Good Sex @NYU

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Zabie Yamasaki, the Founder of Transcending Sexual Trauma through Yoga, an organization that offers trauma-informed yoga to survivors, consultation for universities and trauma agencies, and training for healing professionals. Zabie received her undergraduate degree in Psychology and Social Behavior and Education at UC Irvine and completed her graduate degree in Higher Education Administration and Student Affairs at The George Washington University. 

In this episode, Zabie shares how her first yoga class led to finding internal peace, healing from sexual trauma, and shifted her career trajectory. She gives an in-depth explanation of  trauma-informed yoga, both how it works in practice and why it is important, and how it is rapidly becoming part of standard yoga teacher training practice. Zabie even leads April and Danielle in some basic grounding practices for calming anxiety or distress responses derived from trauma. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

Transcending Trauma with Yoga: zabieyamasaki.com or on Instagram: @transcending_trauma_with_yoga

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

On this episode of Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle revisit their chat with Caroline Grunwald. Caroline is a first year graduate student in the School of Global Public Health. During her undergraduate studies at Princeton University, Caroline completed her thesis on hookup culture and has since been focused on completing a public health masters degree with an emphasis on reproductive health.

This episode is being re-released since April is Sexual Assault Awareness month and Caroline shares about a time someone crossed her boundaries and how this experience impacted her. She also discusses her research findings on hookup culture and what she learned from conducting  the interviews with the participants.  Throughout the conversation, Caroline emphasizes the positive effect strong communication has on good sex. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Dr. S, a board-certified physician working in family medicine for over 15 years. Dr. S has spent many of her years of medical practice providing gender-affirming care to her patients. 

In this episode, April and Danielle explore what it means to provide gender-affirming care at the Student Health Center (SHC) and more broadly. Dr. S goes into detail about some of the medical options available to folks seeking gender-affirming care at the SHC. She recounts her collaboration with a specific patient who came to the relationship with goals and how they accomplished them together. The three also discuss challenges one might experience with different medical professionals and insurance providers. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today April and Danielle are refreshing on of their favorite conversation this season with Dr.Reji Mathew who is an award-winning artist, thinker, educator, and neuroscience-informed psychotherapist. Dr. Reji Mathew is a senior clinical social worker at the Counseling and Wellness division of the NYU Student Health Center. She is trained in CBT, DBT, TF-CBT, EMDR, Narrative Therapy and the Voice Dialogue method. Dr. Mathew is an arts accessibility advocate and an Assistant Adjunct Professor at the NYU Silver School of Social Work.

In this episode, we explore how to partner with ourselves first before partnering with others. Also, Dr. Mathew defines “emotion regulations” as the reasons behind why we get upset and how we get upset. The “why” is deeply personal and the “how” is the way we express our emotions. Building basic awareness of our emotion regulations is the foundation of emotional wellbeing and health. Dr. Mathew shares tips on regulating emotions, developing mindful practices, and changing our internal narratives. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, Danielle converses with Meghan Kelley, LCSW at NYU London Counseling and Wellness Services and Aisling Leen, Student Life Coordinator. Meghan has worked with NYU students for over 15 years as an off-campus therapist and then as the full time global wellness counselor in London since 2019. Aisling worked at NYU for two years in the student life coordinator position where she advises students, organizes cultural trips, and helps to build community at NYU London. 

In this episode, Danielle learns more about the student experience abroad. The group discusses  how the pressures put on students by family and friends to have an amazing experience when living in a new culture can cause some stress and challenges. From not finding the Doritos you like to not having your support network in the same time zone, Danielle, Meghan and Aisling unpack all the highs and lows of living in a new place, particularly when navigating pub culture and the differences in dating and sex as compared to NYC. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, Danielle chats with Abhishek Rana. Abhishek is studying Integrated Design and Media at NYU Tandon. He is also a graduate assistant for communications and design at the NYU Office of Global Inclusion. He loves talking about books, AI ethics, accessible design, and his dating life! 
In this episode, Abhishek shares the impact of being bullied growing up.  He opens up about what it was like growing up in India and how he transitioned to living in NYC. Danielle and Abhishek revisit the theme of effective communication in all relationships and all things throughout the conversation. He acknowledges that he hasn’t had a long-term relationship yet but feels he knows what he wants and needs from a potential partner. One of Abhishek’s favorite things to talk about is sex and relationships, and he has even started to talk to his mom about these topics, which has caused a positive shift in their relationship. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

On this episode of Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Dr.Reji Mathew who is an artist, thinker, educator, and neuroscience-informed psychotherapist. Dr. Mathew is a senior clinical social worker at the Counseling and Wellness division of the NYU Student Health Center. She is trained in CBT, DBT, TF-CBT, EMDR, Narrative Therapy and the Voice Dialogue method. Dr. Mathew is an arts accessibility advocate and an Assistant Adjunct Professor at the NYU Silver School of Social Work.

The topic of conversation on the podcast today is making sex accessible for all. Dr. Mathew unpacks internalized ableism and how this impacts individuals and society. She defines the term “disability humility” and the importance of asking our sexual and romantic partners for what we need and stay open to a journey of possibility and co-discovery. Dr. Mathew recommends that we all examine the narrow depiction of pleasure in our society and seek to make sex accessible for everybody and every body type. 

Many advocacy organizations like the Christopher Reeve Foundation offer spaces for conversations on sex, dating, and relationships with a disability. And that our journey with pleasure and intimacy is one that is accessible to all, critical to the holistic picture of health, well-being and happiness.

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Dr. Virginia Robertson and Dr. Sandra Curet, medical providers at the GYN health department at the NYU Student Health Center. Dr. Robertson is the SHC’s Associate Medical Director of GYN and Specialty Services and is a family medicine doctor by training. Dr. Curet is an OBGYN who practices general gynecology at the Student Health Center and has been a practicing OBGYN for over thirty years. 

On today’s episode, Danielle and April and their guests explore dyspareunia, or pain during sex. Pain can be closely connected to pleasure for some but others  may not seek pain during sex. Our Student Health Center experts, Dr. Robertson and Dr. Curet, walk us through how dyspareunia comes up in their practice, what an evaluation looks like for it, and possible causes and treatment options. Pain during sex is common and can happen no matter your biological traits or background. If pain is not something you find pleasurable, then working with a health care provider can offer some support and a place to work towards your health goals. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Chris Woods, Senior Director, Inclusive Policy; Director of LGBTQ+ Center at the Office of Global Inclusion, Diversity and Strategic Innovation. Chris has over a decade of experience working in diversity, equity and inclusion within higher education. His research and publications are on various topics include:queer and trans people of color, racial justice and intersectionality, the experience of marginalized and minoritized communities with sexual violence on college campuses, and the intersection of faith, race and sexuality. 

In this episode of Good Sex, Chris divulges all of his X-Men crushes and shares his thoughts on the importance of considering more than the aesthetics of a love interest. He emphasizes valuing what they bring to the world. Additionally, Chris discusses the advantages of growing up with a mom who is a social worker. His upbringing shaped his ability to communicate as he received thoughtful messages about sex and relationships. Chris also discloses how being bullied in school and experiencing sexual assault impacted his ability to set boundaries.  Through therapy and his own work toward healing he has brought his authentic self to his 10 year- relationship. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @NYU, April and Danielle welcome Genny Cuocci, LCSW and Dr. Akinola Adebisi to discuss how substance use impacts our lives, including our relationships and sexual experiences. Genny Cuocci is the Assistant Director of Clinical Services  and Group Programming at Counseling and Wellness Services as well as the Substance Assessment Feedback Evaluation (SAFE) Team Leader. Genny has been at NYU for 6 years and she has worked in addiction treatment for 10 years. Dr. Adebisis is a Senior Psychiatrist at Counseling and Wellness Services and a Clinical Assistant Professor at NYU School of Medicine. He is part of the SAFE team and has also been at NYU for 6 years. 

In the episode, our guests provide a detailed definition of substance use disorders, the myths of substance use and misuse, and treatment options. The conversation also explores the various types of substances folks have historically engaged in and those that are on the increase, such as marijuana and psychedelics. Additionally,  the group talks about how substances impact our relationship and sexual lives. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @NYU, Dr. Marybec Griffin joins the podcast. Dr. Griffin holds a PhD in Social and Behavioral Health Science from NYU and is a professor at NYU and Rutgers University. She is a trained doula, certified sexologist, and co-creator of Dr. Period Hackers, a menstrual health research education collective. 

In part 2 of our discussion, Dr. Griffin compares condom negations with COVID-19 mask regulations and discusses the challenges that arise when navigating these conversations. She also shares how her attachment style has impacted her relationship. Additionally, she  reminds us that the most important relationship we have is the one we have with ourselves. Finally, Dr. Griffin gives us examples of other ways intimacy has been important in her life including the many forms of physical touch she enjoys that facilitate connection.

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @NYU, Dr. Marybec Griffin joins the podcast. Dr. Griffin holds a PhD in Social and Behavioral Health Science from NYU and is a professor at NYU and Rutgers University. She is a trained doula, certified sexologist and co-creator of Dr. Period Hackers, a menstrual health research education collective. 

In part one of April and Danielle’s conversation, Dr. Griffin describes hearing the song “Let’s Talk About Sex” by Salt-N-Pepa, a revolutionary experience for her as she had not heard three women rapping about protecting themselves and enjoying sex. This led Dr. Griffin to focus her career on de-stigmatizing sex and menstruation for future generations. She shares her two research studies based on health messaging in music. Dr. Griffin also discusses her work around period poverty and the collaborative educational collective she co-founded called Dr. Period Hackers. 

The content of this podcast has explicit language of music lyrics and may not be suitable for all audiences. This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Dr.Reji Mathew who is an award-winning artist, thinker, educator, and neuroscience-informed psychotherapist. Dr. Reji Mathew is a senior clinical social worker at the Counseling and Wellness division of the NYU Student Health Center. She is trained in CBT, DBT, TF-CBT, EMDR, Narrative Therapy and the Voice Dialogue method. Dr. Mathew is an arts accessibility advocate and an Assistant Adjunct Professor at the NYU Silver School of Social Work.

In this episode, we explore how to partner with ourselves first before partnering with others. Also, Dr. Mathew defines “emotion regulations” as the reasons behind why we get upset and how we get upset. The “why” is deeply personal and the “how”is the way we express our emotions. Building basic awareness of our emotion regulations is the foundation of emotional wellbeing and health. Dr. Mathew shares tips on regulating emotions, developing mindful practices, and changing our internal narratives. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.htm

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle chat with Caroline Grunwald. Caroline is a first year graduate student in the School of Global Public Health. During her undergraduate studies at Princeton University, Caroline completed her thesis on hookup culture and has since been focused on completing a public health masters degree with an emphasis on reproductive health.

In this episode, Caroline shares about a time someone crossed her boundaries and how this experience impacted her. She also discusses  her research findings on hookup culture and what she learned from conducting  the interviews with the participants.  Throughout the conversation, Caroline emphasizes the positive effect strong communication has on good sex. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Dr. Anne McEneany and nurse practitioner Pelagia (Peggy) Pappathomas from NYU’s Counseling and Wellness Services. Dr. McEneaney has been a practicing mental health provider for 30 years, 18 of which were at NYU. Throughout her career, she focused on working with people who experience disordered eating challenges. Peggy has been working at NYU for a year and prior to that, she worked with those seeking inpatient eating disorder treatment  at Philadelphia Children’s Hospital.

In this episode, we explore the impact culture has on our bodies, eating behavior, and how disordered eating can impact relationships. Anne and Peggy share  several signs of when eating behaviors become harmful and unhealthy from a clinical and individual perspective. The conversation explores the importance of experiencing our bodies as subjects instead of  objects, and the influence TV and social media have on harmful eating behaviors. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Dory Gurinsky, the Assistant Director at the Center for Student Life, working to support the student experience and providing resources for their time at NYU and in NYC. 

In this episode, Dory talks about her journey as an only child and how that impacted her feelings around conflict and her ability to communicate her boundaries. The conversation explores ways we are all selfish and the importance of embracing and challenging this. Along with April and Danielle, Dory unpacks the definition of self-care. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Dr. Virginia Robertson and Dr. Sandra Curet, medical providers at the GYN health department at the NYU Student Health Center. Dr. Robertson is the SHC’s Associate Medical Director of GYN and Specialty Services and is a family medicine doctor by training. Dr. Curet is an OBGYN who practices general gynecology at the Student Health Center and has been a practicing OBGYN for over thirty years. 

In this episode, Dr. Robertson and Dr. Curet discuss the services provided by NYU’s GYN health department, highlighting the department’s use of trauma informed care. Additionally, they explain the general practices of pap smears, pelvic exams, and HPV screening. They provide recommendations for best healthcare practices for people with cervixes and explain the reality of the various procedures, encouraging NYU students to receive preventative healthcare. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle are joined by Rafael (aka Raf) Rodriguez, NYU’s Associate Vice President and Dean of Students. As the Dean of Students, he is the principal student advocate and provides guidance and direction to all students at NYU. Dean Rodriguez works with his team and partners across the university to strengthen community and belonging at NYU.
In this episode, Dean Rodriguez shares how he had to unpack some cultural messaging around masculinity before being able to successfully set boundaries and improve his communication skills.  The group discusses how people often experience the world through the lenses of our oppressed identities but tend to engage and interact with it  using the privilege we have. They also unpack how to reconcile this identity clash during arguments with a partner.    Additionally, April and Danielle talk with Raf about how masculinity impacted his sexual journey and how vulnerability can lead to more pleasure. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

On this episode of the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Counseling and Wellness Services Psychiatrist, Dr. Brunhild Kring. Dr. Kring has worked at NYU for the past 17 years and recently retired from her role as Associate Director of Psychiatry and is now a part-time staff psychiatrist. Dr. Kring has written on topics related to sex and gender throughout her 30 year career. 

In this episode, Dr. Kring shares the context of how the medical field has focused solely on the biology of sexual experiences and not the social and political lens. We talk about the barriers to accessing psychiatric care, what to expect in an initial evaluation and in ongoing treatment with a psychiatrist. Dr. Kring explains how different medications might have an impact on our libdo and sex lives as well as her research on cyber sex. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on Good Sex @ NYU, April and Danielle chat with Ruby Carmel. Ruby is a senior, in her last semester at Tisch School of the Arts, where she studies theatrical management, production, and intimacy direction. She works as an electrician, cheesemonger, and community organizer. 

In this episode, Ruby shares the impact of growing up with a therapist in the family and learning from an early age the value of engaging in healthy conflict. She shares her philosophy that  “being able to set a boundary can deepen a relationship” and acknowledges that boundaries can be difficult to implement. Ruby also discusses the spectrum of pleasure for her, from cuddling to being active in the kink world. She shares her journey of sex education as a queer person and some of the resources she has found useful. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an adjunct professor of psychology at the College of Arts and Science at NYU. Dr. Zhana teaches human sexuality classes and her research focuses on how different aspects of sexuality (especially those that fall outside the societal box of acceptability) are linked to health and wellbeing. She also unpacks how our relationship orientation predicts the types of relationships we’re most likely to thrive in. We had such a fun and fascinating conversation that we split it into two parts so you could listen to it all. This episode is part 2 and if you haven’t listened to part 1 then we encourage you to check out this episode as well.  

In this episode April and Danielle dive into Dr. Zhana’s personal journey with pleasure. She shares more about the challenges she faces engaging in non-monogamous relationships and kink. Dr. Zhana also provides some important tips on having healthy, good casual sex 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, an adjunct professor of psychology at the College of Arts and Science at NYU. Dr. Zhana teaches human sexuality classes and her research focuses on how different aspects of sexuality (especially those that fall outside the societal box of acceptability) are linked to health and wellbeing, and how our relationship orientation predicts the types of relationships we’re most likely to thrive in. We had such a fun and fascinating conversation that we split it into two parts so you could listen to it all. 

In part one of Dr. Zhana’s interview, she shares her experience growing up in Macedonia and discovering sex that was not what she was taught was typical. She describes her desire for exploration being greater than her fear of social consequences. Dr. Zhana shares her work on how to navigate the need for exploration and stability within a relationship and how she uses her platform on Instagram to help followers reframe how they think about singledom, monogamy, open monogamy, polyamory, and celibacy. Tune into part two where the conversation continues as  Dr. Zhana’s shares her personal and professional journey with sex and relationships. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Dr. Pekka Santtila, a professor of psychology at NYU Shanghai and a global network professor at NYU. Dr. Santtila’s research focuses on legal psychology and human sexuality where he aims to understand and develop treatment for sexual dysfunction. 
In this episode, Dr. Santtila reframes our definition of sexual dysfunction to what the term means to the individual, not how society perceives it. He shares his research on fast or premature ejaculation, what  this even means, and the interventions that are being considered for those who experience it. Dr. Santtila also explains how instinctive feelings of disgust could impact our sexual lives and how Sensate Therapy is used as a way to deepen intimacy and pleasure between those in a romantic and/or sexual relationship. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Alexander Pines, the Assistant Director for Global Diversity Education and Training in the Office of Global Inclusion at NYU. He facilitates workshops on power, privilege, and identity for faculty, students, and staff across campus. Alexander holds an MFA from the University of Iowa and a BA from Columbia University. He has essays published in BOMB, The Rumpus, The Black Warrior Review and elsewhere. 

In part 2 of their conversation, April and Danielle get personal with Alexander and discuss his midwestern roots and how his upbringing impacted  his relationships. Alexander shares some of the challenges he faced with his partner in a long distance relationship and how they managed through the pandemic. Listeners will also hear how Alexander has advocated for himself in healthcare settings and the importance of having time to himself, which for Alexander means dipping into his nail art while watching the latest episode of Drag Race.

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Alexander Pines, the Assistant Director for Global Diversity Education and Training in the Office of Global Inclusion at NYU. He facilitates workshops on power, privilege, and identity for faculty, students, and staff across campus. Alexander holds an MFA from the University of Iowa and a BA from Columbia University. He has essays published in BOMB, The Rumpus, The Black Warrior Review and elsewhere. 

In this episode, April and Danielle get personal with Alexander and talk about using his work voice in his personal life and how different boundaries can feel in various environments. Alexander shares the number one conflict that he gets into with his partner and how he goes from fine to a monster and how he overcomes these moments. Listeners will also hear how Alexander has learned to be wrong gracefully and how he has shifted to thinking fun weekend are going to Target.

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Have you missed your weekly dose of Good Sex @NYU? April and Danielle have missed you and and we have exciting news and a few changes to share. Our first full episode will drop on Monday, September 25, we hope you will join us for our sometimes funny and always sex positive conversations in our second season.

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Sneha Sridhar, a sophomore Global Liberal Studies major and currently the Liberal Studies Student Council President. Sneha shares formative childhood anecdotes including the story of how a game of spin the bottle facilitated her first kiss and how her family helped her learn about boundaries and communication. She acknowledges that every interpersonal relationship, whether romantic, familial, or platonic, can create a learning opportunity for setting and receiving boundaries. April, Danielle, and Sneha uncover a number of oppressive messages that impact our sexual lives and relationships, including the myths around the rules of dating, when to talk about sex, and how old TV shows and movies continue to foster these harmful ideas.

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Bernadette Kerr (AKA Bernie), LCSW, who has been a counselor at NYU’s Counseling and Wellness Services since 2017. She offers one-on-one and group counseling, hosts workshops, and performs community outreach. Bernie co-leads the Racial Justice Team and is a member of the ADHD and Mindfulness teams.

In this episode, Bernie shares how she incorporates spirituality into her work. She acknowledges the link between spirituality and trauma in many communities and discusses how spiritual practices have helped some manage and move through suicidal ideation. Bernie uses the 4 I's of oppression to unpack spiritual beliefs that come from faith leaders, family, and community members versus what a religious text actually says. She beautifully describes building her own way of understanding her faith and integrating it into her daily life. Additionally, she discusses the idea of forgiveness and what it means to her. She explains it is, “...an acceptance of what happened to you, without making a commitment to anyone but you.” Finally, we explore the harms that have been done in the name of religion and how to reconstruct our faith and religion to live it out authentically.

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle welcome Joyce Renzhong Tan, Director at the Center for Multicultural Education and Programs Office of Global Inclusion, Diversity and Strategic Innovation. Prior to her current role, Joyce spearheaded Diversity Initiatives at NYU Shanghai and founded a digital project called “unCoVer” which focused on promoting awareness and solidarity around the pandemic. 

During this interview, Joyce shares how boundaries can be gendered and how this has impacted their journey, as well as how they learned about boundaries when others have violated them. To punctuate her thoughts on boundaries, she reads a quote by Kai Chen Thom from their book I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girls Notes from the end of the World: “Boundaries are not about 'yes' or 'no', they are not about the limitations or permission, or even this thing we call consent; they are the space between me and you, the borderland where fear ends and desire begins, they are the place where love can live without being lost.” April, Danielle, and Joyce explore desirability, negative norms, and the fact that we can experience and embrace pleasure from many acts – some of which don’t include our genitalia. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Siena Chanel Moran, an undergraduate student at Steinhardt majoring in Music Business. In addition to excelling as a student, Siena is an activist and an artist focusing on writing and producing her own music. 

During the interview, Siena shared how she came up with the idea of the Sex Book, an online comprehensive sex education curriculum for students, and how it has transformed over time to be a free resource for all. April and Danielle connect with Siena, as she shares her experience with early masturbation and the myths associated with this for those with vulvas. 

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by the NYU Student Health Center’s Sexpert, Alyssa LaFosse, to talk about HIV, or Human Immunodeficiency Virus. The episode dives into the history of HIV, how it is spread, what individuals can do to prevent contracting the virus, the importance of getting tested for all STIs, and how to continue having a healthy and safe sex life even if someone does receive a positive HIV test result. 

Not only does the discussion include details about PrEP, or Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis, which is taken before someone is potentially exposed to the virus, but they also explore PEP, or Post-Exposure Prophylaxis, which is taken after a known or possible exposure to HIV. It wouldn’t be a quickie if April and Danielle didn’t also engage in a discussion about oppressive ideas around HIV, stigma, and the importance of unpacking these harmful beliefs.

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast April and Danielle welcome Mathew Shepard. He is an Associate Director in the Office of Student Conduct & Community Standards with a specific focus on restorative practices and the university’s response to allegations of discriminatory bias and harassment. He is also an instructor in the Cohort Leadership Program at Stern and a doctoral candidate in the Higher Education Administration program at Steinhardt. 

During this interview, Mathew and Danielle connect about both growing up in Kansas and how this impacted their journeys. Mathew reflects on the value of communication and establishing boundaries when forming a healthy relationship. He also highlights the importance of finding relationships and people that fulfill you by using the metaphor of harmony, or someone who operates in the same octave as you. Mathew shares about his experience working at NYU and some of the challenges he has faced related to his identities.

This episode may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Are you curious to learn more about Title IX and how it works at NYU? There is some misunderstanding and confusion surrounding the law, so it is important to clarify what it refers to and how it protects students and other members of the NYU community. For those who may not know, Title IX is the federal law which addresses sex discrimination in educational environments.  

Join April and Danielle as they speak to the NYU Office of Equal Opportunity (OEO)/Title IX team about what they do, what affirmative consent is, and what services are available to students. The NYU OEO/Title IX team assists and provides support to those who have experienced harm, also known as Complainants, and those who have been accused of causing harm, or Respondents. Among other things, they connect individuals with resources on and off campus, provide accommodations, and investigate formal complaints. 

This episode may be activating for some listeners. We encourage you to take care of yourself. Consider taking a break from listening, turning off the podcast, or contacting a friend. If you or someone you know has experienced a form of sexual misconduct (such as sexual assault) or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support. 

- NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services

-For NYU Students/Employees: Contact OEO/Title IX at title9@nyu.edu or 212-998-6807

-For NYU Students/Employees: Contact Campus Safety at 212-998-2222

- For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.htm

Today on the podcast we have Cornelia Elise Holzbauer, a graduate student at NYU's Arthur L. Carter Journalism school who is set to graduate in May 2023. Cornelia moved to New York in October 2017 after completing her Bachelor's in Publishing and Media Communication from the University of Vienna. As a journalist, she has covered women's health, female pleasure, and women's reproductive rights, as well as service pieces on sexting techniques. Cornelia wants to dedicate her life to reporting for and about women. Sexuality, intimacy, and sexual health are topics she frequently discusses with friends and family. She likes to call herself the consent police and encourages folks not to mince words when asking for what they do and don’t want.

In this conversation, Cornelia discusses how she is a huge proponent of open communication. When it comes to consent and healthy relationships, she believes in having preemptive conversations. In her  experience, Cornelia has found communication about sex and sexuality empowering, especially when centered around topics like aftercare, consent, and healthy relationships. She also talks about orgasms and pleasure, specifically the value of female pleasure and sexual empowerment and how her identity as a bisexual woman has informed her thoughts about these two important subjects. Find Cornelia on LinkedIn or on Instagram @cornelia_elise.

Cornelia mentions being a survivor and about a few sexual encounters that did not go exactly as she would have liked. This may be activating for some. Be sure to listen to your body and take care of yourself!

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 

For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

When thinking about the “ideal relationship,” many assume that monogamy is the best and even only choice. In reality, there are an abundance of dating models to choose from! Instead of feeling pressure to conform to one idea of a healthy relationship, consider that our lives change just as our relationships do. And change isn’t a bad thing! It gives us the opportunity to be a part of an ongoing conversation about our needs with ourselves and our partners.  

Join April and Danielle as they explore monogamy, different forms of non-monogamy, and being single. Danielle even shares a personal example of how she navigated shifting into a new relationship model and the difficulties that arose during that transition. Throughout the conversation we hope you feel empowered to check in with yourself and ponder what might make you most happy in a relationship and when you’re single. 

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by Professor Lauren Whitehead, a writer, performer, dramaturg, and an Assistant Arts Professor of Dramaturgy at NYU Tisch School of the Arts. Professor Whitehead has taught creative writing workshops all around the country for the past 15 years. Prior to joining the faculty at NYU, she was a part-time lecturer at the New School for Drama and was a Teaching Fellow in the Undergraduate Writing Program at Columbia University.

During the podcast, Professor Whitehead shares how she learned about healthy boundaries from her parents while growing up and how she is continually still learning about them as an adult. She learned how to trust her feelings and express them in her family. Additionally, Professor Whitehead discloses that she experienced sexual harm and discusses how she processed this trauma by going to therapy and talking about it with friends. In the conversation, she shares the great advice she gives to herself: “I never talk bad about my body while my body is in the room.” Check out Lauren’s work on her website.

Since there is discussion of sexual harm in this episode, please look out for your emotional and mental wellbeing. Pause the podcast or refrain from listening at all if you feel overwhelmed by this topic.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Access to birth control is an essential aspect of safe, consensual sexual activity and health. We at Good Sex @ NYU want to ensure that everyone has equitable access and accurate information regarding birth control that allows all to engage with their sexuality in an empowered and safe way.

In this episode, Danielle and April discuss the many different birth control methods available and what accessing birth control looks like, at NYU and beyond. They also discuss how birth control can be utilized for reasons other than pregnancy prevention, like decreasing heavy and painful menstruation or eliminating menstruation completely, and clearing up acne. We hope you find this episode informative! Check out more resources on our page linked below (there are a lot of great ones this week). NYU students, we encourage you to make an appointment with a medical provider at the Student Health Center to discuss any questions this episode brings up for you. 

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by author, father, and MFA candidate in Creative Writing at GSAS, Ronnie Huett. Ronnie identifies as a non-traditional student in that he went back for his bachelor's degree at a later stage in life and started at a community college. He transferred to Columbia University to complete his undergraduate degree and worked as a teacher before entering the NYU MFA program.

During the podcast, Ronnie quotes from poet Harold Norse and shares about the time he found his dad’s Playboy magazines. He opens up about how heteronormativity has impacted his identity and how his race and gender have influenced his dating life and relationship. Additionally, the discussion explores the challenges of finding a condom that fits and how to navigate using them. Check out Ronnie’s article called Cosmic Latte, and keep an eye out for more of his writing to come.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Have you ever struggled to say “no” to a partner or a friend for fear of making them feel rejected? Conversely, have you ever felt rejected when someone said “no” to you? In either scenario, you are not alone! Saying “no” and accepting “no” are both difficult. However, our ability to do both of these things is essential for us to maintain healthy relationships, sexual or otherwise.

In this episode, April and Danielle explore ways to advocate for one’s self and learn to accept when others advocate for themselves. In other words, how to give and receive the word, “no.” They even do a little role playing! As you listen to this week’s quickie, consider how April and Danielle emphasize the importance of creating a balance between establishing and implementing boundaries while honoring the needs of others.

April and Danielle also discuss the way a history of trauma - of someone experiencing a violation of their “no” - can lead to difficulties saying “no” in the present. If you think you may feel triggered by this conversation,  please take care of yourself, listen to your body, and turn off the episode if needed.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Today on the podcast, April and Danielle are joined by author and consultant, Michael John Carley. Michael John has been a steadfast presence in the autism spectrum world since being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome at the same time as his 4-year old son in 2000. He joined the NYU community in Fall 2020 as a Consultant for Disability Inclusive Culture at OGI (Office of Global Inclusion). Once the university started to return to in person work, he opted to switch departments over moving back to NYC from Boston so that his son could be a high school soccer star! Michael John is now an Accessibility Specialist at the Moses Center, a role that includes facilitating the Connections Program. In 2021, he published a book called, "The Book of Happy, Positive, and Confident Sex for Adults on the Autism Spectrum...and Beyond!"  

In this conversation, Michael John shares about how sex has often been an easy way for him to connect with folks throughout his life. He also explores how sex education could be modified to be more accessible for folks on the spectrum and asks for April and Danielle to share their thoughts on this idea. This portion of the conversation does involve references to sexual assault and this can be activating to some. Please take care of yourself, listen to your body and turn off the episode, if needed.   

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support.  

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Have you ever wanted to try out a kink or fetish, or engage in BDSM? BDSM, or Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism, is often sensationalized in the media, or portrayed without crucial information. Engaging in healthy BDSM experiences requires consent, contracting, communication, and trust with the inclusion of respect for all parties involved. Join April and Danielle as they explore what healthy BDSM play looks like. 

During the discussion, April and Danielle unpack the ways in which BDSM is different from abusive relationships and this can be activating for some. Please take care of yourself, listen to your body and turn off the episode, if needed. 

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for support. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April and Danielle as they converse with Sophomore Reese Villella about Good Sex. Reese (she/her) is majoring in Film Theory/Business at Gallatin with a minor in the Business of Entertainment, Media, and Technology. She is the Co-Marketing Manager for Planned Parenthood Generation Action at NYU and the Pledge Education Secretary and Marketing Manager for Delta Kappa Alpha, NYU’s gender-inclusive cinematic fraternity. Reese recently published a poetry collection titled, "Piles of Cherry Pits," which is now available on Amazon.

In this interview, Reese shares her experience at an all girls boarding school, how her parents' divorce influenced her younger self when thinking about romantic relationships, and explains why she feels we should all be thinking more about menstrual justice. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today.

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Mood, stress, anxiety, and countless other barriers prevent us from being in the frame of mind to experience pleasure. Our brain is our largest sex organ; parts of it light up when we experience pleasure. If we want to engage in pleasure, we have to tune into our bodies and minds. Join April and Danielle as they explore how our mental health and pleasure are intimately connected.

At times the discussion turns to the challenges we experience in our mental health journey, including sexual and relationship harm and these topics can be activating for some. Please take care of yourself, listen to your body and turn off the episode, if needed.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April and Danielle as they engage in conversation with Courtney Patterson, Reference Associate at Dibner Library at Tandon School of Engineering. Courtney has a dual degree from Howard University in journalism and public relations, with a minor in theater arts. Courtney was formerly a library assistant at Columbia University, and began working at Dibner in February 2020. Courtney worked at Planned Parenthood and this experience sparked an interest for her in these conversations about sex and highlighted the many obstacles people have to go through to obtain reproductive healthcare.

In the interview, Courtney talks about a number of myths and norms that she has encountered and how they have impacted her journey. During the discussion, Courtney shares her passion finding her own way of doing things and how being an aerialist keeps her grounded. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today.

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help.
- NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services
- For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988 from any phone in the U.S.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Thank you to everyone who has been tuning in to Good Sex @NYU. It is winter break at NYU and we hope everyone gets a chance to rest. We are taking a break too. The Good Sex @NYU podcast team has decided to re-release some of our favorite episodes from fall semester. We hope you enjoy listening to these episodes for the first time, if you missed the initial release, or listening to them again and possibly hearing new insights you missed the first time around. We will continue our first season with new episodes in a couple of weeks.

Join April & Danielle as they engage in conversation with Ra Ra Rollins. Ra Ra is a Student Advocacy Specialist in the Office of Student Affairs at Tandon.  He is also a graduate of Steinhardt with a Master's Degree in Counseling for Mental Health and Wellness. As a mental health clinician, Ra Ra prioritizes BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ clients and celebrates those with intersectional identities.  In this interview, we discuss first crushes, the struggle to obtain factual information when sex and sexuality are not discussed at home or in school, and the importance of finding a medical and mental health provider that you trust. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today.  Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help. - NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services - For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988 from any phone in the U.S.  For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Thank you to everyone who has been tuning in to Good Sex @NYU. It is officially the end of fall semester at NYU and we hope everyone gets a chance to rest. We are going to rest too. The Good Sex @NYU podcast team has decided to re-release some of our favorite episodes from fall semester. We hope you enjoy listening to these episodes for the first time if you missed the initial release or listening to them again and possibly hearing new insights you missed the first time around. We will continue our first season with new episodes in the new year. Happy New Year! 

Ever wonder, "What are the underlying root causes of harm and violence"? Join April and Danielle as they explore how oppression at every level can impact our daily lives, interactions and relationships. If we can be aware of oppressive ideologies, how they are replicated in our institutions and show up in our interpersonal relationships and in our internal lives then we can start to make real change in our communities. We also take a look at what risk factors and protective factors are and steps to be an upstander.  

We talk about various types of harm and violence that can be experienced, including sexual assault and relationship violence. We know this conversation may be difficult for some. Take care of yourself, listen to your body, and turn off the episode, if needed.  

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Thank you to everyone who has been tuning in to Good Sex @NYU. It is officially the end of fall semester at NYU and we hope everyone gets a chance to rest. We are going to rest too. The Good Sex @NYU podcast team has decided to re-release some of our favorite episodes from fall semester. We hope you enjoy listening to these episodes for the first time, if you missed the initial release, or listening to them again and possibly hearing new insights you missed the first time around. We will continue our first season with new episodes in the new year. Happy holidays and happy new year! 

Ever wonder how to set and implement a boundary? It can be complicated and hard to say no to people we like, want to like us or fear will leave if we don't meet all their desires. Join April and Danielle as they discuss the challenges of understanding our own boundaries. We explore different types of boundaries, setting and implementing them and the barriers that get in our way of following through with them. 

At times we discuss the subject of when boundaries don't go well or with someone who doesn't listen our boundaries. This can be activating for some folks. Take care of yourself, listen to your body, and turn off the episode, if needed. 

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April and Danielle as they engage in conversation with Senior Nicole Shiao about Good Sex. Nicole is a student at the College of Art and Science studying anthropology and minoring in chemistry and global public health. Nicole is the president of Asian Fusion Dance club on campus and is the historian. They are also an active member of Delta Epsilon Mu, Alpha Tau Chapter, a pre-health professional co-ed fraternity on campus.

In this interview, Nicole shares their experience working at the NYU Empower Lab which focuses on conducting public health research and advocacy work related to sexual and gender based violence. They also talk about the impact of not talking about sex while growing up and how they have become more open to engaging in these conversations with friends and partners more recently. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today.

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help.

For more show notes and resources, visit:https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

One of the more taboo topics (especially for anyone who isn’t a cisgender man), Danielle and April demystify discussions of masturbation. Join them, as they uncover some of the roots of the shame connected to masturbation, dismantle gender normative assumptions about it, discuss the scientifically proven benefits of it, and share their personal anecdotes about discovering what brought their bodies pleasure growing up. The fact is, many people of all different backgrounds and identities masturbate. So, instead of hiding a natural inclination for personal pleasure, let’s work together to speak frankly and with sex-positive language.

At times, the discussion turns to the challenges of masturbating including how sexual and relationship harm, as well as how we feel about our bodies and our genitals, can impact our ability to engage our bodies, and these topics can be activating for some. Please take care of yourself, listen to your body and turn off the episode, if needed.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help. 

For more show notes and resources, visit:https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April and Danielle as they engage in conversation with Dr. Mel Maldonado-Salcedo professor at NYU's College of Arts and Science and Tandon School of Engineering. Dr. Maldonado-Salcedo is a medical anthropologist, experimental ethnographer and artist.

In this interview, Dr. Maldonado-Salcedo shares about her experience as a professor at her undergrad and graduate school alma mater, how her rebellion against her mom inspired her research, her  journey in a long-term relationship, how the pandemic impacted her physical and mental health, and how she fills in the gaps of information for her students. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today. Find out more about Dr. Maldonado-Salcedo's work on her website.

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help.

For more show notes and resources, visit:https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Most people want healthy relationships but have you considered what makes one  healthy? How about unhealthy or abusive? Most of us learn about relationships from our family, friends, and the media we consume, but we don't have classes about what the term healthy really means and how to implement our #relationshipgoals. Join April and Danielle as they explore the relationship spectrum, the cycles of abuse, and how to support a friend in an abusive situation.

At times, the discussion of relationships turns to unhealthy and abusive characteristics, and this can be activating for some. Please take care of yourself, listen to your body and turn off the episode, if needed.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April and Danielle as they engage in conversation with Junior Gisele Martin about Good Sex. Gisele is a student at the College of Art and Science studying art history as their major and digital design as a minor. Gisele is part of the Student Government Assembly as the Senator-at-Large for Underprivileged Gender Expansive students.

In this interview, Gisele shares about their experience in a polyamory relationship, how their views of sex have changed over time, and how the current political climate in the US has influenced the way they engage with government, legal, and medical systems as a transmasc individual. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today.

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help. 

For more show notes and resources, visit:https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Ever wonder how to set and implement a boundary? It can be complicated and hard to say no to people we like, want to like us or fear will leave if we don't meet all their desires. Join April and Danielle as they discuss the challenges of understanding our own boundaries. We explore different types of boundaries, setting and implementing them and the barriers that get in our way of following through with them. 

At times we discuss the subject of when boundaries don't go well or with someone who doesn't listen our boundaries. This can be activating for some folks. Take care of yourself, listen to your body, and turn off the episode, if needed. 

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April & Danielle as they engage in conversation with Ra Ra Rollins. Ra Ra is a Student Advocacy Specialist in the Office of Student Affairs at Tandon.  He is also a graduate of Steinhardt with a Master's Degree in Counseling for Mental Health and Wellness. As a mental health clinician, Ra Ra prioritizes BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ clients and celebrates those with intersectional identities.

In this interview, we discuss first crushes, the struggle to obtain factual information when sex and sexuality are not discussed at home or in school, and the importance of finding a medical and mental health provider that you trust. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today.

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help.
- NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services
- For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988 from any phone in the U.S.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Have you ever wondered what the difference is between an STD and an STI? Or what causes an STI, which STIs are curable, or when you should be tested for STIs? Did you know  the most common symptom of an STI is no symptoms at all? Join April and Danielle as they explore these questions and more!

Most of us learned about STIs in school as a scare tactic for why we should not have sex. But actually, STIs are quite common, especially among people aged 15 to 24. So, we need to talk about them in a thoughtful, non-frightening way to avoid spreading stigma. 

Yes, being sexual comes with risk but it also can provide physical, emotional, and spiritual benefits. That’s why we want you to have unbiased, factual information to help you decide which risks you are willing to take and which you are not, presently and in the future. 

If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help. Here are some trusted resources:

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April and Danielle as they engage in conversation with actress and Steinhardt Professor Suzy Jane Hunt about Good Sex. Suzy acted in Broadway productions like Dear Evan Hansen, Twelfth Night, and How I learned to Drive. She writes and stars in the show If you Ask Her a one-person show that seeks to create open discussion on topics ranging from sex education and "first times" to sexual assault and rape culture. 

In her interview, we discuss the value of asking someone what they think about their own boundaries and how she got to this point in her sexual and relationship journey. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today. Check out Suzy's website for more information about her work and follow her @swoozyjane on Instagram and follow her play, If You Ask Her, on TikTok @ifyouaskher and Instagram @pussplay_ifyouaskher.

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help.

For more show notes and resources, visit:https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

How can I communicate my desires and needs to my partners? Join April and Danielle as they explore the challenges of communicating in general and when it comes to talking about our wants, desires and boundaries related to pleasure. We explore communication styles, keys to healthy self-expression, blocks to listening, and how to productively navigate conflict.

At times we discuss the subject of when communication doesn't go well or with someone who doesn't listen to what we want and need. This can be activating for some folks. Take care of yourself, listen to your body, and turn off the episode, if needed.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help.

 Let's Talk About Sex workshop for NYU students: call 212-998-4780 or email us at goodsex.podcast@nyu.edu to sign up

For more show notes and resources, visit:https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April and Danielle as they engage in conversation with NYU sophomore Aarna Dixit about Good Sex. Aarna is an activist, writer, speaker and podcast co-host of Dirty Talk. She is currently a double major in Global Liberal Studies and Social and Cultural Analysis. She writes for the Washington Square News and is part of the NYU Student Government Assembly. She gave a TedX Youth Talk on the importance of sexual violence allyships, was a 2020 HERLead Fellow and was featured in Teen Vogue 21 Under 21 List. For more information check out Aarna's website.

In this interview, we discuss the lack of pleasure in current sex ed curriculums, what sexual empowerment is, and several ways that power, priviledge, and oppression impact the ways womxn often engage in sex and relationships. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today.

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Ever wonder, "What are the underlying root causes of harm and violence"? Join April and Danielle as they explore how oppression at every level can impact our daily lives, interactions and relationships. If we can be aware of oppressive ideologies, how they are replicated in our institutions and show up in our interpersonal relationships and in our internal lives then we can start to make real change in our communities. We also take a look at what risk factors and protective factors are and steps to be an upstander.

We talk about various types of harm and violence that can be experienced, including sexual assault and relationship violence. We know this conversation may be difficult for some. Take care of yourself, listen to your body, and turn off the episode, if needed.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Join April and Danielle as they engage in conversation with Global Spiritual Life Associate Director Chelsea Garbel about Good Sex. Chelsea received both of her degrees at NYU and has been working at NYU throughout most of her career. In her interview, we explore the 24-hour rule and talk sex and spirituality. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today. 
Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help.
- NYU Students: Contact the Wellness Exchange at 212-443-9999 or chat using their app and/or Sexual & Relationship Respect Services 
- For everyone: Contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988 from any phone in the U.S.

For more show notes and resources, visit:https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

What is Good Sex @ NYU?! Or maybe you’re secretly wondering what is good sex…period. 

These questions are real and we’re excited to lighten the load of shame or embarrassment that tends to surround the topic with “Good Sex @NYU," a new podcast created by the NYU Student Health Center and Sexual and Relationship Respect Services.

We aim to destigmatize conversations around sex and relationships while providing practical information to NYU students and our community. From stories of pleasure to compassionate insights, you’ll hear NYU community members discuss how they feel about their sexual journey, helpful information on the stigma around sex, education, and so much more! 

So, if you’re looking for sometimes serious, sometimes funny, always sex-positive discussions, join Danielle Elleman and April Fellers in a Good Sex @ NYU experience.

We will release episodes every Monday. Before you forget, follow or subscribe to Good Sex @NYU so you will see the show as soon as it is released.   

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help. 

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Connect with us: https://www.instagram.com/hello_hpo/

Join April and Danielle as they engage in conversation with Dr. Jason Pina about Good Sex. Jason is the Vice President for University Life and Global Engagement. He joined the NYU community in the midst of the COVID-19 Pandemic. In this episode, Dr. Pina shares stories about his first crush, talking to his children about sex, what good sex means to him, and insights into his more than 35 year relationship. The conversation might make you laugh, might make you feel less alone, and will hopefully make you think about how your own journey influences you today. 

Resources: If you are activated by any of the content of this episode, we encourage you to reach out for help.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html

Welcome to Good Sex @NYU! Join us for our inaugural episode to learn more about co-hosts April & Danielle, our passion for this topic, and why we think this conversation is so important for the NYU community. We also share about the podcast structure and what you can expect from us each week, as well as a sneak peak about future content.

We end the episode with a discussion about emergency department experiences for someone who chooses to seek medical treatment after experiencing a sexual assault or relationship violence. We know this conversation may be difficult for some. Take care of yourself, listen to your body, and turn off the episode, if needed.

If you or someone you know has experienced a sexual assault or relationship violence, we encourage you to reach out for help.

For more show notes and resources, visit: https://www.nyu.edu/students/health-and-wellness/services/healthy-living/good-sex-at-nyu.html