools we use to get that done. 
- I'll talk about why I don't interview other experts right now. 
- And where we're going next. 

Enjoy!

Full show notes are at https://lisenbury.com/episodes/027
Transcript is at https://lisenbury.com/transcript/027

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In this episode, we're having the conversation we need to have about the four keys to creating more of the heat and connection you want and the single practice I use to help couples expand all four things in their relationship, and in so doing, create the love and sex they really deserve.

If you've had a hard time initiating sex, or taking your partner up on their invitations, when they ask in the way they ask, even though you sincerely would like to have more sex, at least in the abstract, this is for you. 

Or if you aren't sure how to ask for more of what you want or you think your partner could build more skill at touching and being present sexually, but it's hard to describe what that skillfulness would look like...This is for you. 

Or if you notice that you have a hard time staying present in erotic situations: truly letting your partner in and allowing yourself to deeply receive their attention, their touch, and their care...This is for you. 

If you face those challenges, you are in very good company. Nobody taught any of us how to have great sex, and a nourishing partnership with a grown up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!  

And I am determined that today's episode will help, because I would like you to get a handle on these four keys, so you can unlock the best sex of your lives. I know it's still ahead of you, whether you believe that yet or not. And in this episode, you will learn how to create it. 

There are four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex. They include clarity, capacity, communication, and container, we're going to go into all four of them. So let's dive in.  

In this episode:

And more.

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HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

Get full show notes and transcript at https://lisenbury.com/episode/026

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If you or your partner is nice, nice, nice, almost toooo nice… and then periodically explodes with out-of-the-blue anger, this episode is for you.  

Or if the person doesn’t ever explode, but there’s a way their nice-nice-niceness doesn’t feel quite authentic, or seems forced… We’re going to talk about that, too.

The dynamics we’re discussing today … I get it.  You’re not alone!  AND today’s episode will help, because I’m breakin’ it all down:

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Full shownotes are at http://lisenbury.com/episode/025.

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In this episode, we're having the conversation we need to have about the four keys to creating more of the heat and connection you want and the single practice I use to help couples expand all four things in their relationship, and in so doing, create the love and sex they really deserve.

If you've had a hard time initiating sex, or taking your partner up on their invitations, when they ask in the way they ask, even though you sincerely would like to have more sex, at least in the abstract, this is for you. 

Or if you aren't sure how to ask for more of what you want or you think your partner could build more skill at touching and being present sexually, but it's hard to describe what that skillfulness would look like...This is for you. 

Or if you notice that you have a hard time staying present in erotic situations: truly letting your partner in and allowing yourself to deeply receive their attention, their touch, and their care...This is for you. 

If you face those challenges, you are in very good company. Nobody taught any of us how to have great sex, and a nourishing partnership with a grown up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!  

And I am determined that today's episode will help, because I would like you to get a handle on these four keys, so you can unlock the best sex of your lives. I know it's still ahead of you, whether you believe that yet or not. And in this episode, you will learn how to create it. 

There are four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex. They include clarity, capacity, communication, and container, we're going to go into all four of them.

Full shownotes and edited transcript are at http://lisenbury.com/episode/024.

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If you want something different in the bedroom but don’t know how to bring it up...  

If you have a hard time wrapping your mouth around any of the words for sex acts or body parts...

If your partner has been uncomfortable with you talking about the sex you two have or don’t have...

This episode is for you.  

We NEED to have this conversation about conversations about sex - how meta is that? - because in our puritanical-yet-sex-saturated culture, we have been taught  that  it’s not “nice” to talk about sex… but also that we’re supposed to have great sex… in the absence of talking about it!  

Read the full shownotes and download a complete transcript here, where you can also download the companion to this episode: "The 56 Best Sex & Intimacy Questions to Ask Your Partner."

In this episode:

And more.   

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Conversations that go sideways are almost always ill-fated before they even begin.  And the majority of those we could pretty easily predict will go badly do so because of one common factor:  POOR TIMING.  One of you was not ready to have THAT conversation right THEN.  And nobody asked about this.  Or they did ask whether it was a good time, but they didn’t like the answer, so they went ahead anyway!  I’ve been guilty of that, myself.  And always lived to regret it!

So today I’m out to eliminate some of those regrets from all our lives by talking about how to time a conversation, how to ask “is now a good time?” and what to do when someone asks you that.  Then we’ll look at how to deal with your partner’s response and what becomes possible inside your relationship and inside each of you when you build this skill.

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Couples with really GREAT - not just GOOD - marriages do things differently.  This episode - the second in a two-part series - shares the 12 keys my clients with Legacy Love marriages have taught me.  These are the keys to a love and a passion that gets deeper, hotter, and sweeter every year, and leaves behind a legacy that outlasts you both. 

Get the full show notes and more information here: http://www.lisenbury.com/episode/021

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In today's episode, I'm going to break down exactly why my most successful clients, career-wise, are also the most successful in love and sex. I'll tell you the whole story of how it came to be that I was the sought after relationship coach for executives and founders, starting when I still had a whole lot to learn about love and sex myself.

I took kind of a strange path to becoming a relationship mentor for high-performing leaders:  People whose relationships were already great INSISTED that I help them make their marriages even better!  I’ve learned so much from my clients that runs counter to other marriage guidance and that’s helped elevate my own marriage.  

Listen in to hear the  love lessons I’ve learned from high-performance leaders.  In this episode, I'll share what they do differently than other people in love as INDIVIDUALS.  In Episode 21, you'll learn what these leaders in love do differently as COUPLES to create world-class relationships for a lifetime.

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If you’re like my clients, you’re ambitious in every area of your life, and your marriage is no exception.  That said, and as much as the hashtag “couple goals” is a running joke we often make when we think “wouldn’t it be great to be like THOSE TWO” - actually setting goals TOGETHER for how you’re going to make your relationship great is not a particularly common practice.  

I’m on a mission to help as many couples as I can to learn that the closeness, the peace and ease, and the totally turned-on erotic connection we want are all as actionable as our income goals or our fitness goals.  Effective communication, great sex, and deep intimacy are not the product of luck.  They’re all the product of habits.  With the right habits, you can build skills and capacities that make for a fantastic relationship. 

If you’ve never thought of having couple goals, if your partner isn’t remotely interested in talking with you about shared goals, or if you can’t imagine that a simple habit could transform the stickiest aspect of your relationship, well,  you’re not alone.  Those experiences are shared by many couples.  But  the truth is, you CAN set couple goals (even if  your partner doesn’t want to talk about them) and habits DO have the power to revolutionize your love.  

In this episode we’re going to talk about your desires for your relationship

I want you to be able to break down anything you want to experience in your relationship - or any experience you want to STOP having in your love - into the skills and capacities that a couple who have what you want have built. I want you to be able to identify the practices and habits that will build those skills and capacities.  Because when you know how to map a path from here to there in love, then the legacy love - the kind of love that not only lasts a lifetime but touches others long after you live - that you desire will be inevitable. 

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When you want to really show your partner your love and feel appreciated in turn… You need to hit a homer with your gift or experience.  But how?  So many men, in particular, tell me their partners are hard to please or that gifts and holidays feel like no-win situations.   This is supposed to be a season of joy, and this episode will help you create that.


In this episode:

And more. 

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“When it comes to gift-giving, you are in a powerful position as a healer: you can draw out of your  partner what they really desire and you can help heal those painful places where holidays push their buttons. It's such a beautiful role to play, if you can do so wholeheartedly.”

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen



Hot Moments in This Episode:

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen.  This has been Sex. Love. Power. I'll be back here next week to help you begin to review 2020 - what a year, right? - and what’s happened in your couple this year, and look at your vision and habits for 2021 and what you desire and intend for your future.  Until we speak, may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.

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During the holiday season, our most heartfelt visions  and  highest  hopes can be dashed against the reality of others’ engagement level and appreciation level… This episode is designed to help you plan together for  a beautiful holiday season that meets each partner’s needs.  


This episode spills:

And more. 

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The best things about the holidays are not the things that we buy. They're the moments that we share together.

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen



Hot Moments in This Episode:

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen, this has been sex, love power. I'll be back here next Thursday with another holiday special episode: this time it’s about gift-giving and how to be successful at it.  I don’t wanna point fingers at men, but this episode IS inspired by one of the bonuses for my mens’  program Penetrate Her, because so many men have asked me “how do I WIN at gift giving?  It feels like a losing proposition!”  So we’ll hit that conversation hard next week!   Until then, may the light within you, illuminate the world around you.


If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.

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If a man is a good guy, that actually INCREASES his chances of having problems in the bedroom.  Why?  Many caring, sensitive, emotionally open men are good friends, partners, and parents… and when it comes to s€x with their wives… They shrink, fizzle, or need things Just. So. or they can’t be there.  In today’s episode, I’ll  talk about why it’s such a confusing time to be  a good  man, how our culture messes with men’s heads around sex, and what we can do about it.

This episode spills:

And more. 

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"There's an epidemic happening among good men: an epidemic of needlessness and wantlessness. It's causing tremendous pain in their marriages, because a man who has pushed down his needs and wants isn't a very potent man."

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen




Hot Moments in This Episode:

I know that a man who has ambivalence about erotic connection is in a lot of pain, and that his pain and confusion trigger a lot of pain and insecurity in his partner, too.  If you’ve been frustrated and hurting about the ways you or your partner pull away from s€x or have conflicting feelings about it, I  hope this episode has helped you understand better what has created the tangled dynamics and where you can begin to navigate this fraught territory.

You're always invited to ask questions and share your reactions and results from each episode. You can post in the question thread in the private community at http://society.lisenbury.com  or leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865.  My wish for you is that you have a deep, sweet, hot connection in the bedroom, beyond the reaches of cultural pressures, where there’s only the two of you and the magical, mysterious power of pleasure.


If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.

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Holidays.   Holy Daze!  This time of year,  more than others, many  people indulge and over-indulge.  The effect on our relationships of drinking, eating, spending, using pot, and other “escape hatches” can be intensely negative, but also hard to pinpoint.  In this episode, I’m getting specific about the damage my food addiction did in my life & marriage and giving you tools to address any compulsions or addictions you identify in yourself.  I’ll also share what to do (and what not to!) if you suspect your sweetheart has a problem.

This episode spills:

And more. 

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Stepping into recovery has opened up new vistas for me... New possibilities.  There’s a depth and a sweetness in my marriage, and also my relationship with myself and my relationship with the Divine, that I couldn't have even imagined when I first began.

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

It’s really vulnerable to share the story of my addiction and to admit publicly how powerless I am about what I eat.  But if sharing my story helps even one person see that they don’t have  to struggle daily forever with their own addiction, it will absolutely have been worth it.  

I  deeply hope this episode has helped you yourself and/or a loved one with more compassion and hope. 

You're always invited to ask questions and share your reactions and results from each episode. You can post in the question thread in the private community at http://society.lisenbury.com  or leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865. 

My favorite books on recovery (notably, all by actual addicts, not just clinicians who try to help without having walked the path:

In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts - Gabor Maté

Recovery―The Sacred Art: The Twelve Steps as Spiritual Practice - Rabbi Rami Shapiro

Twenty  Four Hours a Day - a daily thought I read first thing every single morning 

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“How  can I talk  to  my (aunt/brother-in-law/husband/neighbor) whose views on social  justice/race/health care/women’s rights/LGBTQIA rights  are so very different from mine and  I want to shout?”  In honor of the impending holiday season, todays episode distills some what I’ve observed about how friends - mostly female or nonbinary - deal with ME in my ignorance about privilege around gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, education level, and class.  I never intended to be racist, heteronormative, cisnormative, or classist, but privilege has that effect: it truncates the humanity of those who  have it.  Listen in to learn how to stay engaged when you feel outraged.

This episode spills:

And more. 

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“No one thing changes everything.  We have to be the change today, and we have to stay the change tomorrow.  We have to continue to bring the energy that we want to see in the world. And we have to remain engaged in the conversation."

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

"The world is half right and half wrong. But that doesn't mean that half the people are 100% right, and the other half are 100% wrong. It means each one of us individually is 50% right and 50% wrong.Find out what is 50% wrong in yourself, and what is 50% right in your neighbor, and the world moves together again." 

-Carl Jung

Hot Moments in This Episode:
Choose how you show up based on who you want to be 02:08
Self-care for difficult conversations  03:55
Why flipping out won’t bring the change we long to see 05:20
The importance of taking the long view  05:57
Recognize your privilege and use it to be the solution 08:39
Never Condescend  09:09
Listen with curiosity 11:09
Engage as if your life depends on it 13:43
Stick up for others 15:40

I am so grateful for the chance to support you in “figuring things out” whether on your own or with support and structure to guarantee your success.  I’m thrilled you’re committed to cultivating your aliveness in love and sex and that we’re engaged in this conversation.  It is my greatest joy and privilege.  I hope this episode has helped you find new ways to get support and perspective for your love and sex challenges.

If you'd like to talk with me about our working together, you can schedule a consultation at  https://lisenbury.as.me/consultation. Whether you do it on your own or you get help, remember the three keys to creating a change in your relationship: perspective, attention and sustained effort.

You're always invited to ask questions and share your reactions and results from each episode. You can post in the question thread in the private community at http://society.lisenbury.com  or leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865.

If you want to take the work you’ve done on yourself and the consciousness you’ve worked hard to gain and apply  it to create

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People often think they need to figure out their relationship challenges between the two of them.   They think they should, that the problems aren’t so bad they need help, and that they have what it takes to solve it.  If you think those things, you may be right!  This episode is here to help you get to the bottom of whatever has you stuck, or to understand why you can’t.  Either way, it’s definitely worth your time if there’s something you want to  have be better in your relationship.

As you listen to this episode, you'll learn:

And more. 

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People are annoying. They don't do what we want them to do. They need things from us at just the wrong time.  It is terribly inconvenient to live with another person and all the more so if they rely on us, or we rely on them for deeply felt needs or wants. When they are Your Person and you are Their Person, you’re guaranteed to plug one another in.

-Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

Why certain beliefs make it is so hard to talk openly about sex 01:40

Does the perfect relationship really exist?  02:24

What you can learn from clogged pipes & house maintenance 06:02

Getting support for your relationship is NOT a sign of weakness but strength. 11:25

Learn my secret practice to help you go for GREAT!  12:58 

The 3 keys to understanding self-reinforcing cycles 13:48

I am so grateful for the chance to support you in “figuring things out” whether on your own or with support and structure to guarantee your success.  I’m thrilled you’re committed to cultivating your aliveness in love and sex and that we’re engaged in this conversation.  It is my greatest joy and privilege.  I hope this episode has helped you find new ways to get support and perspective for your love and sex challenges. 

So if you'd like to talk with me about our working together, you can schedule a consultation at  https://lisenbury.as.me/consultation. Whether you do it on your own or you get help, remember the three keys to creating a change in your relationship: perspective, attention and sustained effort.

You're always invited to ask questions and share your reactions and results from each episode. You can post in the question thread in the private community at http://society.lisenbury.com  or leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865.


If you and your partner  (or maybe just you,  as far as  you know!) long for more closeness, heat, and intimacy in your relationship, I am here to help.  More fun than therapy, more effective than anything,clients say coaching with me permanently uplevels their love, sex, leadership  and life. 

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you, please leave a rating and ideally a review on your favorite podcast platform.

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This is an intense week - amid an intense year - for many people.  It highlights the importance of knowing how to nourish ourselves and one another when we’re both running on fumes, highly anxious, or otherwise struggling.  Financial strain, kids’ challenges, illness, or loss can precipitate pain and stress for couples under any circumstances.   Or right now, a pandemic and a razor-close presidential election make for intense emotions even if all is well in your personal world.   So today’s episode is a love note to all couples on how to love one another well when you’re both licking your wounds.  

As you listen to this episode, you'll learn:

And more.


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In these times of high anxiety, you don't need the things you might think you need. You need to feel seen and heard, to be contained. You don't need it fixed. You don't need answers and you don't need to blame your partner. 

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen



Hot Moments in This Episode:

Discover how to deepen your connection as a couple during these challenging times. 01:06

Why we forget what we're upset about and make it about our partner. 02:24

Want to know what we actually really need?  04:04

3 ways to receive nourishment from yourself & others  05:05

Learn about co-regulation and how  your partner can help you 07:26 

So that's what I've learned and I'm still learning and I still need to hear all of this, about how to stick together and hang together through difficult days. I hope this episode brings you some comfort and gave you some actionable ideas for walking through hard times in your life in a way that brings you real partnership with your beloved. And I really hope this is just the beginning of our conversation about this topic. I want to hear more about your experiences and your successes in this area. I wanna hear your inside jokes.

The secret society of turned on women over at society.lisenbury.com is a great place to ask your questions and tell your stories and get more prompts to explore emotional connection and intimacy in this crazy world. 

Come join the conversation at society.lisenbury.com. And you can also leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865. That link and that phone number are in the show notes at Lisenbury.com/episode/012. 

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Episode 6:  Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 1 - Response to Freeze State
Episode 7: Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 2 - Fight or Flight

If you and your partner  (or maybe just you,  as far as  you know!) long for more closeness, heat, and intimacy in your relationship, I am here to help.  More fun th

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Amazing things happen when people tune in to Sex. Love. Power!  This episode grew from a great story one listener shared with me.  Our past episodes had her start opening  up with her partner about her desires, tastes, and needs.  This amazing woman listened and then just RAN WITH IT.    I was so inspired that now I’m explicitly guiding you to do the same.  Can’t  wait to hear what unfolds at your house!

As you listen to this episode, you'll learn:

And more.  

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"Sex is not superficial or shallow, or just for the newly in love. Sex is a gift that can keep on giving all our lives, infusing our days with vitality and pleasure and deep connection."

 -Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

As smart, make-it-happen women, we don't have a lot of space where turn on and  desire are discussed with the depth and the precision and the soul that they and we deserve. 00:13

What's most important for YOU to feel to get out of your head and into your body. 02:47

Wanna know my secret on-ramp? It could work for you too. 03:29

Find out the one fantasy that many successful women have. 04:24

Your turn ons are as unique as your thumbprint. They are absolutely individual to you. Same with your partner. 08:52 

I hope you find this episode helps you start some smokin’  hot conversations with your partner that help you reveal yourself and see them in a new light, too.  It is my deep pleasure and privilege to help awaken the erotic intelligence in long-married people so you can live a passionate love story for your whole lives long.

Episode 4: Safe Surrender: Asking him to lead. Erotic transcendence

If you and your partner  (or maybe just you,  as far as  you know!) long for more closeness, heat, and intimacy in your relationship, I am here to help.  More fun than therapy, more effective than anything,clients say coaching with me permanently uplevels their love, sex, leadership  and life.  CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

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On this episode - our first Ask Michele - I answer two great questions from listeners.  One has been inviting her husband into deeper intimacy but is worried the relationship will get lopsided or he’ll begin to roll his eyes at her if she asks for more of what she envisions for them.  The other reader is frustrated that, although  her partner is doing a lot around the house while she works and he doesn’t, he does it on his timeframe, and it still feels like ultimately, the buck stops with HER.  Listen in for my thoughts, which will apply to your life & love whether or not your circumstances match these listeners’ or not.

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about/learn/discover:

And more.

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"If we're going to create egalitarian relationships, we're gonna have to be really intentional, and really clear eyed in how we approach this, because if we don't we wind up really pissed off and really exhausted. And neither of those feels remotely turned on, am I right?" - Michele Lisenbury Christensen


HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

Michele Lisenbury Christensen 3:31

1. The secret to getting to the next level when you don't know what you really want.

Michele Lisenbury Christensen 6:51

2. How to successfully frame a conversation when you fear your partner's response. 

Michele Lisenbury Christensen 10:37

3.  Learn to build and share with your partner the highest vision of your relationship, so that  it becomes an organic part of your relationship. 

Michele Lisenbury Christensen 15:00

4. PLUS tips on how to give your partner the information and ownership required to ease your burden today and always.


I hope you find this episode helps you see some of your own and your partner’s experiences in a refreshing new light.  I hope it helps you remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.

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My latest podcast episode names something many of us do rather unconsciously: we threaten and dole out disapproval.  Disapproval and withholding our approval till someone has complied with our demands are behaviors so baked into our families and cultures that it's downright shocking to see their pervasiveness, when it’s pointed out.  It sounds violent to be so disapproving, and it seems to run counter to our values... And it is and it does!  Yet you may still be doing it a lot.   I know I have done it a lot.  

So we need to talk about disapproval and what it does to relationships:  with our partners, with our kids, with ourselves, and with those who live in different spots on the political spectrum than we do.  

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

“Disapproval - or the threat of disapproval - never motivates anyone to do anything. “ - Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

There IS hope if you’ve tried to ask for what you want without success or you feel your spouse is super critical.  01:15

Why if we want to be able to get more of what we desire in love and sex we need to talk about disapproval. 01:28

How disapproval makes us feel less safe.   03:39

What we need to do to unlock tremendous capacities for effecting change.   04:13

The special magic we can find within us when we want someone to see us.  05:26

How to express a big intense feeling to make a clear way to counter-offer 07:40

The bottom line of healthful negotiation  08:26

…Tune in to Episode 010 to hear my hot takes on listener questions in our first Ask Michele episode of the season.  Ask your questions for this or a future Ask Michele episode by calling 206-659-9865.

Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our freeConscious Couples’ Circleon Mighty Networks.

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As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

And more.  Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our freeSecret Society on Mighty Networks.

“For each woman,  the journey to creating the relationship we really want starts with two things.  One:  enough devotion to the vision of passion and closeness that you’ve  been gifted with, and two:  enough skillfulness to be able to talk to your husband in a kind and visionary way. “

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

How not talking to your husband about things that would make your love deeper or your sex better could be keeping your bedroom from getting hotter. 01:18

Why women are so protective of men's feelings because of mistaken beliefs that men are sensitive to criticism or fragile in the face of women’s erotic desires.  03:09

The 7 keys to talking to your husband about what you'd like more of. 12:23

KEY 1: TIMING 12:27

KEY 2: CONSENT 12:41

KEY 3:   INTENTION 13:19

KEY #4:  RECIPROCITY  13:43

KEY #5: POSITIVE FOCUS 14:17

KEY #6:  CURIOSITY 14:54

KEY #7:  RESILIENCE 15:23 

Tune in to Episode 009 to learn about another huge factor in why we don't get what we want from our partners even when we think we've asked a thousand times, and how we can reverse this problem.
 
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If you have a nervous system, you need this episode.   It's the second part of an accessible and entertaining introduction to your nervous system and the crucial cranial nerve known as the Vagus Nerve.  

If you ever:
- react strongly to your partner and want to fight or flee or both
- feel exhausted, at an emotional or energetic level, by your day
- feel like you just need time *alone* but seldom seem to get enough to want to reconnect

You'll learn how to notice what state you're in and discover specific ways to strengthen your vagal response so that, given time and care, you can gladly come back into connection. 

As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

And more.  Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our freeSecret Society on Mighty Networks.

“If you're locked in battle with your partner all the time, it's costing you. It's costing you physical health and longevity to be in that state.  So if you think about it, by calling a timeout, or saying, "Let's take a break. We'll come back to this when we're calmer." That is, to your mind, escaping.

- Dr. Jessica Pullins

HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

Recap of part 1 and making the most of your nervous system so you can settle down  (01:40)

Ways the nervous system reacts to a perceived threat and how to make the choice that is safest for your body (04:18)

Why even though we may not want to hurt people our nervous system may uncharacteristically act out & do so (06:19)

How recognizing, "Nothing good can come" can save a relationship (08:26)

The harmful cascade of stress chemicals when we are our nervous system is in a state of fight or flight  (10:27)

How you can soothe your nervous system on your own by  rubbing and pulling on your ears or smoothing your face with your hands (16:16)

 Join the conversation by listening, share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our freeConscious Couples’ Circleon Mighty Networks.

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If you have a nervous system, you need this episode.   

And particularly if you ever:

- react strongly to your partner and want to fight or flee or both
- feel exhausted, at an emotional or energetic level, by your day
- freeze up and find yourself unable to speak, move forward, or interact

This intro to what's REALLY going on, and what you can do about it, can be life-changing.  It's self-care, it's relationship elevating, it's good.

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Have you been told "You're intense!" or "You're a LOT" or that your feelings, your senses, your volume, your speed of thought or speech were too fast?  Have you felt others recoil from you in a way that didn't match how you think of yourself?  

You might be intense.  We need to talk about intensity, because it's not a character failing or a liability.  It's a superpower, but with great power comes great responsibility (um, that was Spiderman).  Listen in for all the deets on what intensity is and a number of stories from me, your host, as well as my friend Dr. Jessica Pullins, and others about how we can use our powers for good... and for the intimacy we crave.

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So many women tell me, "I wish he would just take charge in the bedroom."  As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:

- How sexual trauma can contribute to a "I don't know what I want - don't ask me!" freeze response
- The transcendent potential of erotic surrender - the magic that can happen for both partners when one takes charge in bed
- How to ask your partner (of any gender) for this kind of leadership
- How busy brains can stop us from getting present for sex, and how surrender can help

And more.  Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our our private community at https://society.lisenbury.com.  Get full show notes, transcript,  and more information at http://lisenbury.com/episode/004.

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If you're like many ambitious women, you have big visions and deep desires for every area of your life. But if your RELATIONSHIP vision seems elusive, if you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wondering “Is it me? Is it you? Or are we just not great together?” you’re not alone. 

But here’s the good news: You are not the problem, your partner is not the problem, and you CAN have the relationship you envision! Creating the love and sex you want simply requires a new mindset and practicing a few key skills and habits. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. This is the only intimacy podcast exclusively for powerful women and those who love them. 

I'm your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I've been helping high-profile couples create what they desire in love and sex for more than twenty-three years, and I’ve been through my share of joys and pains in my own twenty-plus year marriage to Kurt. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex starts with YOU, and it starts right now. 

In this episode we’ll talk about 

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.

View the full show notes and transcript for this episode at https://lisenbury.com/episode/003

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f you're like many ambitious women, you have big visions and deep desires for every area of your life. But if your RELATIONSHIP vision seems elusive, if you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wondering “Is it me? Is it you? Or are we just not great together?” you’re not alone. 

But here’s the good news: You are not the problem, your partner is not the problem, and you CAN have the relationship you envision! Creating the love and sex you want simply requires a new mindset and practicing a few key skills and habits. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. This is the only intimacy podcast exclusively for powerful women and those who love them. 

I'm your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I've been helping high-profile couples create what they desire in love and sex for more than twenty-three years, and I’ve been through my share of joys and pains in my own twenty-plus year marriage to Kurt. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex starts with YOU, and it starts right now.

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you, please leave a rating and ideally a review on your favorite podcast platform.

Ready to bring about a transformation in your relationship to yourself, your body, and your partner?CLICK HEREto apply for a consultation.

If you're like many ambitious women, you have big visions and deep desires for every area of your life. But if your RELATIONSHIP vision seems elusive, if you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wondering “Is it me? Is it you? Or are we just not great together?” you’re not alone. 

But here’s the good news: You are not the problem, your partner is not the problem, and you CAN have the relationship you envision! Creating the love and sex you want simply requires a new mindset and practicing a few key skills and habits. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. This is the only intimacy podcast exclusively for powerful women and those who love them. 

I'm your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I've been helping high-profile couples create what they desire in love and sex for more than twenty-three years, and I’ve been through my share of joys and pains in my own twenty-plus year marriage to Kurt. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s get you leading in love!

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you, please leave a rating and ideally a review on your favorite podcast platform.

Ready to bring about a transformation in your relationship to yourself, your body, and your partner?CLICK HEREto apply for a consultation.